Teasing vs. getting physical

[Anonymous]

OP, jeeze! You seem so much more concerned about labels rather than keeping your kids safe! I don't get your priorities.

[Anonymous]

Sticks and stones.

Really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this such a conundrum? Tell the twins to keep their friggin mouths shut and no one will squeeze the crap out of them. Problem solved.

No kidding. Clearly OP is a dumbass.

[Anonymous]

OP -

Your kids are asking for trouble, and choosing to pick on kids (KIDS) who cannot respond verbally.

They get what's coming.

Certainly the other children have some maturing to do, but since they aren't mature and your kids are exploiting them, I have little sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Is OP a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your kids are the bullies. They are starting it and the other kid is finishing it. And for what its worth, since your kids are starting it, I think the other kid is justified to stand up and not take the abuse, even if that mean hitting.

OP here..I think that is essentially the other mother's position and I think she is wrong. My child COULD NOT BREATHE. He has been squeezed many, many times and the other kid will not let up. he has had his face pushed and held in the snow. The other kid has an anger problem. The other kid is also aDhd.

My kids aren't angry kids. They are nice kids. They never physically attack anyone. One is a ham; a class clown. he is not mean. he is quick witted and funny. So what if he teases. He should not be physically abused because he teases. If the other kid doesn't want to play with him, walk away.

If your kid could not breathe, then maybe next time he won't tease and he will have learned a lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice...if you don't want your pipsqueak twins to get their asses kicked tell em to watch who they mouth off to.

Lol, I agree.

[Anonymous]

OP, does your school have a school counselor for the kids? If so, can he or she have a short sit down with your kids and the other kids to talk about what is happening on the playground?

Kids should keep their hands to themselves - he other kids should not squeeze your son. Kids should be kind or at least respectful of others - your kids should not intentionally disrupt their game.

From what you have said, your kids are not being bullied. The other kids are not seeking out your kid or kids and teasing them or beating on them or excluding them.

Your story has changed in the course of this thread, probably in part because you are only getting part of the story. You might want to see if you can get a better feel for what is going on - ask the boys' teachers, any adult on the playground, etc. Then you might have a better feel for what can and needs to be done.

BTW, you have a common and outmoded view of teasing. Kids do it but that does not make it right. Words do hurt. Your kids may be picking up on your attitude and trying it out for size on the playground. If so, they are being unkind. Is that OK?

[Anonymous]

Private school must have a seriously shitty budget if the sole playground entertainment is sticks and stones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private school must have a seriously shitty budget if the sole playground entertainment is sticks and stones.

Actually it sounds like a pretty creative game. Much better developmentally than playing with something that tells you what to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...I have found out more information and now I do think the other two boys are the bullies.

I hope this doesn't give away who were all are..but apparently the issue is that at recess, the other boys are collecting stones and sticks and put them in a certain area they call The Trading Post. There are two main boys doing this (including the squeezer)..my kids are with a group of 4 boys who "raid" the trading post and take some of the sticks and stone. Then the two boys chase them and get furious and shove and squeeze them.

My boys say they never do any name calling. The "teasing" is simply raiding the fort. In fact, the squeezer has started calling one of my twins "Mr. Boob" so he is the name caller not vice versa.

Don't believe me, but honestly, my kids can be teasing but they are in no way,shape or form bullies. It is the other two boys (who are big strong kids) who are sent to the office on a regular basis for getting too physical and/or starting fights. One of my kids has never been sent to the office (he is very easy going) and the other has been sent for "class clown" behavior.

Anyhow, my position now is that my kids are the ones being bullied. They got very upset with me today for complaining to the principal and now they are downplaying how much the other kids have shoved, pushed and hurt them.

My point is - bottom line - kids should keep their hands to themselves at school and on playground. I have raised my kids right on one respect - they never physically injure anyone. Sure, they tease, but no worse than the other kids.

Your kids are not being bullied. They are not being sought out and tormented.

Look, again, once more, I repeat, it's not right that those boys got physical. That is completely unacceptable, and they need to stop.

And, in addition, you have an opportunity to teach your sons not to tease. Yes, even if they don't tease any more than the other kids. Teach them to be leaders. Disrupting the Trading Post game is not cool. They need to knock it off.

[Anonymous]

Better tell those twins to shit up or next time they think they're being funny someone will take a stick upside their head.

Or a stone.

[Anonymous]

Holy hell.

[Anonymous]

my kids are with a group of 4 boys who "raid" the trading post and take some of the sticks and stone. Then the two boys chase them and get furious and shove and squeeze them.

So... is raiding the trading post part of the game? Or are these four kids intentionally messing with the game?

If the four kids are messing with someone else's game then the teachers need to be on THEM.

Why can you not admit that your kids are being PITA's?

[Anonymous]

OP here...I think the "raiding" is part of the game in a way.

the two big kids also guard a certain piece of playground equipment and tell the other kids they can't use it so my kids try to use it.

I think what is happening is that the two big kids are being controlling jerks so the 4 other kids bug them in return.

I don't know...I think we may all sit down and talk about. the mother of the other kids who is being squeezed is concerned..and she asked her son, what exactly are you all doing to "tease" that is bugging the two big boys and her son was at a loss to think of anything besides "raiding" the fort...so she told me, Stand your ground on the teasing thing..Do not concede that your kids are actually doing any teasing because we have no evidence that they are actually doing any teasing..