Wouldn't you have called the mom?

[Anonymous]

When I first read the thread, I thought no, I would have done exactly what that mom did. However, upon pondering it for a bit, I do think I would call. It wouldn't be a panicky call, just a factual call, "X" fell off the zipline and got hurt, but as far as we can tell it's nothing serious and they asked to go back and play. Is there anything else you want us to do or just let them have fun?

My main reason for doing that would be to one, not seem like I am trying to cover up anything that happened. Two, give the parent a chance to make a decision and make them feel comfortable that we will respect their wishes on how to handle it. Three, you never know each and every kids medical situation and something that seems innocuous and routine to you and even the child, may have larger consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Maybe I was just upset initially, more about the fall than the lack of phone call.

Last night she took a shower, refused her snack, took the long nap and again refused her dinner saying she didn't feel good. Then she told me she hit her head. OMG I never would have let her nap after hitting her head. but I guess it's just as well she did nap. I had asked her at the neighbor's house if she hit her head and she said NO. Now she says it all happened so fast she doesn't know what she hit.

This past week has been a complete overload with camp/school ending. I guess playing in the heat wore her out. Fortunately, she felt well enough today to go to the pool with her big brother. Her appetite is back. She hasn't complained about anything today except her back is still sore. She said the zip line is 12 feet high but I don't know if that is a fact or not. If she was told that, then it probably is. She is kinda smallish and weighs 48 lbs. Not a big girl at all.

Mom of daredevil again. It wouldn't hurt to have her looked at for a mild concussion. You don't have to have a direct hit to the head for one to occur. The treatment is brain rest until symptom free, though, and that's just what you did. The heat could also be a contributing factor to feeling generally crummy and extra tired.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have called if a 9 year old said no.

You said she was bored, but even after she fell she didn't want you called.

I would have her checked out given the sleepiness, etc. But no, I wouldn't have expected a call at the time.

[Anonymous]

Let us know how she's doing after the pool, OP. I'm concerned about the naps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let us know how she's doing after the pool, OP. I'm concerned about the naps.

Contrary to very popular opinion, allowing a child to take a nap after hitting his/her head IS okay. You just want to check on them every so often.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm happy to say the Mom called me this about an hour ago to say she couldn't sleep all night because she was worried about my daughter. She seemed genuinely worried and said they had taken down the zip line and will reconfigure it later. She said there were too many children and not enough supervision yesterday and she felt terrible about my daughter's fall. I assured her she was fine and how much I appreciated her call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm happy to say the Mom called me this about an hour ago to say she couldn't sleep all night because she was worried about my daughter. She seemed genuinely worried and said they had taken down the zip line and will reconfigure it later. She said there were too many children and not enough supervision yesterday and she felt terrible about my daughter's fall. I assured her she was fine and how much I appreciated her call.

Oh please stop. The other mother - knowing what an overprotective spaz you are - got worried that you would try to sue (as at least one person on this thread recommended!) and thought she'd better make a point of letting you know she was *REALLY CONCERNED* and even took down the zipline.

So what, now, you think your daughter is absolutely fine? Sounds like once you got the sincere apology you thought you needed, suddenly everything is just fine. I bet the other mother saw this thread and realized she needed to try to placate you.

[Anonymous]

Attorney here -- would have called -- delayed back and potential head injury and no one capable of making a medical judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm happy to say the Mom called me this about an hour ago to say she couldn't sleep all night because she was worried about my daughter. She seemed genuinely worried and said they had taken down the zip line and will reconfigure it later. She said there were too many children and not enough supervision yesterday and she felt terrible about my daughter's fall. I assured her she was fine and how much I appreciated her call.

... as I said before -- they did not have a clue what really happened. Its when they add ".... I think it scared them more than anything..." is when you know they are worried about not knowing what happened. Then one guilty mom called you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm happy to say the Mom called me this about an hour ago to say she couldn't sleep all night because she was worried about my daughter. She seemed genuinely worried and said they had taken down the zip line and will reconfigure it later. She said there were too many children and not enough supervision yesterday and she felt terrible about my daughter's fall. I assured her she was fine and how much I appreciated her call.

Bullshit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

I really don't know. I said "Where is the zip line?" and mom said -over there. I couldn't see it as there were a lot of play structures in the woods and I was trying to pull up her cover up- she had on her swim suit- to see if there were any marks on her. I doubt it was really high but the minute I heard zip line I think I saw National Geographic specials with zip lines over canyons or something.

What??? You totally are an over-reactor over a lot of things, aren't you, lady? We grew up with a zipline that was about 5 feet off the ground, and it swooped down lower and lower towards the middle so that you'd have to be walking over that part of the area, and then get your momentum going again.

It was a joke. Lighten up!!

Yeah, while you were pulling up her cover up to see if she had marks on her? Come on, you really over-reacted over this whole situation: the scoping out water and shade (???), the offer to stay (for a 9yo?????), the ability to be there "in three minutes," etc. You need to develop more of your own life so you don't worry over obsessive little things so much, and make your child into a worry-wart now too (she "refused her snack," "refused her dinner saying she didn't feel good [sic]," said the party was hot and boring, etc.). You are making your own child into a nervous nelly who cannot just relax and have fun with the rest of the kids.

Good lord, you need to calm the heck down. NP here but you sound like a psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should have called you, she fell from a zip line on her back. I wouldn't trust my DC with any of the pp who think you are overreacting. Backs are fragile, she may need a MRI. Any permanent damage can be covered by her homeowners insurance.

OP, I agree with this post. Also, I would have expected the mom to ask you when dropping off your DD if you were okay with her using the zipline. Seriously, I would have never let my child use one of those things without seeing how high it was or the quality of construction.

Never doubt yourself, OP, no matter if other DCUMers call you crazy or overprotective.

[Anonymous]

Chill out helicopter wackadoo

[Anonymous]

Is she feeling better, OP?

[Anonymous]

If she had a concussion and she/you do not/did not take the proper steps to deal with it, it will take longer for her to recover and it may have some lasting effects. Not meant to scare you but every parent should know how concussions are handed - and how they are handled is to rest the brain - to not stimulate the brain. No reading, no watching television. Life should not be going-on as normal - that is not the way to recover from a concussion.