First sleep over for my daughter, and the mom was drinking wine.

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Anonymous wrote:You're not capable of caring for children after 2 glasses of wine? That's a riot!

I'm in agreement of this. Reeeeeeelax everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are crazy. Of course OP has every right to be concerned that her daughter's friends mom is drinking when there is a slumber party going on. I mean, mom can't abstain for one night when she has a bunch of young girls at the house? I'm a wine lover and not overly fussy about drinking by any means at all, but what if one of the girls parents is an alcoholic and doesn't want her kid seeing drinking as okay or a casual thing? Even barring that, some people just dno't like their kids to be around drinking, period. So I don't get how these posters are calling OP so rigid. Again, if my best friend had a glass or two around my child, fine. However, I don't think it would be crazy for another person, with other values, to feel differently. And if I had several children at my home for a slumber party, I would by no means assume it was okay for me to drink even ONE glass of wine while the care of other children is my responsibility. Ew. Either there is only one person posting here in support of the boozy slumber party or people really have gone mad.

I do wonder about that. I like my glass of wine as much as anyone, but I would "never" drink if someone else's kids were over. I'm 100% sure I would be a responsible chaperone, but why risk making the other parents uncomfortable about the situation?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't worry OP. My group probably has more than one or two drinks when doing sleep overs, and the kids are fine. There is always a sober parent (either mom or dad, depending on the sucker for the evening) who doesn't drink in case an ER visit is necessary.)

Everything is fine. Hope you took this opportunity to have a few glasses of wine yourself, since you are "off-duty" tonight!

Wow. What a great model of responsibility you are. Are you the poster child for perpetual adolescence? I hope you excuse yourself from view of the children b/c if you are impaired enough to not be able to drive a child to the ER if required, then you are probably impaired enough that the kids could tell. Really? If you can't drive, you should not be supervising my child.

I am dating myself, but as a child of the early 70s, I can't remember a time when I didn't see my mom or dad without a drink (gasp, and a cigar!) at a party. I turned out more than okay. So did all of my friends who were in their care during my slumber parties. Perhaps it was a different time, but it seems silly to stress so much a few glasses of wine.

I am up late nursing, and really can't wait until the baby sleeps through the night so I can drink wine again!

[Anonymous]

Okay, I do playdates with some moms and we each have a glass of wine. Sometime 2 over a course of 3 hours or so. We are totally fine. How do you know that this is not the case here. Yes, I too would freak if I found out the mom was "drinking, drinking". But I would have participated in a glass of wine myself if I could have. Everyone who is mad is automatically jumping to the conclusion that these women were partying. So far no evidence from OP of that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry OP. My group probably has more than one or two drinks when doing sleep overs, and the kids are fine. There is always a sober parent (either mom or dad, depending on the sucker for the evening) who doesn't drink in case an ER visit is necessary.)

Everything is fine. Hope you took this opportunity to have a few glasses of wine yourself, since you are "off-duty" tonight!

Wow. What a great model of responsibility you are. Are you the poster child for perpetual adolescence? I hope you excuse yourself from view of the children b/c if you are impaired enough to not be able to drive a child to the ER if required, then you are probably impaired enough that the kids could tell. Really? If you can't drive, you should not be supervising my child.

I am dating myself, but as a child of the early 70s, I can't remember a time when I didn't see my mom or dad without a drink (gasp, and a cigar!) at a party. I turned out more than okay. So did all of my friends who were in their care during my slumber parties. Perhaps it was a different time, but it seems silly to stress so much a few glasses of wine.

I am up late nursing, and really can't wait until the baby sleeps through the night so I can drink wine again!

This was my parents, too! and i never wore a seatbelt when my parents drove us home after having all those drinks and I turned out more than ok, too.


Just cuz our folks did it and we are fine doesn't make it ok now.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I do playdates with some moms and we each have a glass of wine. Sometime 2 over a course of 3 hours or so. We are totally fine. How do you know that this is not the case here. Yes, I too would freak if I found out the mom was "drinking, drinking". But I would have participated in a glass of wine myself if I could have. Everyone who is mad is automatically jumping to the conclusion that these women were partying. So far no evidence from OP of that.

At drop off time, and if you can't stay and watch, how do you know either way? Its a cause for concern.

[Anonymous]

Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

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Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

You do know the odds of all that happening are close to infinitesimal, right? Look, I'm the one who said I'd never drink if someone else's kids are over because I wouldn't want the parents to be worried. But really, this is getting crazy. You shouldn't plan your lives around the most unlikely scenario possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

Whether the mom has had a glass of wine is much less important than if the mother knows that chest compressions should always come before mouth to mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

You do know the odds of all that happening are close to infinitesimal, right? Look, I'm the one who said I'd never drink if someone else's kids are over because I wouldn't want the parents to be worried. But really, this is getting crazy. You shouldn't plan your lives around the most unlikely scenario possible.

Oh so we shouldn't wear seat belts either, right? and why buckle the kids on their carseats?
Let's all get wasted, we don't need to be sober when there are kids in the house, what are the odds?

BTW, did you check the smoke alarms?

Make up your mind, lady. You said one thing and now you're trying to make excuses to justify someone else's stupid mistake? Are you drunk or something? It does not make sense.

[Anonymous]

When I was a kid, my best friend's parents would not only get ripped on beer, but they would smoke pot. Right in the living room. I didn't know what pot was back then (I was eight) so I asked my friend what the smell was. She said it was incense. So I went home and told my mom that my friend's house smelled like incense. My mom just said "That's nice dear". And they would drive us around while drinking beer. I never told my parents because they never asked. I think it is important to ask your kids what goes on at the friends house. And how the parents act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

Whether the mom has had a glass of wine is much less important than if the mother knows that chest compressions should always come before mouth to mouth.

BS!

If the heart is beating and there's no resp movement, do you still do chest compression? That's not the issue here and I didn't intend to write in the right order anyway. The problem is you have a bunch of children in your house and you're not sober enough to be responsible for them.

Would you be OK with a drunk person doing CPR on your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you guys be OK if your child had to go to the ER and a buzzed mom had to drive them there?

How about she call 911 instead?

Would you be OK with your child in need of EMERGENCY CARE and the adult in charge be drunk?

911 will ask the mom to perform mouth to mouth, chest compression and the woman is buzzed. Will you be OK?

You do know the odds of all that happening are close to infinitesimal, right? Look, I'm the one who said I'd never drink if someone else's kids are over because I wouldn't want the parents to be worried. But really, this is getting crazy. You shouldn't plan your lives around the most unlikely scenario possible.

Oh so we shouldn't wear seat belts either, right? and why buckle the kids on their carseats?
Let's all get wasted, we don't need to be sober when there are kids in the house, what are the odds?

BTW, did you check the smoke alarms?

Make up your mind, lady. You said one thing and now you're trying to make excuses to justify someone else's stupid mistake? Are you drunk or something? It does not make sense.

Oh, come on! There's a MUCH greater chance of your child being hurt in a car accident than in someone else's house while the parent is drinking. Quit trying to justify your paranoia.

And I never changed my mind. Light drinking isn't dangerous. My choice to refrain from drinking is to make other parents feel more at ease and secure. It's a matter of manners, not safety.