Wouldn't you have called the mom?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't expect a call but I think I would have asked more questions such as if she hit her head, did she seemed disoriented, etc.

[Anonymous]

OP ~ it could have gone either way. It was reasonable not to call you if it was thought your daughter was not hurt. It is also reasonable for you to fear that your daughter was hurt more than was told to you. This will be a continuing occurrence, parents making different judgement calls. It can drive you crazy if you let it. My teen son was a passenger in a fender bender. The teen who was the driver -well, I know the Mom, I see her weekly - she didn't mention it (she knew it happened before I did, didn't mention it)

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are that concerned, you should have stayed, especially if you were only "3 minutes" away. You sound like you are looking for fault, here. Step it up if you want to play that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ~ it could have gone either way. It was reasonable not to call you if it was thought your daughter was not hurt. It is also reasonable for you to fear that your daughter was hurt more than was told to you. This will be a continuing occurrence, parents making different judgement calls. It can drive you crazy if you let it. My teen son was a passenger in a fender bender. The teen who was the driver -well, I know the Mom, I see her weekly - she didn't mention it (she knew it happened before I did, didn't mention it)

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Odd that a party is only 1 hour and 15 minutes long..

I found this odd as well

[Anonymous]

I would definitely NOT have called. Someone falls at every playdate and we have playdates almost every day! Now you are making me paranoid...

[Anonymous]

Well, wait a second. How high up was the zip line?

Yes I would expect to be called if my child took a fall from a very high spot. Yes, kids fall all the time, but they don't all fall from a second story window. So It really depends on what kind of fall she took.

Also -- 1.25 hours? Why specifically 1.25 hours?

[Anonymous]

1.25 hours??

[Anonymous]

I think she was letting you know that it happened in case it acted up that night or when she got up the next morning. Just a friendly heads up.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have called you either.

[Anonymous]

I would not focus on whether the mom called you. I would be concerned if my kid fell asleep after a head injury, as that is a sign of concussion. If I were you, i would bring my kid to the doctor to evaluate for concussion. My kid did have a mild concussion after being hit with a softball, and the main symptom was the fact that he fell asleep an hour or two after the accident. Required cognitive rest. I would absolutely get it checked out.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like there is an underlying issue here that you felt excluded from the get together for some reason. I think that changed your perception of what was going on there.

I myself have six kids in the 5-13 age range. They play rough and very independently at times. Between them and a our friends who are also from big families (yes, there are families with 6, 8 and 10 kids in our neighborhood), all sorts of falls, cuts, scrapes, accidents happen on a daily basis. Sometimes I don't hear about these things until days later. I think if I actually SAW your kid fall, I might (as in, it really could go either way) think to mention it to you when you picked her up. Most likely I would trust that a 9 year old was capable of communicating if something was wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC was invited to a Last Day of School Water Party at a neighbors house this afternoon. I had never been to this home before but I had met the Mom before. I drove DC there, went in the back yard to say Hi to the Mom and saw there were plenty of Moms seated there but asked if she wanted me to stay.."Oh No we are just fine but thanks for bringing DC."
I saw a wooden play structure in the shade, lots of water, reviewed with DC she was to call me if she wanted to come home, otherwise I would pick her up in 1.25 hours.

When I went to pick DC up, the Mom greeted me with "DC X fell off the zip line and hurt her back. I think it scared her more than anything else. I asked her if she wanted me to call her Mom and she said No. She cried for a little bit and then was OK."

Of course she said NO. She was embarrassed to have fallen in front of her friends and she didn't want to be perceived as a baby. She had no red marks or bruises but she was very grumpy, whiny and took a 2 hours nap-something she has not done since she was a baby. She is 9 now.

If a child was hurt at your house wouldn't you have called the Mom?

I would have been there in 3 minutes. I think she is OK but it maddens me I was not called right away. It happened about half hour into the "party". She said she was bored, said it was too hot and that she never wants to go back there again.

I've given her some pain reliever but she is still miserable. She Did not hit her head, just her back.

This is about you and not your child. You felt excluded and were somehow suspicious. Why on Earth would you be asking your DD if she wanted to stay? You were prepared to be upset. The host mom had some of her friend-moms hanging out with her. If I was in her position and a mom asked me if she should stay, I would say the same thing. No, you can leave everything is fine. That is not the same thing as if you said "I want to stay," and she said "no, you can't," although you are clearly perceiving it that way.

By the way, not many moms would have been able to drop everything and be there in 3 minutes. The fact that you sit around waiting for such things is a bad sign. And the fact that you think a mother should call you in this situation is also a bad sign. You are over reacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC was invited to a Last Day of School Water Party at a neighbors house this afternoon. I had never been to this home before but I had met the Mom before. I drove DC there, went in the back yard to say Hi to the Mom and saw there were plenty of Moms seated there but asked if she wanted me to stay.."Oh No we are just fine but thanks for bringing DC."
I saw a wooden play structure in the shade, lots of water, reviewed with DC she was to call me if she wanted to come home, otherwise I would pick her up in 1.25 hours.

When I went to pick DC up, the Mom greeted me with "DC X fell off the zip line and hurt her back. I think it scared her more than anything else. I asked her if she wanted me to call her Mom and she said No. She cried for a little bit and then was OK."
Of course she said NO. She was embarrassed to have fallen in front of her friends and she didn't want to be perceived as a baby. She had no red marks or bruises but she was very grumpy, whiny and took a 2 hours nap-something she has not done since she was a baby. She is 9 now.

If a child was hurt at your house wouldn't you have called the Mom?

I would have been there in 3 minutes. I think she is OK but it maddens me I was not called right away. It happened about half hour into the "party". She said she was bored, said it was too hot and that she never wants to go back there again.
I've given her some pain reliever but she is still miserable. She Did not hit her head, just her back.

When you put it all together it sounds a bit bitchy to me. They could have picked up the phone but they really don't care -- those off hand diagnoses worry me a bit b/c that is what they always say when they have no idea what really happened. I would not be in a rush to leave my DC with these moms again.

[Anonymous]

I think OP and her DD sound a little bit too overly sensitive. Things happen, geez.