Parents taking separate vacations from each other

[Anonymous]

"Actually, a lot of moms assume that the DH will get more interested in the kids as they get older. Not all guys are into babies. But many get into kids once they walk and talk and they can take them to ball games and fishing. "

Evidence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Actually, a lot of moms assume that the DH will get more interested in the kids as they get older. Not all guys are into babies. But many get into kids once they walk and talk and they can take them to ball games and fishing. "

Evidence?

My dad is one. I don't think I have a single photo of him holding me as a baby. He really did not like babies. Which worked out great, because my mom could not stand teenagers. But I do remember him taking me to the Thanksgiving Parade when I was 5. And going to my softball games as I got older. Building a raft with my brother. But he could not stand babies and toddlers. So, yes, many parents have different ages and stages they are better with than others.

[Anonymous]

guy here. not into babies. more into 3+.

[Anonymous]

1 week long family trip
+ 1 weekend family trip
+ 1 weekend guys trip
+ 1 weekend girls trip
+ 1 couple trip
= 1 happy family.

Works for us

[Anonymous]

Op have you considered that one of his buddies is making the plans? My husband is usually the ring leader for his guys trips. If he doesn't plan it, they don't go b/c no one else is willing to do the leg work upfront.

[Anonymous]

PP, your post about actually liking each other struck a nerve with me. My DH and I feel the same way. It is not something you can explain to others who do not feel that way about their spouse. I remember having to try to explain this to my MIL, to whom the idea was completely foreign (sadly her husband pretty much hated her). Consequently, her daughters (my SILS) had no idea why DH and I would vacation together, etc. They even tried to encourage otherwise. In other words, their way was the best. They were absolute bullies. Which as an adult, means beyond therapy. It is hard to be in a family that says they value togetherness but have few if any ways of showing it. Now we know why their husbands wanted things well, separate! I suppose every family is different, as long as you are not bullying your sons and daughters to be as miserable as (miserable parent/siblings)! Hopefully this attitude is rare and not normally perpetuated.

[Anonymous]

DH (~35 years old) does this every year - more often since we've had a child. They are typically 3-4 day long weekends. He always checks with me on dates before planning anything and I always have a ton of notice. He usually offers to fly a relative in town to help me for that time as well or offers to pay for the nanny to stay for an extra few hours. I honestly don't mind the break. I know that he's probably having more fun elsewhere doing things that I wouldn't necessarily want to be doing (staying up all night, enduring a hangover, spending a ton of money (his not mine or ours), etc and I don't mind the short break between us. He appreciates that I "let" him go and I appreciate that he considers me rather than "telling" me that he's going. I also have free reign to plan any time away for whatever reason, it's just that I don't because I'd rather spend time with DS.