Do women love their kids more than their husbands ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this again. How many times do we have to discuss?

Are you new to DCUM? I'm guessing you are, maybe? Here's a clue: The same topics come up frequently on this site.

OP is not new here. He posts this same topic over and over and over again.

This. Today he posted it without sounded crazy angry like usual. That probably helped to stop it from being reported and deleted like in the past. Give it up OP. You hate women and want them to be subservient to you.

[Anonymous]

I never thought I would, but I do. My husband became more of a jerk after we had DC. Emotionally unavailable, not pulling his weight, leaving me overwhelmed with the baby and household tasks while he was pursuing his hobbies. It's hard to get over all that resentment. The bond between us is not what used to be.

[Anonymous]

My ex husband is messed up man and loves neither me nor our child. By the time I realized this of course I didn't love him. Also since I was a household slave that also worked outside the home there is little love left for a man like that.

[Anonymous]

It's a different kind of love and each is strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a pastor once....He asked me, "If your child was drowning, and your husband (or wife) was drowning, and you are only able to save one, who would you save?" No hesitation, I said my child. He said wrong answer. WTF I thought? He then explained, that your husband/wife would be there for you when you are old, and when your children are gone. We raise our children to be independent and to leave our nest but not our spouse. We made vows before God to provide and protect our spouse. I still don't get it (I am not religious by any means) but just something to think about since it is on topic.

I am religious and think your pastor is WRONG.
That is a ridiculous hypothetical to pose as an indication of the covenant you made in Your marriage.
How stupid that people even compare love of a child to love of an adult.
Thst just shows what an immature and narrow view of love those people have.
GROW
UP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know for fact my wife loves the kids more than me.
In fact, she loves her job more, her friends more and the dogs more.
I think I am #5 and holding on by a string..

This made me laugh, I hope that it was at least somewhat tongue-in-cheek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a pastor once....He asked me, "If your child was drowning, and your husband (or wife) was drowning, and you are only able to save one, who would you save?" No hesitation, I said my child. He said wrong answer. WTF I thought? He then explained, that your husband/wife would be there for you when you are old, and when your children are gone. We raise our children to be independent and to leave our nest but not our spouse. We made vows before God to provide and protect our spouse. I still don't get it (I am not religious by any means) but just something to think about since it is on topic.

I am religious and think your pastor is WRONG.
That is a ridiculous hypothetical to pose as an indication of the covenant you made in Your marriage.
How stupid that people even compare love of a child to love of an adult.
Thst just shows what an immature and narrow view of love those people have.
GROW
UP!

I've heard of other pastors using that same sort of logic and I have never heard any parent say that they would sacrifice their child's life in order to save their own life or the life of their spouse. That would just be totally contrary to our (God given) parental instincts. I don't think it's supposed to be taken in a literal sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a pastor once....He asked me, "If your child was drowning, and your husband (or wife) was drowning, and you are only able to save one, who would you save?" No hesitation, I said my child. He said wrong answer. WTF I thought? He then explained, that your husband/wife would be there for you when you are old, and when your children are gone. We raise our children to be independent and to leave our nest but not our spouse. We made vows before God to provide and protect our spouse. I still don't get it (I am not religious by any means) but just something to think about since it is on topic.

So the pastor thinks you should choose based on self interest. Obviously, not a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a pastor once....He asked me, "If your child was drowning, and your husband (or wife) was drowning, and you are only able to save one, who would you save?" No hesitation, I said my child. He said wrong answer. WTF I thought? He then explained, that your husband/wife would be there for you when you are old, and when your children are gone. We raise our children to be independent and to leave our nest but not our spouse. We made vows before God to provide and protect our spouse. I still don't get it (I am not religious by any means) but just something to think about since it is on topic.

So the pastor thinks you should choose based on self interest. Obviously, not a mother.

No, I think the message is: don't put everything into your kids and allow your marriage to die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a pastor once....He asked me, "If your child was drowning, and your husband (or wife) was drowning, and you are only able to save one, who would you save?" No hesitation, I said my child. He said wrong answer. WTF I thought? He then explained, that your husband/wife would be there for you when you are old, and when your children are gone. We raise our children to be independent and to leave our nest but not our spouse. We made vows before God to provide and protect our spouse. I still don't get it (I am not religious by any means) but just something to think about since it is on topic.

I am religious and think your pastor is WRONG.
That is a ridiculous hypothetical to pose as an indication of the covenant you made in Your marriage.
How stupid that people even compare love of a child to love of an adult.
Thst just shows what an immature and narrow view of love those people have.
GROW
UP!

I've heard of other pastors using that same sort of logic and I have never heard any parent say that they would sacrifice their child's life in order to save their own life or the life of their spouse. That would just be totally contrary to our (God given) parental instincts. I don't think it's supposed to be taken in a literal sense.

I think it used to be that way. I mean back then people used to put their spouse first and that is how I believe humanity survived.

[Anonymous]

Those who put their kids first would probably be divorced when their kids leave.

[Anonymous]

Why is it always the woman's fault. How about asking why the men don't put their wives and children first? It's always about them being first before their family. Pretty selfish.

[Anonymous]

I love them all like crazy. With a fervor I never knew was possible.

Impossible to say if or how I love any one more or less than the others. It's all in the beyond words / beyond reason category for me.

[Anonymous]

I don't get the whole "your husband will be there when you're old" logic.

Women have longer life expectancies than men; there's a very good chance my husband will predecease me, & it's my kids who'll be checking on me to make sure the nursing home staff are treating me right.

[Anonymous]

Call me crazy but i love my husband more than my kids because without him i wouldn't have kids I love so much.