How long do you wait to tell someone that your child is gifted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to hijack this thread but I'm honestly curious, how does one go about finding out if their child is "gifted"? Do the schools do routine testing based on identified abilities? Or do parents ask for them? My kids are still very little so I have no idea how this works. I remember my own very bizarre experience of being pulled out of class sometime in elementary school to take some tests, then being put in some "gifted" program with some other kids, some of whom turned out to be really smart and some of whom turned out to be deadbeats (er...wasted talent?). How does it work in this area?

If you are white and upper-middle class, your child is gifted.

http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2008/01/22/17-gifted-children/

That's how it works in this area.

[Anonymous]

BRILLIANT!

ote=Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to hijack this thread but I'm honestly curious, how does one go about finding out if their child is "gifted"? Do the schools do routine testing based on identified abilities? Or do parents ask for them? My kids are still very little so I have no idea how this works. I remember my own very bizarre experience of being pulled out of class sometime in elementary school to take some tests, then being put in some "gifted" program with some other kids, some of whom turned out to be really smart and some of whom turned out to be deadbeats (er...wasted talent?). How does it work in this area?

If you are white and upper-middle class, your child is gifted.

http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2008/01/22/17-gifted-children/

That's how it works in this area.

[Anonymous]

My motor mouth neighbor must be "verbally gifted". She never shuts up.

[Anonymous]

I don't tell people about my gifted children; they tell me. I don't like being in the "hot seat." Other parents ask pushy questions and then are unhappy when I answer them. Yes, my kids are smarter than yours-- it happens.

As a general rule, the parents bragging about their gifted kids don't have gifted kids. They have "bright" kids, that they can be pleased as punch about. Having "real" gifted kids is more like having aliens.

[Anonymous]

I have one kid who's academically gifted, another who I'd classify as a normal, bright student, and a third who is pretty average academically. I'm glad I have had three different children with differing abilities because it's helped keep me humble. The "average" child is so sweet, sensitive and creative. I love that. And the "bright" one has the best work ethic of the bunch, and he's so funny! The "gifted" one (our oldest) has many fine qualities, but he's disorganized and at times a little self-absorbed. I think he can learn a thing or two from his younger siblings.

[Anonymous]

really who cares. How damn gifted can a 6 yr old be? Gifted is a strange word, and can mean so many things. Ever heard of twice gifted? So say that Austism is a form of gifted. I just want my kids to be bright. Gifted, not so sure.

[Anonymous]

I do tell people that my child is SN but bright (yes, they call it twice exceptional). It explains why he struggles with behavior in school but does fine with the schoolwork itself. Many parents think that school is only about the academics and we have found that there's much more to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

Still would have taken the high road with #3.

Usually, if they're that gifted in an area when they're preschoolers, there's a chance they fall on the spectrum. So while parents may be proud of their children's advanced skills, it's not smart to brag b/c there's always the chance s/he will be given a spectrum label.