DH, 50, lost out on another job, feeling depressed and hopeless

[Anonymous]

There is hope, but in this job market everything takes a long while. I applied for a job in Sept. 2013 and just last week finally got a call for an interview for that job. And the interview is in three weeks! I'm 57, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand SAHM's in their 50's and 60's. Why didn't you go back to work?

Because job market is so hot right now?

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry, OP. I caution you, though, to not call him a "loser." (first sentence of your post.)

Good luck that things turn around soon for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

Oh my lord OP. . . I am the PP with the $12/hour DH. . . he makes more now, but still we are scraping by. But even his 60 yr old mother who lost her alimony got off her SAHM her whole life ass and got a freaking job. And she had NO career. And you can sit here and say that you are a "long way away from making a living?"?????

Let me break it down for you how to earn a living:

1) Apply for a J-O-B (40 hrs/week)
2) Interview for the J-O-B and get one
3) Set your alarm honey - I know, sounds horrific to you . .
4) Get up at dawn, shower, shave, sh-t, get dressed
5) Go to your J-O-B

Any questions?

[Anonymous]

And FYI - you depress DH with your laziness and demeaning attitude like it is HIS fault you don't have enough money, like HE should be doing more and failed. ugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living[u].

Oh my lord OP. . . I am the PP with the $12/hour DH. . . he makes more now, but still we are scraping by. But even his 60 yr old mother who lost her alimony got off her SAHM her whole life ass and got a freaking job. And she had NO career. And you can sit here and say that you are a "long way away from making a living?"?????

Let me break it down for you how to earn a living:

1) Apply for a J-O-B (40 hrs/week)
2) Interview for the J-O-B and get one
3) Set your alarm honey - I know, sounds horrific to you . .
4) Get up at dawn, shower, shave, sh-t, get dressed
5) Go to your J-O-B

Any questions?

AND lets not forget - 8 months after your initial post, you are "STILL a long way from earning a living." If you worked these 8 months, you'd have earned a living. holy hell you are so entitled. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

Oh my lord OP. . . I am the PP with the $12/hour DH. . . he makes more now, but still we are scraping by. But even his 60 yr old mother who lost her alimony got off her SAHM her whole life ass and got a freaking job. And she had NO career. And you can sit here and say that you are a "long way away from making a living?"?????

Let me break it down for you how to earn a living:

1) Apply for a J-O-B (40 hrs/week)
2) Interview for the J-O-B and get one
3) Set your alarm honey - I know, sounds horrific to you . .
4) Get up at dawn, shower, shave, sh-t, get dressed
5) Go to your J-O-B

Any questions?

Wow, you are a bitter woman. I feel sorry for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living[u].

Oh my lord OP. . . I am the PP with the $12/hour DH. . . he makes more now, but still we are scraping by. But even his 60 yr old mother who lost her alimony got off her SAHM her whole life ass and got a freaking job. And she had NO career. And you can sit here and say that you are a "long way away from making a living?"?????

Let me break it down for you how to earn a living:

1) Apply for a J-O-B (40 hrs/week)
2) Interview for the J-O-B and get one
3) Set your alarm honey - I know, sounds horrific to you . .
4) Get up at dawn, shower, shave, sh-t, get dressed
5) Go to your J-O-B

Any questions?

AND lets not forget - 8 months after your initial post, you are "STILL a long way from earning a living." If you worked these 8 months, you'd have earned a living. holy hell you are so entitled. . .

Nasty, nasty, nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

Good for you setting your sights on a new career, OP. i am rooting for you and your DH!

[Anonymous]

Age discrimination is real. Plus, your husband has the misfortune of being out of work in the worse economy since the Great Depression. Once this damn economy gets going, and it will eventually, finding work will be easier.

In the meantime, can he consult? That is what I have done by preference for 20 years. I have a blog and, yes, network, and can kind of dial my business up or down depending on how much I put myself "out there."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

I'm glad to hear things have picked up even if they are not yet where you want them to be. BTW I like your writing style.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, OP, calling your husband a loser in your first post makes you seem like a trifling shrew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I was surprised to see this thread revived, but I'll post an update: My DH finally found a job. It's in his field, it's interesting and has growth potential. He likes it a lot better than his old job. The big catch: the pay is about 30% lower than his old job, so we are struggling financially. He found the job through his network, so that finally worked out. He just went in, had four or five interviews in one day, and was offered the job. After all that struggle, it almost felt easy, just like in the old, pre-crash days.

I'm laying the groundwork for a new career. I hope to start earning money in the next year, which is realistic. For those posters who wonder why a SAHM in her 50s is not working, well, you are completely ignorant about the job market, especially for those over 50.

I wish this story had a happy ending, but DH is not happy, even though he likes his job. We now have financial insecurity that we never had before, and DH feels uncertain that he'll ever make as much money as he made before, and is still depressed that he can't make enough to support our family. Once I start earning money, he may feel better, at least that's my hope. But I'm still a long way away from earning a living.

Oh my lord OP. . . I am the PP with the $12/hour DH. . . he makes more now, but still we are scraping by. But even his 60 yr old mother who lost her alimony got off her SAHM her whole life ass and got a freaking job. And she had NO career. And you can sit here and say that you are a "long way away from making a living?"?????

Let me break it down for you how to earn a living:

1) Apply for a J-O-B (40 hrs/week)
2) Interview for the J-O-B and get one
3) Set your alarm honey - I know, sounds horrific to you . .
4) Get up at dawn, shower, shave, sh-t, get dressed
5) Go to your J-O-B

Any questions?

Wow, you are a bitter woman. I feel sorry for your family.

No, just have an extreme aversion to lazy, entitled women who are broke and blame it on other people when THEY create the situation because they cannot just GET - A - J-O-B. I literally cannot stand to be around them. I have a low tolerance for dysfunctional people.

[Anonymous]

Advice - get off DCUM. This is a skewed demographic and it makes you feel that everyone is 1% of HHI.

Many people are going through what yr DH is going through. Job Search is the worst experience.