Wouldn't you have called the mom?

[Anonymous]

My DC was invited to a Last Day of School Water Party at a neighbors house this afternoon. I had never been to this home before but I had met the Mom before. I drove DC there, went in the back yard to say Hi to the Mom and saw there were plenty of Moms seated there but asked if she wanted me to stay.."Oh No we are just fine but thanks for bringing DC."
I saw a wooden play structure in the shade, lots of water, reviewed with DC she was to call me if she wanted to come home, otherwise I would pick her up in 1.25 hours.

When I went to pick DC up, the Mom greeted me with "DC X fell off the zip line and hurt her back. I think it scared her more than anything else. I asked her if she wanted me to call her Mom and she said No. She cried for a little bit and then was OK."

Of course she said NO. She was embarrassed to have fallen in front of her friends and she didn't want to be perceived as a baby. She had no red marks or bruises but she was very grumpy, whiny and took a 2 hours nap-something she has not done since she was a baby. She is 9 now.

If a child was hurt at your house wouldn't you have called the Mom?

I would have been there in 3 minutes. I think she is OK but it maddens me I was not called right away. It happened about half hour into the "party". She said she was bored, said it was too hot and that she never wants to go back there again.

I've given her some pain reliever but she is still miserable. She Did not hit her head, just her back.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd expect a 9yo to be okay without calling mom.

[Anonymous]

Last day of school party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last day of school party?

Sorry, I should clarify by school it was a summer school enrichment program that the group had been together all summer.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't expect a call for every bump and bruise. If it's something that might call for medical attention, then I would. It doesn't sound like that's the case, and since she didn't hit her head I suspect the napping and such has more to do with being tired from the heat than from bumping her back.

[Anonymous]

Kids fall. Get over it drama queen.

[Anonymous]

I have a preschool age child and I would probably not call the parent of a child who fell but didn't hit her head, had no marks/bruises/cuts and said that she didn't want me to call her mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I'd expect a 9yo to be okay without calling mom.

+1 Chill.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn't have called. Kids fall all of the time. If your 9 year old said no not to call then I would take her word for it.

[Anonymous]

At 9 my child had enough maturity that I would trust her on whether or not I needed to be called in such a case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 9 my child had enough maturity that I would trust her on whether or not I needed to be called in such a case.

+1

[Anonymous]

Is your kid special needs? I can't imagine why you'd think a 9 year old needs to call mom, plus she's in summer school.

[Anonymous]

On the face of it, the host parent did all the right things.

However, this does not rule out a possible back injury, through no fault of this parent. If your DD's back continues to hurt, you should take your DD to the ped. A back injury can be serious.
Gently question your child. Why is she so grumpy about the situation: did something else happen to make her feel bad?

I always feel uncomfortable leaving my 9 nine year old son with an adult and other people I barely know, so I sympathize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No I wouldn't have called. Kids fall all of the time. If your 9 year old said no not to call then I would take her word for it.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

A 4 or 5 year old...yes I would have called or wanted a call
A 9 year old? Not unless she was showing signs of something being wrong.