NYU for a preppy waspy girl?

[Anonymous]

I am Jewish and have a gay brother. I am not offended by this post. I think I get where OP is coming from. She has admitted in so many words to living in her little bubble and is nervous about daughter suddenly being exposed to a very different environment than to that what she is accustomed.

My own D some 6 years ago wanted to attend a school that is notoriously waspy and I being the overthinking Jewish mother that i am had serious reservations about it being "too waspy" and not Jewish enough. No one attacked me for it, it was just an honest concern.

People, there is enough strife and hate in this world, let's open up and be honest direct conversations about what is on our mind and maybe we can try to understand each other a bit better and perhaps in the process dispel any myths!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Jewish and have a gay brother. I am not offended by this post. I think I get where OP is coming from. She has admitted in so many words to living in her little bubble and is nervous about daughter suddenly being exposed to a very different environment than to that what she is accustomed.

My own D some 6 years ago wanted to attend a school that is notoriously waspy and I being the overthinking Jewish mother that i am had serious reservations about it being "too waspy" and not Jewish enough. No one attacked me for it, it was just an honest concern.

People, there is enough strife and hate in this world, let's open up and be honest direct conversations about what is on our mind and maybe we can try to understand each other a bit better and perhaps in the process dispel any myths!

Well is this is all fine and good...but your post....you neglected to say where your own D ended up....what "too waspy" school did she attend OR did D go to a school with a more heavily Jewish population? This kind a "unwinds" your point doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Where my D went to school has nothing to do with my point. She did not go to the school I referred to if that is your question. She after visiting and spending a weekend there, realized she wanted more of an urban campus (this was rural). It had less to do with the kids there and she is the kind of kid who embraces new experiences and getting to know others different from herself. She certainly got that and more in the city school she ultimately attended. My point was I "got" what the OP was saying though she might not have worded it in the most politically correct fashion.

[Anonymous]

op, where in the dc area do you live that your daughter does not already have a lot of jewish and liberal kids in her classes? and gay, too.

[Anonymous]

So you're worried that between the gays and the Jews, , DD won't find anyone to date? Good. Maybe she'll study and get a career going. Then I'm sure she'll find her perfect Waspy mate.

Seriously, this is a super expensive school. If anything, I'm blown away by the rich, rich international and Asian population at this school, which I haven't even seen mentioned. OP if you've got the money, DD will fit right in.

[Anonymous]

Still hard to believe op is for real.

Really

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Still hard to believe op is for real.

Really

Here I'll try to explain it...

Gay, Jewish, or liberal parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = concerned parent.

Straight, Protestant, or conservative parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = prejudiced homophobe who is probably a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Still hard to believe op is for real.

Really

Here I'll try to explain it...

Gay, Jewish, or liberal parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = concerned parent.

Straight, Protestant, or conservative parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = prejudiced homophobe who is probably a troll.

Exactly! +1

[Anonymous]

My family is Jewish, fiscally conservative and socially liberal on some issues but not all. Our DD shares our views. Most campuses would be too liberal for her/our liking, but she is learning how to make it work while in college. This is what college is about, isn't it?
As for dating, Jews are in a minority in her school, but she found a Jewish young man to date even though there had been plenty of non-Jewish candidates. There was absolutely no pressure from us on this. I am pretty sure a Waspy young woman could find a boyfriend of a background similar to hers as the pool is so much wider... even at GW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish. I love Jews. I love Gays. I love any Christian friends who don't judge me like the Catholic friend I once had who told me she couldn't believe I got my daughter via IVF. That was the end of her. I'm straight and from the Midwest..a Jewish straight Midwesterner. LOL.

But, I don't want my sweet little MD Jewish Girl going to NYU. I went to school on a BIG TEN campus and loved it. NYU is too city and not enough campus.

But that is just me and it's how I picture college.. a big campus, sports, etc. I guess you want what you can relate to.

Funny thread.

+1. Big 10 schools are great. Good academics, a place where anyone can fit in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Still hard to believe op is for real.

Really

Here I'll try to explain it...

Gay, Jewish, or liberal parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = concerned parent.

Straight, Protestant, or conservative parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = prejudiced homophobe who is probably a troll.

[phone]

I dated a Jewish guy in college for many years. About every other week either he or his family would hint or straight out let me know that Jews can only marry Jews. My girlfriends that were Jewish would also have endless conversations about this. I always felt like the outsider. I was called a "shiksa" many times. I never understood this because they were not very religious and I ended up realizing that my BF had a very messed up moral compass. Drugs, cheating, lying, but always felt he was better than me.

[Anonymous]

I hope your daughter finds the right school to get her MRS.

[Anonymous]

I'm conservative and waspy and simply don't think it would be a good fit. I've lived in NY and have friends who attended nyu. The Jewish girls will all pal around together and then the rest of the student body will be other groups that hang out together. Outside of school I mean. She will be limited as to who to date. I doubt they even date at NYU. I think Columbia would be a better fit. Or another urban school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope your daughter finds the right school to get her MRS.

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Truth is this is still very important. Most women do want the security of marriage. I guarantee you most single women in their 30s want a husnand. Going to a school where dating will be easier isn't as pathetic as you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Still hard to believe op is for real.

Really

Here I'll try to explain it...

Gay, Jewish, or liberal parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = concerned parent.

Straight, Protestant, or conservative parents worrying that they're children might not fit in at or enjoy a school with a population significantly different in views, experiences, and culture = prejudiced homophobe who is probably a troll.

[phone]

I dated a Jewish guy in college for many years. About every other week either he or his family would hint or straight out let me know that Jews can only marry Jews. My girlfriends that were Jewish would also have endless conversations about this. I always felt like the outsider. I was called a "shiksa" many times. I never understood this because they were not very religious and I ended up realizing that my BF had a very messed up moral compass. Drugs, cheating, lying, but always felt he was better than me.

Lack of assimilation is undeniable, but it will change in a few generations.