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On NOT Waiting for Mr. Right-Single Women Having Babies
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Anonymous
I wasn't purposefully denied a father but it happened. And I am A-ok. |
Anonymous
And that is great. But just because "it happens" and things can turn out fine is no excuse for purposefully setting up a detrimental situation. |
Anonymous
You can't miss what you don't have. He might miss the idea of a dad but he doesn't miss having a dad in the same way a person who has one that was involved in their life does. What I think is far worse for a child is the "drop in on occasion dad" - think about it - the kid knows the father exists but then is left wondering why they aren't good enough for the dad to be their everyday and why is he so nice when he comes by but then forgets all about the child in the meantime. So there are things far worse then just never having a parent present. |
Anonymous
I agree. I think deliberately having a child on your own is a selfish thing to do, and it stems from people's belief that they somehow have a "right" to a child. This is going to sound harsh, but I do wonder why people who can't have a succesful relationship with another adult think it is such a good idea to have children. |
Anonymous
Being married does not guarantee that you have or are modeling a "successful" relationship to your kids. It also doesn't guarantee that your kids will be happy, well-adjusted or well-behaved. So, get over yourself. |
Anonymous
Have you ever heard of the divorce rate?? Many successful relationships turn unsuccessful, but, in your world, they are still allowed to have children, right? |
Anonymous
I've wondered that too. And I can think of several real-life examples. |
Anonymous
Of course you can. You don't think that 5, 8, 12, 15 year old boys who have been raised by single mothers don't look around at their friends' two-parent, intact families and think "why not me, too?" |
Anonymous
Carry-on troll. Be supportive or GO AWAY. Guess its better to just kill the babies right? Perhaps that is what your momma should've done. |
Anonymous
If you are so worried why are you having this discussion on the Special Concerns forums where there are bound to be single parents? Go judge elsewhere...just make sure your glass walls are secure. |
Anonymous
You know, you can't make many women who weren't lucky enough to find partners in life feel worse about themselves than they already do. But thanks for trying. |
Anonymous
Wow, really? I think that (of course) kids who are raised by single parents can have happy, healthy childhoods and grow into well-adjusted adults. But if your approach to your kid having only one parent present is "he won't miss what he doesn't have," maybe you're not emotionally sensitive enough to raise a child. |
Anonymous
Wow, you're nuts. And not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll. The person you just said should have been aborted wasn't being remotely troll-like. |
Anonymous
Maybe. Maybe not. You are making a huge assumption that every two parent family is happy, well adjusted and the father is some great Ward Cleaver type. Maybe the boys look at their friends with dads who are drunk and abusive and think - wow, thank goodness that's not me. Or they look at the kids whose dad is overly critical and always pointing out mistakes and never giving them credit. |
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