Do women love their kids more than their husbands ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my son definitely more than my husband. My love for him is so strong, it trumps every other thing/thought. I couldn't even go back to work bc I couldn't bare to break our special bond. He is 3 now and I put him in part time preschool and I think about him the whole time we are apart. Even when I'm doing something enjoyable (jungshin class, massage, talking w friend) he's always. In the back of my mind.

I'd die for him but I would not die for my husband. There's literally nothing my son could do to make me not love him but I could think of many things my husband could do to make me love him less.

Maybe things change as the little ones grow up, I don't know. As it stands now, I arrange my whole life around my son and there s nothing I wouldn't do for him just to make him smile even. I even worry I couldn't love another child as much as dear son. I must kiss him a zillion times a day and I spoil him in every way I can. Right now I'm on the floor next to our bed watching him sleep. I lay w himi every night to put him to bed since birth.

This may sound crazy but in reality it's just love. I know there will be a. Time I have to step down and another woman will take my place. Until then and while he'll have me, I treasure my time with him.

The short of it, I could never love my husband more than my son. It's just impossible . Primal is a good way to des drive it. He'll probably be the last things. Think about as a pass away. God, I love that boy.

Can't wait for your DIL to post here in 30 years. Those will be some doozies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my kids more than I love my husband. I can replace him, the kids I can't.

Right there. This! My children will be with me forever. Forever. That guy I was married to was a temporary mistake. And, somewhere, I always knew it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my kids more than I love my husband. I can replace him, the kids I can't.

Right there. This! My children will be with me forever. Forever. That guy I was married to was a temporary mistake. And, somewhere, I always knew it.

So true.

[Anonymous]

Its no brainer. I love my husband more. My kids are almost grown and leaving the nest. Guess who is next to me. My husband.

[Anonymous]

Hello ladies. I'm the poster who wrote how much I love my son. sorry about that, I just can't help it. I don't do that in real life bc I know it would be annoying but I felt comfortable sharing on the board.

My love for him will never be a burden. I'd never do anything to harm or burden him. when he grows up, I hope we will continue to be close. But I will follow his lead. I won't demand anything of him but will always be waiting if needs me or wants to see me.

Certainly wouldn't harm his marriage. In fact, I sometimes pray for his future wife. Of course I want him to marry a good woman who will love him and support him well. I want his marriage to be strong bc I want what's best for him, not me. I wouldn't be one of those moms who interferes or disrespects their sons marriage. I do fear though or believe my sons wife cannot possibly love him as much as me. But I keep that thougt to myself of course.

I don't think I'm obsessed bc I've noticed people who r obsessed w someone or something end up harming the object or person of their affection. It's becomes about them instead of the other person. Meanwhile every action and thought I have regarding my son is only for the benefit of my son. I'll never think or say, poor me, my son doesn't do x y or z. No, I'm happy when he's happy. And I know how close we are now can't last forever. That makes me treasure it even more now.

Just today he told me is growing up fast and big and will marry me soon and give me a big ring. so sweet.

As for posters who said their husband will be there when their child/ren are gone. That's true. But I don't care bc I don't over my son for what I can get out of it. Even if he can't remember everything nice done for him. It wouldn't stop me from doing it. Bc I love him, not what he can do for me.

I think u can measure your love for someone by seeing how patient and kind u are towards them. How much u enjoy being in their company. If anything could turn u off from them. If u would sacrifice for them. That could be giving up botox. Hehe so they have more classes. Or giving up your time to be with them. Putting them first.

As for the poster who said she would die for her husband.... Isn't the husband supposed to die for the wife? What kind of husband would allow that? A husband who is to brave or doesn't love his wife as much I think.

I do think though that the posters who states the politically correct comment that they love both equally, but differently is ideal. I wish I could say the same. But I can't. I love my husband. We have a typical love for a husband and wife. I treat him well. I don't neglect him at all. I bring him up. I'm fun. I e been exceeding loyal. Followed him abroad. Supported his company. Stuck by him when he was going down the wrong path. I do what he wants to please him. We have sex every single day! He's not neglected at all. I kept my 19 year old body for him and I'm 36. It's not easy! I will likely have to make again and I assured him I follow him anywhere. I even lived Ina non English speaking country for 5 years for him. I've fulfilled my vows to him so far.

And I love him and enjoy being next to him when he's in town. Lol no, I love my husband very much but obviously not as much as some posters. Or maybe I love my son more than they love their child/dren. Either way it doesn't really matter bc I'm sure most of us try to be good wives and mothers.

[Anonymous]

I do enjoy sleeping with my son more than my husband. Luckily he was raised ina. Country where the whole family sleeps together on the floor. So he is ok with my son sleeping with me on the king. I'm going to really miss it when I no longer sleep with my ds. I love smelling him while he sleeps and it's so cozy and sweet. I do nly slept alone with husband once since our son was born and I didn't like it. It didn't feel as good as sleeping with my son. Right now I sleep alone with my son while husband is on biz trips overseas... Which is often. And when he's intown our son sleeps in the middle.

I offered to move little one just in case my husband wanted me to but he said no it's fine cuz that's he grew up. I was relieved bc I did not want to move ds anyway. In fact I'm glad my husband travels a lot so I get the whole bed with ds.

God willing, I have the rest of my life to sleep alone with dear Hubbie. This time with my son is very precious. Plus my son and I are just closer. Everyone's different .

[Anonymous]

The love I have for my three month old is already so much stronger than the love I have ever had for DH. I don't feel bad about it and would tell DH if he asked me, but he is smart enough not to. I can already see that having a child changes a marriage.

[Anonymous]

No and I cannot understand those who love thieir kids more. I mean, without your men there would be no kids to begin with.

[Anonymous]

There are some strange women on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my son definitely more than my husband. My love for him is so strong, it trumps every other thing/thought. I couldn't even go back to work bc I couldn't bare to break our special bond. He is 3 now and I put him in part time preschool and I think about him the whole time we are apart. Even when I'm doing something enjoyable (jungshin class, massage, talking w friend) he's always. In the back of my mind.

I'd die for him but I would not die for my husband. There's literally nothing my son could do to make me not love him but I could think of many things my husband could do to make me love him less.

Maybe things change as the little ones grow up, I don't know. As it stands now, I arrange my whole life around my son and there s nothing I wouldn't do for him just to make him smile even. I even worry I couldn't love another child as much as dear son. I must kiss him a zillion times a day and I spoil him in every way I can. Right now I'm on the floor next to our bed watching him sleep. I lay w himi every night to put him to bed since birth.

This may sound crazy but in reality it's just love. I know there will be a. Time I have to step down and another woman will take my place. Until then and while he'll have me, I treasure my time with him.

The short of it, I could never love my husband more than my son. It's just impossible . Primal is a good way to des drive it. He'll probably be the last things. Think about as a pass away. God, I love that boy.

Wow you actually sound obsessed. I'm not sure this is healthy as it puts too much pressure on your child, especially as he grows older. I think you should rethink this, PP.

[Anonymous]

I'd just get a vasectomy and not tell the bitch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know for fact my wife loves the kids more than me.
In fact, she loves her job more, her friends more and the dogs more.
I think I am #5 and holding on by a string..

I feel the same way about my husband. He loves football more, his job, his computer, his parents, the kids, etc. I feel like I'm taken for granted and unappreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No and I cannot understand those who love thieir kids more. I mean, without your men there would be no kids to begin with.

There'd be other men. Infact, a lot of women just need one to procreate

Both my husband and I are open about loving kids more than each other. Yes, it is a different kind of love, but the intensity is different as well. There is just no doubt about it.

[Anonymous]

Very strong love for both DH and DD. I don't think there's ever an exact moment where both require all my love. When each needs all my love they get it, and vise versa for DH in regards to DD and myself.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised that husbands also don't love their kids more than they love their wives. Why do they love their wives more than their kids?