Had an actual fight with DH about Gisele Bundchen

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The latest picture posted by Gisele with her breastfeeding her daughter while getting glammed up just rubbed me the wrong way, but to be fair, Gisele B annoys me in general with her smug comments about giving birth and breastfeeding, like she has it all figured out.

So last night I was passing by the TV while the photo was on the news and commented to DH how annoying I find her. DH said he thought she was doing a great thing by promoting BF, and clearly it is very important to her (implying that if a woman didn't still BF with a one year old, she must not have put a high importance on it). From there things really went downhill and of course we ended up fighting about our own issues and not really Gisele - I think nobody should be passing judgement on other moms about how long or if they breastfeed. I myself did it with both kids for about 6 months, but I am a working mom and once I start pumping during the day, my supply goes down and things just come to a natural end pretty quickly.

I think DH believes I didn't try hard enough, and that really upsets me, but it is not why I am posting. I am just curious, does anyone else find that photo irritating? At best, I find it counterproductive if the goal is to promote BF and an attitude of women can have it all, since most of us are not Gisele Bundchen with all her money and glamorous life. At worst, I think it is obnoxiously smug. And yes, I am more than a little jealous

[Anonymous]

Every picture I see of her is impossibly smug.

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(1) I think the photo is awesome for its BF promotion.

(2) At the same time, I agree that she is completely annoying.

(3) Mostly, though, I think the BFing wars are stupid. You tried your hardest and did what worked best for you and your family. She is doing the same thing, but her body/family/baby/financial situation/access to childcare/flexibility that allows her to bring her baby to work is different than yours. So don't beat yourself up. Own your efforts. Own your choice.

[Anonymous]

It's a beautiful pic. Not seeing the smugness

[Anonymous]

I stopped reading after Gisele breast...

[Anonymous]

I think the photo was staged, but I do think it's awesome for promoting BFing.

That said, every person should do what is right for them. OP, I get you on the supply tanking thing, I'm at six months and would love to keep going, but I can just barely pump enough in one day, I've already had to dip into my freezer stash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The latest picture posted by Gisele with her breastfeeding her daughter while getting glammed up just rubbed me the wrong way, but to be fair, Gisele B annoys me in general with her smug comments about giving birth and breastfeeding, like she has it all figured out.

So last night I was passing by the TV while the photo was on the news and commented to DH how annoying I find her. DH said he thought she was doing a great thing by promoting BF, and clearly it is very important to her (implying that if a woman didn't still BF with a one year old, she must not have put a high importance on it). From there things really went downhill and of course we ended up fighting about our own issues and not really Gisele - I think nobody should be passing judgement on other moms about how long or if they breastfeed. I myself did it with both kids for about 6 months, but I am a working mom and once I start pumping during the day, my supply goes down and things just come to a natural end pretty quickly.

I think DH believes I didn't try hard enough, and that really upsets me, but it is not why I am posting. I am just curious, does anyone else find that photo irritating? At best, I find it counterproductive if the goal is to promote BF and an attitude of women can have it all, since most of us are not Gisele Bundchen with all her money and glamorous life. At worst, I think it is obnoxiously smug. And yes, I am more than a little jealous

Yeah. Hate to break it to you, but DH thinks Gisele is hot, and wants to bone her. Don't be jealous, though. Like she would have him.

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She IS annoying. And your DH is a jerk for judging you on how long you breastfed. I say this as someone who did nurse my kids past a year. I did it because, for me, it was easy and great, even though it sucked to pump at work. I harbor no illusions that it is easy for everyone.

[Anonymous]

I cant stand her. She is dumb as a rock, has had a major nose job, makes all this money and is married to Tom Brady. The picture didnt bother me much.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny, she cant help she's really really good looking and breast feeds on a break. She's a model, that's her job. If you were to post a picture of yourself doing your job and also breastfeeding it would be the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The latest picture posted by Gisele with her breastfeeding her daughter while getting glammed up just rubbed me the wrong way, but to be fair, Gisele B annoys me in general with her smug comments about giving birth and breastfeeding, like she has it all figured out.

So last night I was passing by the TV while the photo was on the news and commented to DH how annoying I find her. DH said he thought she was doing a great thing by promoting BF, and clearly it is very important to her (implying that if a woman didn't still BF with a one year old, she must not have put a high importance on it). From there things really went downhill and of course we ended up fighting about our own issues and not really Gisele - I think nobody should be passing judgement on other moms about how long or if they breastfeed. I myself did it with both kids for about 6 months, but I am a working mom and once I start pumping during the day, my supply goes down and things just come to a natural end pretty quickly.

I think DH believes I didn't try hard enough, and that really upsets me, but it is not why I am posting. I am just curious, does anyone else find that photo irritating? At best, I find it counterproductive if the goal is to promote BF and an attitude of women can have it all, since most of us are not Gisele Bundchen with all her money and glamorous life. At worst, I think it is obnoxiously smug. And yes, I am more than a little jealous

Sounds like this is exactly what you were fighting about.

FTR, I loved the photo but I don't like Gisele in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She IS annoying. And your DH is a jerk for judging you on how long you breastfed. I say this as someone who did nurse my kids past a year. I did it because, for me, it was easy and great, even though it sucked to pump at work. I harbor no illusions that it is easy for everyone.

ITA and I nursed my son until he was 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a beautiful pic. Not seeing the smugness

If you know all the rest of her comments you would understand her smugness. She's said some pretty high and mighty stuff about parenting. The photo itself not so bad. But when you put it all together she kind of sucks and isn't very supportive of any other choices than her own...which are right of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... DH said he thought she was doing a great thing by promoting BF, and clearly it is very important to her (implying that if a woman didn't still BF with a one year old, she must not have put a high importance on it). From there things really went downhill and of course we ended up fighting about our own issues and not really Gisele - I think nobody should be passing judgement on other moms about how long or if they breastfeed. I myself did it with both kids for about 6 months, but I am a working mom and once I start pumping during the day, my supply goes down and things just come to a natural end pretty quickly.

I think DH believes I didn't try hard enough, and that really upsets me, but it is not why I am posting. I am just curious, does anyone else find that photo irritating? At best, I find it counterproductive if the goal is to promote BF and an attitude of women can have it all, since most of us are not Gisele Bundchen with all her money and glamorous life. At worst, I think it is obnoxiously smug. And yes, I am more than a little jealous

Has your DH said other things that make you believe this? Or do you think you might be projecting your own feelings? I took his comment about promoting BF and it's importance to her more at face value. As in he thinks it is a good thing to promote breastfeeding. I agree personally, but still fully support women who can't/choose not to. I think breastfeeding is better in general terms, but each individual must choose what is best in their specific situation. And if someone is actively promoting breastfeeding, then it must be important to them. That doesn't necessarily imply anything about the importance of breastfeeding to those who are not, did not breastfeed a one year old.