Responsibilities of Adult Step Parent

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Anonymous wrote:If you are as thick headed with your step kids as you are on this site, your problem will never resolve.

I agree. If you can't be flexible about a restaurant choice, there is no hope.

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[Anonymous]

I got food poisoning from one of my DH's favorite restaurants. Even driving by the restaurant makes me sick to my stomach. My DH would never expect me to go there. Never. Even if your SD didn't get food poisoning from there, but she thinks she did (sometimes you don't know the cause), then she has a really valid concern.

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but the bride's parents pay for (or at least most of) the wedding. You contributed $1000? Really? That seems cheap to me. Unless finances were an issue. If you and her mom wanted to "host" the wedding, then your "contribution" was a joke.

I have a step-mother. It wasn't always easy, but lately we have both made a real effort to see one another and to spend time together. I see the good in her and she sees the good in me. We have our own strengths and weaknesses. She has a very active social life and is really busy. At first I was frustrated that she wasn't free when our kids wanted her to go to things (like weekend mornings), so we had a frank and honest discussion. Now we understand her schedule and she understands ours and we COMPROMISE. For things that are really important to my kids, she'll make an effort to be there. For things that are important to her (like lightbulbs in areas that she can't reach), we make an effort to be there.

At the end of the day, you know what this means - it means that my children have three grandmas. And that is the best "gift" of all. They love their step-grandma, and the joy of seeing the three of them together makes us want to work it out.

You sound bitter. You married into a family. Deal with it like a grown up. You might actually find that you get something out of it. So stop complaining and go spend some time with the grandkids. That doesn't mean babysitting. It means go to their house (when convenient for everyone) and lie on the floor playing fireman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We made a decision to limit spending to about $300 total between the two families birthday's/ Christmas.

So for 8 family members you spent $300 total, covering two occasions? Even if $300 was just supposed to cover Christmas that's about $37 per person you spent. That's nothing to brag about.

Look, if you're not a troll then you're an asshole. If the girls are entitled, then it's because they were raised that way. Blame your new wife. You sound very cold and like all you pay attention to is money and material things. If my mother married you I would not like you either.

Their mother feels the same way I do. I completely agree we shouldn't be focusing on material things. They should just come over and enjoy our company and help out when needed.

I know you're just a bored housewife in real life but this is funny. Thank you for the laugh!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made a decision to limit spending to about $300 total between the two families birthday's/ Christmas.

So for 8 family members you spent $300 total, covering two occasions? Even if $300 was just supposed to cover Christmas that's about $37 per person you spent. That's nothing to brag about.

Look, if you're not a troll then you're an asshole. If the girls are entitled, then it's because they were raised that way. Blame your new wife. You sound very cold and like all you pay attention to is money and material things. If my mother married you I would not like you either.

We don't always get the grandkids birthday gifts. The parents throw huge parties and the kids get so much anyway. Beside whatever we did would not be enough for them.

Seriously, this is why smart women shouldn't quit their jobs an stay at home. No outlet to use their brains, so creating posts and answers like these. Please - get a real job - maybe one that involves writing (not a mommy blog!!). This is fun though....