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Saw my DH on our nanny cam.
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Anonymous
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You DUMMY... Get a head.
Sorry to be rude!! |
Anonymous
| OP - where was your kid and the nanny during this? Would your husband be so bold to have the neighbor over while they were around? I am assuming your nanny is still needed the days your husband works from home. |
Anonymous
I beg your pardon, but to whom are you talking? |
Anonymous
| dont say sorry just dont be rude. WARNING- you'll be surprised by the way you act when are actually faced with a similar situation. even the strongest, most intelligent, most financially secure persons never really know how they will act until they are tested. op follow your gut. talk to your husband. please dont listen to the crazies on here. |
Anonymous
| OP -- listen to 10:08. Don't repost with every detail. People on this board will make you their latest entertainment and everyone will jump to criticize your every move. Take the advice you have gotten and make your decisions, but don't feel like you owe others updates and the chance to judge you. It's your life, not theirs. |
Anonymous
| OP, ask him this question: "DH, did you and [neighbor's name] have a conversation here in the house yesterday?" Give him a chance to come clean, and observe his reaction. Be up front, but I see no need to tell him how you know this. If he asks, just repeat the question. Don't act angry; be calm and matter of fact. His reaction will give you a lot of information. |
Anonymous
I like this approach. |
Anonymous
I like this too. Few people can pull of the big lie without giving something away. Looking down, looking away, touching his nose or face while telling the lie, twitchy lips, you probably already know what your DH does when he's fibbing to other people. At the end of the day, if he's non-apologetic, pissy, angry or trying to redirect the blame to you for snooping, you have a problem. Try to think of how you would react if the tables were turned and your DH was freaked out by something you did. Wouldn't you bend over backwards to not only reassure, but also to say "I love you, no way would I hurt you"? I'd guess if you don't get a good reaction to a simple direct question (not the sodium pentathol approach) there's trouble brewing. Plus by not telling him how you know, he may think the hills have eyes, or Gladys Kravitz moved in next door. |
Anonymous
| I cannot imagine my DH having a woman alone in our house and then deny it...something is not right with the OP's picture. |
Anonymous
Like many other PP's before - I am all for being upfront and that is not accusing of anything! Why tip toe around? Be UPFRONT- you're married- not neighbors or whatever. Say what you say- say it made you feel uncomfortable given how he describes her and how when you said something about her being out of town he said he thought so too and she clearly wasn't- and then let HIM talk- I can't believe some of the advice on this board (he may have felt lonely- gag!!!!!!!!!!!) .. Don't trap him, accuse etc.. just be upfront- if he still lies or makes you feel like it is a lie- then get the PI and frankly- depending if the PI shows he's a dog- then dump him. I have not been cheated on and am married.. I absolutely know that I would be upfront (yes feel horrible like Op did after hearing a lie ) and just face it.. |
Anonymous
| Any update from the OP? |
Anonymous
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Hey everyone,
Let's not pressure the OP to post. She sounds like she is working through a lot. Just my thinking, but it seems insensitive. She will post if and when she is ready. |
Anonymous
| I always wonder if these posts are real... don't know why. Maybe I'm just too cynical! |
Anonymous
PP, you meant posts like these? i wonder too. I think someone on this thread said they were worrying all night about the OP the other day. That is very strange to worry all night about someone posting on a forum. |
Anonymous
| I think the person worrying all night was probably triggered by her own experiences. |