Husband received hickey from stripper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting "blind drunk" every now and again is actually fine as long as you don't do anything stupid (like get a hickey from a "stripper"") and it is not a common occurrence. You should not be so judgmental.

Well, each his own. Getting blind drunk is fine if you're 17, 18, but if you are a grown man? Sounds like a red flag to me.

Yes, how old are you PP#1? 16? 22?

Getting blind drunk to the point of passing out when you are an adult beyond the age of Girls Gone Wild is definitely a sign of a drinking problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your DH and friend made up a story to explain the hickey. There is prob. a girlfriiend, not a stripper.

Agree. If the friend had really taken him home "to pass out," you would have gotten a phone call to let you know he was okay. This was a cover story made up after the fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get tested for stds at the minimum. You owe it to yourself and any children (potential or current).

+1 Better safe than sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know mb like to think they are the best but most strippers loathe these guys and at best are only think about money versus oh he's cute let me suck on his sweaty salty stinky neck

Ha, ha, ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your DH and friend made up a story to explain the hickey. There is prob. a girlfriiend, not a stripper.

Agree. If the friend had really taken him home "to pass out," you would have gotten a phone call to let you know he was okay. This was a cover story made up after the fact.

Whether or not you got a call from the friend really depends on how drunk the friend was. If he was also super drunk, there's no way you would get a phone call, even if the two of them were together safe and sound at the friend's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting "blind drunk" every now and again is actually fine as long as you don't do anything stupid (like get a hickey from a "stripper"") and it is not a common occurrence. You should not be so judgmental.

Well, each his own. Getting blind drunk is fine if you're 17, 18, but if you are a grown man? Sounds like a red flag to me.

Really, getting blind drunk is fine if you are a teenager and not even legally allowed to drink is fine? Wow. I don't think it is ever "fine" to get black out drink, but if you are going to suggest an age at which it might be socially acceptable, how about we at least pick one that is above legal drinking age!

Seriously though OP, don't listed to all the bitchy women insisting that your husband cheated, is cheating, whatever. If you truly believe that this was a one time thing, isn't the fact that he got drunk enough to let someone give him a hickey more of an issue than who it was exactly? That being said, it certainly is an issue. If your DH regularly engages in this level of drinking, he will likely need some help to stop. I would suggest therapy for both of you. Is this something your DH is open to? If so, start there. Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

Paid my way through college as a bartender in a strip club (I am not a stripper). Your husband is lying, never ever in the 6 years I worked there did I ever see a man get a hickey. Your husband had a one night stand and cheated on you, this is the best story he could come up with. Unless you are missing $5000 from your bank account, he is a liar. Are you really this gullible? Go to the club and ask if you need to but really use your brain and you'll know that strippers don't give hickeys... EVER. Girls walked out of there every night making $1000 and not ONE of them gave a hickey!!

[Anonymous]

PP again- Do you really think a stripper would give your husband a hickey for a $20 lap dance? To get a hickey you'd have to be missing hundreds of dollars from your account. Does your husband look like Brad Pitt? Otherwise, the answer again is that strippers don't give hickeys. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm trying to speak to you in a way that you can understand: HE CHEATED ON YOU AND HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND. GET HIM TESTED FOR STDS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let's move beyond whether he had an affair or not. I do not believe he did anything more than make out with a random stripper. He's never shown any signs of cheating before so I do think this is a one time thing. It's an incredibly stupid thong and I am not dimishing that. It's still cheating. He admits that there was making out involved with the stripper and he and his friends were buying her drinks. I do believe that he blacked out as he does do this when he drinks a lot. Another indication that he needs to stop drinking.

Now I wonder what to do next. I will give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he wants to be a better man and husband and doesn't want this to happen again. He is a good guy but he did an incredibly stupid thing and I just need to figure out how to move beyond it. How not to look at him and imagine him making out with another woman. How to look at happy families and feel resentment at my husband because i have to fake being happy and trusting with him out in public because of his complete stupidity.

You're dumb. You deserve what you get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your DH and friend made up a story to explain the hickey. There is prob. a girlfriiend, not a stripper.

Agree. If the friend had really taken him home "to pass out," you would have gotten a phone call to let you know he was okay. This was a cover story made up after the fact.

DING DING DING DING DING!!!!!! We have a winner!!!!

[Anonymous]

"It's an incredibly stupid thong"

Tee hee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid my way through college as a bartender in a strip club (I am not a stripper). Your husband is lying, never ever in the 6 years I worked there did I ever see a man get a hickey. Your husband had a one night stand and cheated on you, this is the best story he could come up with. Unless you are missing $5000 from your bank account, he is a liar. Are you really this gullible? Go to the club and ask if you need to but really use your brain and you'll know that strippers don't give hickeys... EVER. Girls walked out of there every night making $1000 and not ONE of them gave a hickey!!

+1. Okay, I never worked at a strip club, but one of my co-workers did - and NO ONE gets hickeys - EVER. Check your bank account OP. And don't just check it for the other night. Check the entire past year, very very closely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, strippers aren't there to please men, they are there to make money. Strippers just don't give out hickies or make out, that is what prostitutes do, or affair partners. There are also rules, dudes aren't allowed to touch etc.

So, your honest and for real belief is that strippers don't let men touch them?

Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

Club rules are usu no touching.

[Anonymous]

If my married friend was drunk enough and I had had a few myself, I would absolutely pay (or dare, or cajole) whomever whatever to give him a hickey. Not enough to be anything serious, but just enough to ensure that he got in a shit-load of trouble when he got home.