Husband Refusing to Put His Paycheck into Our Joint Account

[Anonymous]

We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

You never answered why you couldn't use your own money at CVS. Or why you went to CVS when you had no money.

[Anonymous]

Because I am saving all my money for my DC's future. DH does not see it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

So, your husband pays all the bills, and you just need money for groceries and clothes? Do you pay any of the bills?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I am saving all my money for my DC's future. DH does not see it that way.

Are you Indian?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I am saving all my money for my DC's future. DH does not see it that way.

What is your salary?

[Anonymous]

Are you from the Soviet Union?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you from the Soviet Union?

If she was Russian she'd be spending the whole paycheck on sequined clothes.

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you estimate that your DH owes you for all your housework, childcare, driving the kids around, etc.? About $200,000?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you from the Soviet Union?

If she was Russian she'd be spending the whole paycheck on sequined clothes.

This made me spit out some cereal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

So, your husband pays all the bills, and you just need money for groceries and clothes? Do you pay any of the bills?

I don't pay for anything, although I finally broke down and paid $11,000 in medical bills that were on my CC. I need money for groceries for my child, gas and occasionally buying clothes. My husband has paid for all of this stuff throughout our marriage. Several years ago, we had combined accounts and I never saw where my money went. So, I do not want to share accounts with him. I make $75K/year. DH makes over $100K.

[Anonymous]

Oh, except that I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of kids, etc. Basically, I feel like DH's house slave, so that is why he owes me. He doesn't do anything, or when he does I end up doing it over anyway so why bother to ask him to help. He just screws things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had joint accounts until about three years ago. DH started putting his paycheck into a second account, he claims, because on several occasions he claims I took more money out than was needed for things like groceries or clothes and that left him scrambling to pay other bills like utilities. Now he tells me I get what is left over. But since I started working, he is giving me nothing.

So, your husband pays all the bills, and you just need money for groceries and clothes? Do you pay any of the bills?

I don't pay for anything, although I finally broke down and paid $11,000 in medical bills that were on my CC. I need money for groceries for my child, gas and occasionally buying clothes. My husband has paid for all of this stuff throughout our marriage. Several years ago, we had combined accounts and I never saw where my money went. So, I do not want to share accounts with him. I make $75K/year. DH makes over $100K.

You both sound horrible and the marriage sounds doomed. WTF? I'm just glad you found each other and spared two unknowing strangers from having had a relationship with either of you.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for the poor DH who is stuck with this greedy, recalcitrant bitch. He is probably the reasonable one in this marriage. Why dump on him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for the poor DH who is stuck with this greedy, recalcitrant bitch. He is probably the reasonable one in this marriage. Why dump on him?

Because he sounds just as greedy. If you're going to have a joint bank account, you can't start questioning your spouse's everyday purchases (unless they are crazy). The two of them both sound like greedy, selfish individuals.