First sleep over for my daughter, and the mom was drinking wine.

[Anonymous]

Wow this post has really brought out the crazies. It goes to show what a paranoid bunch of up-tight assholes live in this area.

By the way, you might want to launch an "intervention" on Europe and take their 50 million kids into care, because right now there are millions of parents sitting round relaxing and drinking wine and eating nibbles, all with real life precious children under their control! even though they might have to drive at high speed to the ER any minute! almost as if they are living their lives!
STOP THEM! THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my daughter when camping with her girl scout troop and the troop leaders and chaperones talked about how much fun they had after the troop went to sleep b/c they brought wine. i found this disturbing and i can see how i would feel the same way as OP if the same happened at a birthday party sleepover. think of it this way. what if your child went on an overnight school field trip and the teacher chaperones sat around drinking wine after their students went to bed? or if you were to drop off your child at a babysitters and the sitter kicked back with some wine? its really no different. adults who are responsible for children should not drink. Especially if they are not your children (although this doesn't completely make sense to me, either. Its like if you are going to drive your child and a friend and you have only one car seat. You put your neighbor's kid in the carseat, but if there is a serious accident and the worse case happens...are you sure you want your own child to be the victim so your child's friend is not?? )

Drinking during a Girl Scout activity is expressly against the rules that leaders agree to abide by. I would find another troop.

[Anonymous]

You all need to go join the Mormon church. Then you won't need to worry about your kids being exposed to such debauchery.

[Anonymous]

How unsophisticated does someone have to be to equate an offer to have a glass of wine with getting "sloshed" to the point of not being able to perform CPR?

[Anonymous]

This whole thread is funny. Guess all the Europeans living in DC decided to stay silent. One of the PPs is right--they must be doing it all wrong across the pond....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How unsophisticated does someone have to be to equate an offer to have a glass of wine with getting "sloshed" to the point of not being able to perform CPR?

You bring up a very valid point here. You shouldn't be allowed to have sleepovers at your house if you are not CPR certified......<add intense sarcastic laugh here>

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm out of step from the DCUM paranoia, but I would interpret the invitation to have a glass of wine as an opportunity to get to know the parents better and socialize a bit. I don't equate a glass of wine among a group of moms with "partying;" maybe if they offerred shots of tequila I'd be concerned. The hysterics worried about the parents' capabilities to perform CPR after one parent has had a glass of wine sound completely insane to me. Then again I also wonder about the OP's post; I don't know too many 6yos who regularly do group sleepovers. I have a 6yo, and he's never had a single sleepover, and any talk of sleepovers tends to involve one child and families that know each other very well. So I wonder if the post was bait, and I have trouble believing that there are really hordes of DCUMs who'd be outraged at being invited to have a glass of wine and get to know parents who will be caring for their child for the evening.

There are periodically threads with alcohol involved and it always turns into a huge fight. There are apparently a whole lot of people out there who equate having one drink with getting drunk.

Agree. I also see the invite as a way to get to know the other parents.
I also think people who equate a glass with wine with getting sloshed are the ones with alcohol issues.

[Anonymous]

They can't go one night without alcohol? They need alcohol to socialize?

I have no problem with people drinking but they are responsible for other people's kids so wouldn't it make sense to be completely sober? Plus people will be driving home after socializing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can't go one night without alcohol? They need alcohol to socialize?

I have no problem with people drinking but they are responsible for other people's kids so wouldn't it make sense to be completely sober? Plus people will be driving home after socializing.

Most people can have a glass of wine and still be completely sober.

[Anonymous]

But why??? What is the need for wine? Why couldn't she say "would you like a soda? Why does it have to be wine? I was raised by alcoholics, and therefore, am very partifular about having no alcohol around my daughter. Than again, if I didn't know someone well enough to explain that to them, than I would not know them well enough to allow my child into their care for the night. I don't care if you think I'm crazy or too strict or whatever.. it is what it is, and if you can't respect that, than I have no interest in my child being around you anyway.

[Anonymous]

I would agree that you need to know the host well enough to gauge whether they would drink responsibly. I have noticed that the higher up the socio-economic scale that you go the more relaxed people are about drinking. Based on personal experience, I would be more concerned about rogue males in the home, than the casual wine drinking.

You shouldn't judge someone negatively based on the scenario you describe. But yes, drinking while having a small gathering of children (6-8?) even in the context of a sleep over is de rigueur for the sophisticated. It sounds like you have other deeper concerns about the hostess and that the wine drinking is just setting off some alarm bells. Also, your use of the word "chill" makes me think you may be AA--as a culture, AA's seem to be more quick to condemn any sort of drinking as a lack of morals--could this be your issue?

[Anonymous]

You Conservative "tea party moms" are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But why??? What is the need for wine? Why couldn't she say "would you like a soda? Why does it have to be wine? I was raised by alcoholics, and therefore, am very partifular about having no alcohol around my daughter. Than again, if I didn't know someone well enough to explain that to them, than I would not know them well enough to allow my child into their care for the night. I don't care if you think I'm crazy or too strict or whatever.. it is what it is, and if you can't respect that, than I have no interest in my child being around you anyway.

It doesn't have to be wine. But many of us find wine tasty and weren't raised by alcoholics, so for us, wine is a beverage we sometimes enjoy.

If she'd offered soda, no doubt someone would be outraged by the sugar or the artificial sweetener or the coloring or something.

[Anonymous]

1. wtf is a "rogue male"?
2. what does this have to do with tea party conservatives? they are against alcohol?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so sparkling cider, sparkling water, juice, etc. etc. etc.... It's rediculous that you can't not have your precious wine for one night while you're responsible for a bunch of children. But, like I said before.. I would know you well enough to tell you that to your face before I ever let (or chose not to let) my daughter spend the night in your home.