Unexpected pregnancy in my 40s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Here's the deal: it's not a child. It's a potential child, but it's not a child until well into the pregnancy. Early termination is not killing a child. Learn some basic science.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

+1

I bet there are hundreds of families who would have happily adopted the baby through private adoption because it came from college educated, nondrug using parents rather than the low SES teenager or 20-something whose health history is full of lies, omissions, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Here's the deal: it's not a child. It's a potential child, but it's not a child until well into the pregnancy. Early termination is not killing a child. Learn some basic science.

It's a human being.
Not a rat.
Not a frog.
Not a monkey.
Not a giraffe.
It's a human being.

I don't believe in abortion, the death penalty, or euthanasia because I believe no one gets to decide that another human being dies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

+1

I bet there are hundreds of families who would have happily adopted the baby through private adoption because it came from college educated, nondrug using parents rather than the low SES teenager or 20-something whose health history is full of lies, omissions, etc.

Not PP, new pro-choice poster here.

It doesn't matter if someone would adopt. It can be a huge risk to go through a first pregnancy in your 40s. It's not your right to shame a woman into not having an abortion for an unwanted child. She has the absolute right to avoid placing herself at risk for the complications (including death) of carrying the pregnancy to term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Here's the deal: it's not a child. It's a potential child, but it's not a child until well into the pregnancy. Early termination is not killing a child. Learn some basic science.

It's a human being.
Not a rat.
Not a frog.
Not a monkey.
Not a giraffe.
It's a human being.

I don't believe in abortion, the death penalty, or euthanasia because I believe no one gets to decide that another human being dies.

It's not a human being, it's a clump of cells that might turn into a human being.

P.S. Euthanasia includes CHOOSING FOR YOURSELF to die, which people should have the right to do when they are in pain and have no quality of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Here's the deal: it's not a child. It's a potential child, but it's not a child until well into the pregnancy. Early termination is not killing a child. Learn some basic science.

It's a life. And a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

+1

I bet there are hundreds of families who would have happily adopted the baby through private adoption because it came from college educated, nondrug using parents rather than the low SES teenager or 20-something whose health history is full of lies, omissions, etc.

Not PP, new pro-choice poster here.

It doesn't matter if someone would adopt. It can be a huge risk to go through a first pregnancy in your 40s. It's not your right to shame a woman into not having an abortion for an unwanted child. She has the absolute right to avoid placing herself at risk for the complications (including death) of carrying the pregnancy to term.

It was their third, not first. Try reading.

[Anonymous]

I had my child at 43 and he's a healthy, happy 7 yr old. Wish I would have had another!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Hey look, you have words for it too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

Here's the deal: it's not a child. It's a potential child, but it's not a child until well into the pregnancy. Early termination is not killing a child. Learn some basic science.

It's a life. And a child.

It's a life, and a child, occupying the PP's uterus. Who gets to say what goes on in the PP's uterus? Answer: the PP. Another answer: not you, or anybody else, other than the PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had an unexpected pregnant late in life (45 and 47, and already had two girls, ages 10 & 12) and ultimately ended up terminating the pregnancy because we just weren't in a position to raise a baby. Three years later, with girls about to enter high school and our 50s looming in the horizon, I am VERY glad we made the choice we did.

Omg. There are no words for that.

I have words for it. My words are: I'm glad that OP and her partner were able to make the decision that they considered best for themselves and their family.

My words are killing a a child out of convenience. Lovely people.

+1

I bet there are hundreds of families who would have happily adopted the baby through private adoption because it came from college educated, nondrug using parents rather than the low SES teenager or 20-something whose health history is full of lies, omissions, etc.

I'm sure that there were. That still doesn't obligate the PP to carry the pregnancy to term and give birth. The PP could have done so, if the PP had wanted to do so. The PP evidently didn't.

[Anonymous]

OMG. Pro choices go away please. You are not the one who is making the decision to have or raise the result of this pregnancy. It is very late in life for the husband who is 55 years old and also pretty late for the mom who is 43. It is her decision not yours to make.
The greatest number of abortions in the us are women in their 30s and 40s.
This is not a thread called s/ o pro choice.

[Anonymous]

OP what do you think? How are things going?