Wouldn't you have called the mom?

[Anonymous]

Mother of a daredevil here. Nope, wouldn't have expected a call, or called unless a child seemed genuinely hurt, or overly upset. As the parent of a daredevil, I've had to learn to both listen well and question well about injuries, and trust my kid to self-assess to an age appropriate degree.

[Anonymous]

I understand where you are coming from OP, and I would have been upset too. My dd was recently at a gym daycare, and she hit her head while playing there. The daycare lady didn't mention it until we picked up dd. However, dd was hurt enough that hours later, her head still hurt. We had her stay home the next day with no tv or video games to recover. When I called to ask about it, they said they don't want to bother the parents in their classes. I will never trust that daycare again. I should be the one to judge the seriousness of an injury and not the daycare lady or the mom at the party.

[Anonymous]

For the life of me I can't understand why answering the question "do you want me to stay?' with "No we're fine," is at all problematic. Most moms want to leave and use the time for themselves. These are 9 year-olds, not toddlers. And if a parent asked me "do you want me to stay," I would interpret that as "I would like to leave, is that OK?" I mean, if you want to stay, say so. "Mind if I stay?" And if you aren't explicit like that, you can't blame the mom for not reading minds.

And why do you put party in quotation mats -- "party"? You seem to be saying this wasn't a legitimate party. Why? Because your daughter was hot and bored? It wasn't so overwhelmingly hot that they couldn't play outside for less than an hour and a half -- there was shade and water. And if she was bored, thats too bad, but it hardly means it was not a real party.

You sound over protective. Checking to make sure there's sufficient water before leaving your daughter off for less than an hour and a half, wanting to stay, over reacting to her fall.

[Anonymous]

take her to chiropractor. back injuries should not be left unchecked.

my 5yo fell off the bed at night landed on the hard wood floor. we took her to chiro. It turned out she really busted her lower back during the fall. after 2 chiro visits she was back to normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:take her to chiropractor. back injuries should not be left unchecked.

my 5yo fell off the bed at night landed on the hard wood floor. we took her to chiro. It turned out she really busted her lower back during the fall. after 2 chiro visits she was back to normal.

Is that what the chiropractor told you? What a crock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not focus on whether the mom called you. I would be concerned if my kid fell asleep after a head injury, as that is a sign of concussion. If I were you, i would bring my kid to the doctor to evaluate for concussion. My kid did have a mild concussion after being hit with a softball, and the main symptom was the fact that he fell asleep an hour or two after the accident. Required cognitive rest. I would absolutely get it checked out.

+1 the party was unusually short (that plus the shade and water issue made me wonder if this post was for real, actually). If this happened at my home and the girl said she was fine and not to call her mom, then I would keep an eye on her and make sure she was comfortable, then report the incident to her mom at the end of the party. If she was to be in my care for the day or for hours them I would call the mom just to let her know, especially if the girl was still in some pain.

But the main issue is that you can't necessarily trust the account of the host - your DD may have hit her head. If your DD is sleeping a lot or exhibiting signs of a concussion then i would take her to the doctor, especially if she fell from some height.

The fact that you mentioned you checked for shade and water for a very short party has discredited you with this crowd, because your DD is nine, not 2-3. But I would forget about whether or not you got a call and focus on how your DD is doing today and if she needs to see the doctor.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Maybe I was just upset initially, more about the fall than the lack of phone call.

Last night she took a shower, refused her snack, took the long nap and again refused her dinner saying she didn't feel good. Then she told me she hit her head. OMG I never would have let her nap after hitting her head. but I guess it's just as well she did nap. I had asked her at the neighbor's house if she hit her head and she said NO. Now she says it all happened so fast she doesn't know what she hit.

This past week has been a complete overload with camp/school ending. I guess playing in the heat wore her out. Fortunately, she felt well enough today to go to the pool with her big brother. Her appetite is back. She hasn't complained about anything today except her back is still sore. She said the zip line is 12 feet high but I don't know if that is a fact or not. If she was told that, then it probably is. She is kinda smallish and weighs 48 lbs. Not a big girl at all.

[Anonymous]

And I was NOT upset they didn't invite me to stay. That has nothing to do with how I feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

I really don't know. I said "Where is the zip line?" and mom said -over there. I couldn't see it as there were a lot of play structures in the woods and I was trying to pull up her cover up- she had on her swim suit- to see if there were any marks on her. I doubt it was really high but the minute I heard zip line I think I saw National Geographic specials with zip lines over canyons or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

I really don't know. I said "Where is the zip line?" and mom said -over there. I couldn't see it as there were a lot of play structures in the woods and I was trying to pull up her cover up- she had on her swim suit- to see if there were any marks on her. I doubt it was really high but the minute I heard zip line I think I saw National Geographic specials with zip lines over canyons or something.

What??? You totally are an over-reactor over a lot of things, aren't you, lady? We grew up with a zipline that was about 5 feet off the ground, and it swooped down lower and lower towards the middle so that you'd have to be walking over that part of the area, and then get your momentum going again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

I really don't know. I said "Where is the zip line?" and mom said -over there. I couldn't see it as there were a lot of play structures in the woods and I was trying to pull up her cover up- she had on her swim suit- to see if there were any marks on her. I doubt it was really high but the minute I heard zip line I think I saw National Geographic specials with zip lines over canyons or something.

What??? You totally are an over-reactor over a lot of things, aren't you, lady? We grew up with a zipline that was about 5 feet off the ground, and it swooped down lower and lower towards the middle so that you'd have to be walking over that part of the area, and then get your momentum going again.

It was a joke. Lighten up!!

[Anonymous]

I would not have called. A 9 year old is old enough to know if she needs to call mom, and the mom offered.

[Anonymous]

Having read your last post, I would watch her closely. If she truly hasn't napped since she was a baby and yesterday she napped twice and didn't eat, I would be concerned about a concussion. Glad to hear she feels better today, but keep a close eye. One more unusual nap or refusal of food and I would being her to the doctor. I might even call the doc just to let them know what's going on (including the fact that she seems better today). I am not being a helicopter parent (and I still don't fault the host for not calling you) but if there is a is a possibility she hit her head then you need to monitor her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

I really don't know. I said "Where is the zip line?" and mom said -over there. I couldn't see it as there were a lot of play structures in the woods and I was trying to pull up her cover up- she had on her swim suit- to see if there were any marks on her. I doubt it was really high but the minute I heard zip line I think I saw National Geographic specials with zip lines over canyons or something.

What??? You totally are an over-reactor over a lot of things, aren't you, lady? We grew up with a zipline that was about 5 feet off the ground, and it swooped down lower and lower towards the middle so that you'd have to be walking over that part of the area, and then get your momentum going again.

It was a joke. Lighten up!!

Yeah, while you were pulling up her cover up to see if she had marks on her? Come on, you really over-reacted over this whole situation: the scoping out water and shade (???), the offer to stay (for a 9yo?????), the ability to be there "in three minutes," etc. You need to develop more of your own life so you don't worry over obsessive little things so much, and make your child into a worry-wart now too (she "refused her snack," "refused her dinner saying she didn't feel good [sic]," said the party was hot and boring, etc.). You are making your own child into a nervous nelly who cannot just relax and have fun with the rest of the kids.

[Anonymous]

I would keep an eye on her but as pp have said, you sound like a worried parent. Was there a reason you had to feel so cautious going in to the party (shade, water, 1.25 stay, "call me if you want to come home")??

Your anxiety can be contagious to DD.