I am a sloth among the cheetahs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. How do I tell my cheetah wife that I need hours of do-nothing/nap time to recharge my batteries?

You don't! If you're an adult who takes naps on the weekends you are LAZY! Get a solid amount of sleep at night and exercise to increase your energy.

This poster just doesn't get it. Everyone is different. I wouldn't call myself a sloth, yet I need a nap every day. I cannot function well without a nap. I'm a very light sleeper, and often get broken, not restful sleep at night. I need a nap to recharge during the day. I have a very stressful life right now, and I am not high energy. But lazy? People who need rest aren't lazy, they're tired. My DH is having a very hard time at work right now, and he needs to sleep for hours on the weekends just to recharge his batteries. I resent that he's asleep while I'm taking care of the house and kids, but I completely understand his need for extra sleep right now. He's mostly a Cheetah, super high energy, never needs or takes naps, and sleeps like a solid rock at night, unlike me. We all wear down at times, and everyone has different needs, so lighten up, PP. You may one day find yourself in a situation where you need some rest, and it won't feel very good to have an unsympathetic person say you're lazy. Tired, yes, exhausted, probably, in need of sympathy, absolutely. Leave the man alone and let him get some sleep.

[Anonymous]

"I was also totally serious about extra sleep and exercise. You may also want to look at your diet. There is really no reason why an adult should need a nap on any kind of regular basis. "

Spoken like a young woman. Check back when you are perimenopausal and don't sleep through the night. I run 20 miles a week and sleep, brokenly, about 7.5 hours a night. I still nap often on one of the weekend days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to be a cheetah married to a sloth. My sloth DH feels harried and not well rested if we have any plans over a weekend. Honestly, I'd like to go out at least one night a weekend and some weekends, both nights. I am a total extrovert and need the social interaction. I also care a lot about running the household efficiently, where Dh doesn't give a hoot about trains running on time, etc. The solution is that I do and go to some things without him to give him downtime, and he doesn't complain that I don't hang all weekend with him.

I don't like to watch TV or go to movies, for instance, and there's only so much reading I can do without getting bored. Unfortunately, his energy level is decreasing with age, but mine hasn't yet.

So what do you like to do?

Go out with friends.

[Anonymous]

Naps are delicious!

[Anonymous]

I am cheetahish about my slothishness. Like, I will plan time in advance to laze. When the fam is drawing up vacation itineraries, I make sure that "MOM LAYING BY POOL" takes a chunk of time every day. I make sure we have at least one six hour span every weekend to just hang around doing nothing of much importance.

It pays to sloth ahead.

[Anonymous]

Cheetah married to sloth who thinks he is a cheetah and who assembles a to-do list every weekend which is far too ambitious for his slothfulness.

Offspring include one wholesale sloth, one sloth with occasional bursts of cheetah, two regular cheetahs, and one super-cheetah. Super-cheetah and I are tight, and she now lectures DH on the fact that his sloth nature is not producing the desired results on super- cheetah's to-do list (mostly involving desired-for modifications to super-cheetah's lair). Sloth DH is more patient with demands of super-cheetah DD than he is with cheetah DW, though he does occasionally resort to sloth growls when nagged into a corner.

[Anonymous]

I am a giraffe. The odd standout without much in common with most folks except the food we eat. Maybe I am a kangaroo of sorts at times too.

[Anonymous]

I am a sloth with a sloth DH, and we live in Brooklyn. Neither of us understand why everyone loves to go to Manhattan so much. This is a common conversation 10 am on Saturday mornings:

wife: we should do something today.
husband: yeah, we should.
wife: What do you want to do?
husband: I don't know.

I think it would be better if one of us was a sloth and one was a cheetah. When I lived alone, I would get up at 7 or 8 on Saturday and actually try to do something before just laying around. But I think our slothiness has multiplied since we've been together.

[Anonymous]

Run with the big dogs or get the hell out of the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheetah married to sloth who thinks he is a cheetah and who assembles a to-do list every weekend which is far too ambitious for his slothfulness.

Offspring include one wholesale sloth, one sloth with occasional bursts of cheetah, two regular cheetahs, and one super-cheetah. Super-cheetah and I are tight, and she now lectures DH on the fact that his sloth nature is not producing the desired results on super- cheetah's to-do list (mostly involving desired-for modifications to super-cheetah's lair). Sloth DH is more patient with demands of super-cheetah DD than he is with cheetah DW, though he does occasionally resort to sloth growls when nagged into a corner.

Your DH can't be too much of a sloth if there's 5 offspring.

[Anonymous]

I'm more of a cheetah, but there is nothing better than a mid-day nap after a morning spent doing stuff. I have one weekend day off from my daughter each week, and on that day, I typically wake up early, go for a long run, hit a yoga class and do an errand or two and sometimes yardwork. After a shower, an hour-long nap really hits the spot and recharges me for the rest of the day/evening.

And yeah, I'm 40 with a young child. I might not have needed a nap in my 20's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. How do I tell my cheetah wife that I need hours of do-nothing/nap time to recharge my batteries?

You don't! If you're an adult who takes naps on the weekends you are LAZY! Get a solid amount of sleep at night and exercise to increase your energy.

This poster just doesn't get it. Everyone is different. I wouldn't call myself a sloth, yet I need a nap every day. I cannot function well without a nap. I'm a very light sleeper, and often get broken, not restful sleep at night. I need a nap to recharge during the day. I have a very stressful life right now, and I am not high energy. But lazy? People who need rest aren't lazy, they're tired. My DH is having a very hard time at work right now, and he needs to sleep for hours on the weekends just to recharge his batteries. I resent that he's asleep while I'm taking care of the house and kids, but I completely understand his need for extra sleep right now. He's mostly a Cheetah, super high energy, never needs or takes naps, and sleeps like a solid rock at night, unlike me. We all wear down at times, and everyone has different needs, so lighten up, PP. You may one day find yourself in a situation where you need some rest, and it won't feel very good to have an unsympathetic person say you're lazy. Tired, yes, exhausted, probably, in need of sympathy, absolutely. Leave the man alone and let him get some sleep.

If you need some extra rest because of a particularly situation in life that is understandable. However, if an adult without medical issues (not brought on by themselves) needs to take naps EVERY weekend or EVERY day then something is wrong. I understand some people are morning people and go to bed early and some may be night owls who like to sleep in, but otherwise I believe you are just lazy or have issues that can be fixed but don't work to fix them.

My husband and I have/are encountering some of the same issues you mentioned above but we find ways to solve the issues and not sleep away the day. I would literally divorce my husband if he decided that taking naps for hours on the weekends was acceptable (again barring medical issues). Do you exercise regularly? Do you have a plan to wind the family down by a certain time of night (at least during week nights)? Do you ensure you allow enough time for a full night's sleep? Do you eat a healthy balanced diet? If you are doing all of these things and you still have to nap on the weekends I suggest seeing a doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I was also totally serious about extra sleep and exercise. You may also want to look at your diet. There is really no reason why an adult should need a nap on any kind of regular basis. "

Spoken like a young woman. Check back when you are perimenopausal and don't sleep through the night. I run 20 miles a week and sleep, brokenly, about 7.5 hours a night. I still nap often on one of the weekend days.

I'm not as young as you think but if that excuse makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

Divorcing someone over a nap. Classic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorcing someone over a nap. Classic.

Yes, because it's as simple as that - you got me! Now go take your nap and RECHARGE so you can function like a grown up again.