45 and struggling about decision to try for second child

[Anonymous]

Congrats joyallison!! That is wonderful.

[Anonymous]

I had my third at 46, and I can tell you it was fine for a few years, but now that she is 9, I'm exhausted every single second. Parenthood is for younger folks. I do envy my friends from high school and college, who are empty nesters. I have another decade to go, at least, before that happens. The fatigue is the worst of it. Plus I'm going through menopause, and my teenagers are going through puberty.

I never thought about this when we decided to try for #3. I was so energetic then! Now I'm tired. Did I mention that? Did I mention how forgetful and fog-brained I am? That's menopause, and the demands of three kids, all crashing into one another. It's very hard, and I do my best, but feel I fall short every day, and that's even more exhausting.

I'm so tired now. I'm going to sleep.

[Anonymous]

21:00, thanks for your perspective from later on down the road. While I've considered the potential for health issues when I'm in my 50s, I hadn't really considered just being run-down along with menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:21:00, thanks for your perspective from later on down the road. While I've considered the potential for health issues when I'm in my 50s, I hadn't really considered just being run-down along with menopause.

Ditto

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my third at 46, and I can tell you it was fine for a few years, but now that she is 9, I'm exhausted every single second. Parenthood is for younger folks. I do envy my friends from high school and college, who are empty nesters. I have another decade to go, at least, before that happens. The fatigue is the worst of it. Plus I'm going through menopause, and my teenagers are going through puberty.

I never thought about this when we decided to try for #3. I was so energetic then! Now I'm tired. Did I mention that? Did I mention how forgetful and fog-brained I am? That's menopause, and the demands of three kids, all crashing into one another. It's very hard, and I do my best, but feel I fall short every day, and that's even more exhausting.

I'm so tired now. I'm going to sleep.

Hello! I feel the same way! had twins at 44. Everynight at 9PM I fall alseep where ever I am from exhaustion. We can't remember from one minute to the next what we just said to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my third at 46, and I can tell you it was fine for a few years, but now that she is 9, I'm exhausted every single second. Parenthood is for younger folks. I do envy my friends from high school and college, who are empty nesters. I have another decade to go, at least, before that happens. The fatigue is the worst of it. Plus I'm going through menopause, and my teenagers are going through puberty.

I never thought about this when we decided to try for #3. I was so energetic then! Now I'm tired. Did I mention that? Did I mention how forgetful and fog-brained I am? That's menopause, and the demands of three kids, all crashing into one another. It's very hard, and I do my best, but feel I fall short every day, and that's even more exhausting.

I'm so tired now. I'm going to sleep.

Hello! I feel the same way! had twins at 44. Everynight at 9PM I fall alseep where ever I am from exhaustion. We can't remember from one minute to the next what we just said to each other.

Wow, I don't know how you do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my third at 46, and I can tell you it was fine for a few years, but now that she is 9, I'm exhausted every single second. Parenthood is for younger folks. I do envy my friends from high school and college, who are empty nesters. I have another decade to go, at least, before that happens. The fatigue is the worst of it. Plus I'm going through menopause, and my teenagers are going through puberty.

I never thought about this when we decided to try for #3. I was so energetic then! Now I'm tired. Did I mention that? Did I mention how forgetful and fog-brained I am? That's menopause, and the demands of three kids, all crashing into one another. It's very hard, and I do my best, but feel I fall short every day, and that's even more exhausting.

I'm so tired now. I'm going to sleep.

Hello! I feel the same way! had twins at 44. Everynight at 9PM I fall alseep where ever I am from exhaustion. We can't remember from one minute to the next what we just said to each other.

I have the highest respect for both of you!

[Anonymous]

45 is not to old; it "way too old" You are not an "older parent" if you had your baby at 32 and now are snowboarding at 42.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:45 is not to old; it "way too old" You are not an "older parent" if you had your baby at 32 and now are snowboarding at 42.

If it's the same snowboarding mom poster, she has kids age 7 and 9 and expecting #3 at age 42. She's my new idol! See you on the slopes next year!