Had an actual fight with DH about Gisele Bundchen

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I didn't see that pic or even know who she was until someone posted the pic. I think that pic is incredibly annoying, and I bf for well over a year. Man oh man, especially if my dh then went on and on about it. I am with you OP, I would be totally annoyed.

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NP here and I think the photo is a double edged sword. Sure, it glamorizes BF and makes it seem like it's Oh-So-Easy and even super models can do it. But it's not realistic.

I would have preferred to see Gisele at a desk with a pumping bra and the suction cups sticking out from her breasts looking at a photo of her precious babe. I mean, really, wouldn't we all breastfeed into a year and beyond if we could (1) have our baby with us at all times (even at work), (2) have everyone at work drop everything and cater to said babe (3) had personal assistants and nannies following us around helping us at work with baby; (4) had personal chefs concaucting every healthy nursing snack/meal/cookie available to keep supply up, etc. etc.

Good for Gisele for nursing....the way it's good for any woman to BF for whatever length of time she is able and willing, if at all. But, yes, I agree it was smug.

I also have never been much of a Gisele fan. I always thought she was a homewrecker. She was quoted as saying "I want to marry Tom Brady" long before they even met, while he was still dating(engaged?) to Bridget Moynihan and having kids with her.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're reading WAY too much into the photo. Her nose is tilted up simply because her hair is being pulled back and she's tilted her whole face up to have makeup put on.

She's not "being pampered" in that picture. She is simply WORKING. That's all. This is what she does for a living.

I forgive any pregnant woman and any woman crazy high off having recently been pregnant of any ridiculous stuff they say, so her comment a couple of years ago didn't bother me at all.

It sounds like YOU are feeling guilty and that's why you're defensive.

So getting hair and nails done is now considered work. Interesting.

Uh, if you're a model on a shoot? yes it is.

No fan of Ms B but come on. Her job is nothing like ours and that's OK. I wonder if non-supermodels shooting catalogs get to BF or even pump while getting worked on.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you got upset with your DH because of your own insecurities about BFing. Your DH made reasonable comments and you took them the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

I can do that too......if someone takes my kid away right before and after I breastfeed, make me exactly what I want to eat and drink at all times, have someone make me look good anytime, and do my laundry and wash my dishes, vacuum, and to fly on a plane with a bunch of people catering to me.
Although, it is a good photo for BF.
You do what YOU can for your child.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're reading WAY too much into the photo. Her nose is tilted up simply because her hair is being pulled back and she's tilted her whole face up to have makeup put on.

She's not "being pampered" in that picture. She is simply WORKING. That's all. This is what she does for a living.

I forgive any pregnant woman and any woman crazy high off having recently been pregnant of any ridiculous stuff they say, so her comment a couple of years ago didn't bother me at all.

It sounds like YOU are feeling guilty and that's why you're defensive.

So getting hair and nails done is now considered work. Interesting.

Uh, if you're a model on a shoot? yes it is.

No fan of Ms B but come on. Her job is nothing like ours and that's OK. I wonder if non-supermodels shooting catalogs get to BF or even pump while getting worked on.

I am not a model but still need to look presentable. That doesnt count as an actual work time and i very much doubt it does for her.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you got upset with your DH because of your own insecurities about BFing. Your DH made reasonable comments and you took them the wrong way.

And personally I find the photo weird because it looks staged. If it looked more natural then I'd think it's fine.

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Anonymous wrote:She has man hands.

Are you kidding? She completely looks like a man if you chopped off all her hair - and it was more striking before the nose job/eyebrow lift.

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I find her irritating in general too. Of course it's easy to look beautiful when you have three people working on your hair, makeup and tan for hours. Someone was probably holding the baby on her boob!

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Anonymous wrote:This is Gisele's previous quote about breastfeeding:

"Some people here think they don't have to breastfeed, and I think, 'Are you going to give chemical food to your child, when they are so little?' There should be a worldwide law, in my opinion, that mothers should breastfeed their babies for six months."

She's a smug bitch.

She really said that? I guess she doesn't think things through much.

She attempted to backtrack.

Her and Goop (aka Gwyneth) need to just not talk in public. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Giselle and Tom Brady are so impossibly good looking that I think of them as aliens from outer space. After I think of their freakishly supernatural beauty, they stop looking human to me and I cannot be jealous of them. They are in the same category as a desert sunset or a flock of geese in flight.

Now if my DH liked Kate Upton... I would kill him...because she is so human and flawed and imperfect in ways I can see.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a beautiful pic. Not seeing the smugness

If you know all the rest of her comments you would understand her smugness. She's said some pretty high and mighty stuff about parenting. The photo itself not so bad. But when you put it all together she kind of sucks and isn't very supportive of any other choices than her own...which are right of course.

+1 I cancelled my subscription to Vogue several years ago because they had this awful profile of Gisele after she had her first baby in which she said all she had to do was "a little bit of yoga" and the pregnancy weight just melted off of her!!! This profile was paired with photos of Gisele looking as though she had never had a baby at all. I was 2 months post-partum at this point and the pounds were not coming off with "a little bit of yoga." I understand that some people are genetically blessed and it is easy for them to lose the baby weight, but the entire tone of the profile was smug and snotty, and had the tone of "I don't understand why this is so hard for some people" without any acknowledge that a) yes, it is hard, ok, lady? b) the fact that she probably had a personal trainer, personal yoga teacher, cook, etc.

[Anonymous]

You saw your husband looking at a gorgeous woman, criticized her, and he defended her. Of course you're jealous. And your DH is a bit insensitive, but at least you own up to your jealousy. Nobody would find Gisele (and Gwyneth) irritating if they were ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:I am all for BF promotion because we still have some seriously ignorant women out there (my SIL being one of them), who get all horrified at the prospect of a baby on a boob. My SIL seriously thinks that the "cool kids feed formula," her boobs are only for men to play with, and only third-world women with no teeth breastfeed. She doesn't read much. Anyway, the point is that there are very legitimate reasons for formula feeding, but then, since my SIL is a label-whore in the worst way, having Gisele, Kate Middleton, and whomever else celebrate BF'ing would encourage women like my SIL to breastfeed, and I'm for that. The campaign has to go to the far outer reaches of motherhood.

FYI, I BF'd my first for 6 months, and my second I started supplementing at 2 months, so I understand all the reasons women face in trying to BF exclusively.

That being said, I'm also noticing that some men are really getting into breastfeeding. I have male colleagues who ask me very detailed questions about me BF'ing and then tell me their wives' experiences in minute detail. I mean, the questions and comments are all very legitimate, and it's clear the men are very knowledgeable about BFing, and I do think it's cute and a good sign of the times, but it also weirds me out a bit, I have to say.

Which include personal preference for the mother, BTW.

I am the PP. Yes, I acknowledge that, but there are STUPID reasons too, such as "the cool kids feed formula so I will too." Now, I would never get in a fight with my SIL about it because I am very live and let live, but I can guarantee that that lemming would be singing a different tune once she figures out that BF'ing is where its at and BF'ing is the thing to brag about. Right now, she will get in YOUR FACE and tell you that it BF'ing is disgusting and heck no she's not doing it. She's like Gisele's twin star when it comes to smugness. But knowing her, she can turn on a dime. That is why I am very pro for an aggressive BF campaign. It's not for people like me, its for people like her.

Maybe I'm a little irritated because that dimwit goes around spouting about BF'ing and going on the smug-attack without being prompted. I can only laugh because she acts like its a badge of pride to formula feed--usually it's the militant BF'ers who are insufferable, not a formula-feeder.

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Yeah, you're clearly upset about your own issues with breastfeeding and feeling judged. Do you think your husband judges you, or do you know that? Are you projecting your own feelings of inadequacy onto him? "She nursed her baby until the baby was one, so it must be important to her" doesn't necessarily imply that women who don't nurse that long don't care about it. I'm not the world's biggest fan of Gisele, but I wasn't at all offended by the photo. yes, she's rich and beautiful and has a team of people to help her, but it's also a nice way to show that breastfeeding isn't something to be ashamed of or hidden, and I loved that the photo showed all the people who work to make her look so good--it really shows the effort that goes into her glamour. I don't think that we should be judging others on their breastfeeding, and Gisele has made some judgmental remarks in the past, but a photo of a woman breastfeeding =/= judgment of women who don't.

Snort. She's fully glamored-up in that photograph where she's supposedly getting glamored-up.

+1.
I think that picture is hilarious. Love the guy with the curling iron.