Husband Refusing to Put His Paycheck into Our Joint Account

[Anonymous]

I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

Ain't shit you can do...live with it.

[Anonymous]

What the hell? I'm a woman, but your logic is a little off. You want him to deposit his check, you need to do the same. If you don't trust him with money, divide the bills and have separate accounts. That's the only fair way IMO. Asking him to do something you are not willing to do is hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

Utterly confused. You are angry with your husband for refusing to deposit his paycheck into your joint account. Husband is also angry with you for refusing to put your paycheck into said joint account. ??? Accept that you don't trust each other, close the bank account before you started getting charged fees for not funding the account and maintain separate accounts.

P.S. Your husband might be funding his girlfriend. Is he a mental health expert witness?

[Anonymous]

I would advise divorce in your f'd up situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Utterly confused. You are angry with your husband for refusing to deposit his paycheck into your joint account. Husband is also angry with you for refusing to put your paycheck into said joint account. ??? Accept that you don't trust each other, close the bank account before you started getting charged fees for not funding the account and maintain separate accounts.

P.S. Your husband might be funding his girlfriend. Is he a mental health expert witness?

Hilarious!

[Anonymous]

Hilarious!

+100!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

Is he a child? I'm confused. He probably doesn't appreciate being told what to do as if he is in 4th grade. You need to work on communication. And probably plan for your eventual divorce, from the sounds of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Hilarious!

+100!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

Is he a child? I'm confused. He probably doesn't appreciate being told what to do as if he is in 4th grade. You need to work on communication. And probably plan for your eventual divorce, from the sounds of it.

Sounds to me like she is making a nest egg while wanting to spend his money for exactly that reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

Is he a child? I'm confused. He probably doesn't appreciate being told what to do as if he is in 4th grade. You need to work on communication. And probably plan for your eventual divorce, from the sounds of it.

Sounds to me like she is making a nest egg while wanting to spend his money for exactly that reason.

Exactly. And her husband is not the dumb-ass she imagines him to be and can see right through it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell? I'm a woman, but your logic is a little off. You want him to deposit his check, you need to do the same. If you don't trust him with money, divide the bills and have separate accounts. That's the only fair way IMO. Asking him to do something you are not willing to do is hypocritical.

This is what we do. We never fight about money. We fight about a lot of other things, but never about money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

Is he a child? I'm confused. He probably doesn't appreciate being told what to do as if he is in 4th grade. You need to work on communication. And probably plan for your eventual divorce, from the sounds of it.[/quote]

OP, you sound like a great catch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

I have been living with this for 22 years. We aren't bankrupt yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been asking my husband to direct deposit his paycheck into our joint account. He won't do it, he says, unless I deposit mine as well. I told him I do not trust him with money, so no I will not. I need to save mine for whatever eventuality life throws at me. What can I do if he will not do as I ask?

There's an eventuality here, but I don't think life threw it at you. You sought it out.

If you don't have kids, get out. If you do, there's lots of work to be done to help both of you repair this mess.