When you see someone hitting their kids in public, should you say anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd like to report parents who let their kids do nothing but stay glued to a DS screen or iPad all day, but it's their crappy parenting and it's not illegal. They will raise imagination-challenged zombies. My kids, who were spanked, are excellent students and good citizens, and the best-behaved kids in the extended family.

Gee, you don't sound like you're biased about your snowflakes at all!

[Anonymous]

MYOB. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who hit your children are pathetic, weak bullies. Take a parenting class for the love of god. This thread turns my stomach.

Agreed. This is not at all like hitting a child's hand as they're reaching for a hot stove - where time is of the essence and the sensory reaction of immediately moving one's hand away, is at stake.

Hitting your child is not only poor parenting, it's lazy parenting. It's not even going to teach your children (or the parent) how to productively deal with their anger. There's a middle ground between using corporeal punishment, and becoming BFFs with your children.

1000% agree. Just because it's "legal" doesn't mean is it right or good. It doesn't teach anything other than it is ok to hit out of anger. And, mommy/daddy can't control themselves or use other means of effective discipline. People who hit their children should be ashamed of themselves. I judge them. Harshly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words [b]and perhaps a physical threat.[/b]Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

Well, this one pretty much sums up the fact that parents who hit their kids, do it for all the wrong reasons. Its not about discipline or what is best for the child. Its about "let me show you how big and tough I am". You are actually laying in wait of someone questioning you so you can belittle them and threaten them. This is just sad and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words [b]and perhaps a physical threat.[/b]Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

Well, this one pretty much sums up the fact that parents who hit their kids, do it for all the wrong reasons. Its not about discipline or what is best for the child. Its about "let me show you how big and tough I am". You are actually laying in wait of someone questioning you so you can belittle them and threaten them. This is just sad and pathetic.

+infinity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, [b]I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words [b]and perhaps a physical threat.[/b]Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

Well, this one pretty much sums up the fact that parents who hit their kids, do it for all the wrong reasons. Its not about discipline or what is best for the child. Its about "let me show you how big and tough I am". You are actually laying in wait of someone questioning you so you can belittle them and threaten them. This is just sad and pathetic.

+infinity

Violence begets violence as evidenced by horror of a person above. A physical threat? Who the fuck does that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I saw someone beating a child or slapping an infant, I would possibly do something. But a parent smacking a 2 year old is how they apparently choose to discipline, whether you agree or not. So no I would not do anything in this situation.

totally this. MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Most of you who negotiate with your children from infancy to adulthood will probably have more poorly behaved children then those parents who smacked their kids.

+1. We smacked (not abused) our kids when they needed it. They are fantastic middle schoolers now, and the best behaved kids in the family. The grandparents can barely stand to be around their bratty cousins, however -- the ones who were "reasoned" with.

I totally agree. There is a diff between discipline and abuse. Some people just really need to learn to mind their own business. And for those who thinking giving the stink eye is going to make a
parent think twice, think again. I wouldnt bat an eyelash at you if I were smacking my child on the hand or bottom, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words and perhaps a physical threat.

Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

AMEN!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words [b]and perhaps a physical threat.[/b]Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

Well, this one pretty much sums up the fact that parents who hit their kids, do it for all the wrong reasons. Its not about discipline or what is best for the child. Its about "let me show you how big and tough I am". You are actually laying in wait of someone questioning you so you can belittle them and threaten them. This is just sad and pathetic.

Totally agreed. If you have to hit your kids, your parenting or "disciplining" is lazy as fuck. Assault is illegal for adults, but ok on your kids? What the hell? Maybe take some time to actually teach your child, instead of taking out your anger on them with violence (and yes, a smack is violence and assault).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words and perhaps a physical threat.

Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

AMEN!!!

Why am I not surprised that a religious person is condoning child abuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this... If one of you sanctimonious parents EVER comes up to me if I smack my kid and even think about confronting me or, God forbid, intervening, I would take pleasure in giving you a piece of my mind using choice words and perhaps a physical threat.

Beat it with your holier-than-thou attitude toward disciplining children. There is no one size fits all type of discipline out there. The responsive classroom method at our school works on about 1/4 of the kids in any given class. Most of them need a smack in the back of the head every now and then; not time to think about actions and consequences.

AMEN!!!

Both PPs here are disgusting to me. If you can't find a better, less brutal and animalistic way of teaching your children right from wrong, it is because you are embracing being lazy and ignorant. When I see parents hitting children, all I see is out of control, weak trash.

[Anonymous]

When you hit your child, you teach them to fear you.

[Anonymous]

Spanking is a swat on the butt. A smack across the face is NOT a spanking. Yes you're allowed to spank your kid if you're too lazy to parent unfortunately, but you are not allowed to physically punish your child in whatever way you please. He has triplets and probably had a long day?? Seriously? Is it okay for me to smack my boss when I've had a long day, or my husband? Why is it okay to do to a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you hit your child, you teach them to fear you.

Yup. Hitting children has nothing to do with teaching right from wrong. The only thing children learn from being hit, is to fear their parents.