How long do you wait to tell someone that your child is gifted?

[Anonymous]

There is a funny situation that I see happen over and over again.
At a party or park or other social gathering and a parent with a gifted child comes up to me and tells me within oh, about 10 minutes.
I have noticed that once that is said, the converstion leads to how the schools are slowing their child down, schools are dumbed down, the other kids are holding my child back, and so on.
To me, this is no different than say, talking about your salary, or other private things like how big..., well, just private.

Just wait for days after knowing someone to bring it up...if you must.

[Anonymous]

Is that the kid eating his boogers?

[Anonymous]

The obviously SN kid who "is bright".

[Anonymous]

It's never OK to bring it up, IMHO. I am a parent of a "gifted".

It's bragging. It leads to resentment. There's no need for it.

If someone gets to know you and your kid, they will know for themselves if the kid is gifted. No need to advertise.

[Anonymous]

I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

[Anonymous]

This must be the older kid version of "my child is very verbal"

[Anonymous]

I am the parent of a special needs kid and I have a friend who used to mention how gifted her dc was (and how athletic) in literally every single conversation. The frequency of our conversations dwindled and now we rarely talk. It just wasn't necessary -- obviously, I knew how successful her dc was/is.

[Anonymous]

Point out your Jethro, who is sitting in the front yard, eating dirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

I like you. And will totally remember #3 should DD demonstrate her father's freakish math skills rather than my freakish lack of math skills.

[Anonymous]

I've never had this happen to me. But most of my friends were "gifted" themselves, so maybe it's not that interesting/exciting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

I like you. And will totally remember #3 should DD demonstrate her father's freakish math skills rather than my freakish lack of math skills.

What is it or how do you know? Does he count a lot out loud? Why is this not OCD?

[Anonymous]

My child attends a HGC in MCPS and I identify it simply as a magnet school unless someone inquires further. No one has ever asked if she is gifted (how do you define that anyways?). Most people that spend time with her know that she is bright and it is not really a topic of conversation.

[Anonymous]

The only times I've discussed it with other people (other than very close family or friends) is when other parents would start asking me questions after seeing her in action for a little while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

That's the amazing kid giving blow jobs under the bleachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids, one of whom is (I'm not comfortable with saying gifted, but lets say academically advanced). I've discussed it in person with three fellow mothers ever...

1) one who was telling me about the AAP process for her kid, and I asked her questions,

2)one who has been a close friend for years and who asked me about it, and

3)once when my kid was 3 and an aquaintance I don't like was going on and on and on about how amazing it was that her 3 year old could count to 20, seriously over a half hour about it. ,Then looked at me and said "when do you think your kid will learn to count" and I said "hey, kid, what's 8+15?" and my 3 year old promptly answered "23, mommy! "

I think it comes up sometimes, but not right away in most cases.

Still would have taken the high road with #3.