Had an actual fight with DH about Gisele Bundchen

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Anonymous wrote:It's a beautiful pic. Not seeing the smugness

If you know all the rest of her comments you would understand her smugness. She's said some pretty high and mighty stuff about parenting. The photo itself not so bad. But when you put it all together she kind of sucks and isn't very supportive of any other choices than her own...which are right of course.

+1 I cancelled my subscription to Vogue several years ago because they had this awful profile of Gisele after she had her first baby in which she said all she had to do was "a little bit of yoga" and the pregnancy weight just melted off of her!!! This profile was paired with photos of Gisele looking as though she had never had a baby at all. I was 2 months post-partum at this point and the pounds were not coming off with "a little bit of yoga." I understand that some people are genetically blessed and it is easy for them to lose the baby weight, but the entire tone of the profile was smug and snotty, and had the tone of "I don't understand why this is so hard for some people" without any acknowledge that a) yes, it is hard, ok, lady? b) the fact that she probably had a personal trainer, personal yoga teacher, cook, etc.

Women of child-bearing age still subscribe to Vogue?

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Anonymous wrote:You saw your husband looking at a gorgeous woman, criticized her, and he defended her. Of course you're jealous. And your DH is a bit insensitive, but at least you own up to your jealousy. Nobody would find Gisele (and Gwyneth) irritating if they were ugly.

I can separate looks from personality. Gisele is gorgeous and I'd kill for her body. Gwyneth is not my type at all, but I can see why people find her attractive. They still shove their perfectly manicured foot in their mouths more than they should, and alienate women. Men don't care because they aren't birthing children, breastfeeding or trying to lose baby weight.

Men didn't particularly like it when a video overheard her saying something like "My husband can't fucking throw and catch it", basically bashing the WR's and blaming them for a loss.

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You sound incredibly over sensitive and even paranoid. Your DH didn't tell you you didn't care about your kids because you didn't BF as long as Giselle. He said it must be important to her. Your justification of why you didn't go longer just makes you sound jealous and insecure.

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You both sound like ditzes. You deserve each other.

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You sound incredibly over sensitive and even paranoid. Your DH didn't tell you you didn't care about your kids because you didn't BF as long as Giselle. He said it must be important to her. Your justification of why you didn't go longer just makes you sound jealous and insecure.

Jealous and insecure - check and check. Am I seriously expected not to feel envy towards a gorgeous, rich woman who seems to have it all at least on the surface? This got moved from the General Parenting post and turned more into a relationship issue than I intended, but I am enjoying reading the responses

The fight with DH wasn't the problem - it was a silly fight and I do think he should be more sensitive on this subject, but it is not the end of the world. I just felt the picture plays into my own insecurities and sensitivity on the subject and was curious if others felt the same.

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I think some of you are forgetting that she gets paid to be perfect. She is perfect-looking woman in Hollywood, she has the perfect guy, perfect births and babies, and she is trying to keep up the facade that all is...well, perfect. Not to say that her marriage and motherhood are stressors, but people who tend to make judgmental remarks are battling their own demons. I personally wouldn't care to live in a bubble where a bad hair day or an imperfect picture of me would be relished by so many.

And I say this as a proud home birthing, long term BFing, working mom who was even slimmer post pregnancy.

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That picture looks like a nightmare! Everyone poking and prodding at your body, no one actually talking to you....

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Your husband sounds like a total a'hole. If he cared so much about breast feeding, then he would have a job where he could have supported your staying at home to do so. Seriously, what a total a'ole. Sorry OP.

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Most moms would kill for some of that "multitasking" plus she's already completely made up and the hair, nail and make up people all match... staged much? I just attempted to pull my shirt off after the baby puked all over me while trying to still keep her upright so she wouldn't throw up again. Now that's multitasking. Gisele can bite me

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Gisele looks like a horse

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I don't really feel like the picture "promotes breastfeeding." If anything, it makes BFing look less accessible - something you do while your team of people takes care of the actual work. And it is chutzpah for her to call it multitasking. She's sitting on her ass doing exactly one task. For most women, "multitasking" truly means doing ten things at once and all alone.

There have been a few comments on here criticizing the OP for feeling insecure about BFing. But Gisele's comment that we should enforce 6 months of BFing by law (!!) is exactly why the OP feels insecure. I don't care how many pretty pictures she posts of her baby on her boob. Anyone who says something like that is no friend to working mothers. Someone who is so wealthy that she never has to make a tradeoff ever in her life has no place telling the rest of us what to do.

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Anonymous wrote:She IS annoying. And your DH is a jerk for judging you on how long you breastfed. I say this as someone who did nurse my kids past a year. I did it because, for me, it was easy and great, even though it sucked to pump at work. I harbor no illusions that it is easy for everyone.

Well, the OP is projecting a lot onto her DH. Her DH did NOT judge her! OP said that "I think DH believes I didn't try hard enough." I suspect that has some guilt about it and is overly sensitive about the subject. She is projecting that onto her DH.

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Your husband sounds like a total a'hole. If he cared so much about breast feeding, then he would have a job where he could have supported your staying at home to do so. Seriously, what a total a'ole. Sorry OP.

Look in the mirror.

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I'm sure your feelings about your DH's comment is legitimate, even if difficult to verbalize. I would just ask him to be more like Tom brady and have the ability ro provide for you so you didn't have to pump and work. I realize Giselle provides for herself, but the sentiment is the same.

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I had not even seen this pic, but had already formed an opinion that she is smug. I remember reading an interview after she had her first baby, and it definitely gave me the impression that she thinks she's the perfect mom/stepmom and that all the others are flawed.