Husband Refusing to Put His Paycheck into Our Joint Account

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

So, your husband pays all the bills, and you just need money for groceries and clothes? Do you pay any of the bills?

I don't pay for anything, although I finally broke down and paid $11,000 in medical bills that were on my CC. I need money for groceries for my child, gas and occasionally buying clothes. My husband has paid for all of this stuff throughout our marriage. Several years ago, we had combined accounts and I never saw where my money went. So, I do not want to share accounts with him. I make $75K/year. DH makes over $100K.

Lady, if you make $75K a year, you should be bying your own gas, groceries and clothes.

This has to be a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, except that I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of kids, etc. Basically, I feel like DH's house slave, so that is why he owes me. He doesn't do anything, or when he does I end up doing it over anyway so why bother to ask him to help. He just screws things up.

Are you from a former Soviet country?

[Anonymous]

14:58 hit the nail on the head. You both sound like children. Grow up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for the poor DH who is stuck with this greedy, recalcitrant bitch. He is probably the reasonable one in this marriage. Why dump on him?

Because he sounds just as greedy. If you're going to have a joint bank account, you can't start questioning your spouse's everyday purchases (unless they are crazy). The two of them both sound like greedy, selfish individuals.

How is the DH selfish and greedy. He is open to putting his paycheck into the JA, but DW needs to the same. As she tells it, he is paying for everything - the mortgage, the kids, the cars. She has said she pays for nothing and doesn't think she should. She is the greedy, selfish bitch.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. You make almost as much as your husband, but you don't contribute to any of the household expenses?? That makes no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

I actually think this might be CL.

[Anonymous]

Gotta be a troll. No one is this blind.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm confused, were you a SAHM, and then you went back to work when the kids started school? Or, have you always worked?

[Anonymous]

Married - 1997. Had kid - 1998. Worked - 1999 - 2001. Graduate School - 2001 - 2003. Worked 2003 - 2008. Moved for DH's job - 2008. Unemployed or partially employed 2008 - 2013. Started working full - time again in 2014.

[Anonymous]

Also worked before kid was born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married - 1997. Had kid - 1998. Worked - 1999 - 2001. Graduate School - 2001 - 2003. Worked 2003 - 2008. Moved for DH's job - 2008. Unemployed or partially employed 2008 - 2013. Started working full - time again in 2014.

So your husband supported you fully for many years and now you won't contribute a cent towards the household. You are a piece of work!

[Anonymous]

For most of our marriage, my DH earned significant more than me. I have a Master's degree from an Ivy League school and would be further along career wise if we didn't have the kid or move for DH's job. I have given up much for this marriage. Why should I have my Ivy degree and also be expected to be housemaid, cook ,laundress, babysitter and chauffeur. His brother's wife has a maid and lawn service. I do our gardening too. DH will mow the lawn. That's about it. I told him I should at least have what other members of his family have - maids, lawn service, etc. He says I can have them if I pay for them. He is such a jerk. I could be like most women, sitting on their fat asses all day. He just does not appreciate how good he has it with me. I am smart, good looking (I work out a lot) and believe me, there are plenty of other men who would line up behind my husband for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For most of our marriage, my DH earned significant more than me. I have a Master's degree from an Ivy League school and would be further along career wise if we didn't have the kid or move for DH's job. I have given up much for this marriage. Why should I have my Ivy degree and also be expected to be housemaid, cook ,laundress, babysitter and chauffeur. His brother's wife has a maid and lawn service. I do our gardening too. DH will mow the lawn. That's about it. I told him I should at least have what other members of his family have - maids, lawn service, etc. He says I can have them if I pay for them. He is such a jerk. I could be like most women, sitting on their fat asses all day. He just does not appreciate how good he has it with me. I am smart, good looking (I work out a lot) and believe me, there are plenty of other men who would line up behind my husband for me.

Still don't get it. You have the money, why don't you pay for them? I would actually seek some psychological counseling if I were you.

[Anonymous]

This has got to be a joke! Seriously!

[Anonymous]

I wish that all of these posters dealing with this sh*t would get an accountant who just deducts what is needed from each spouse's separate accounts.