Why so many single men not interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

If you actually look at the type of men young women go for it’s clear they don’t have this sixth sense that everyone on the internet likes to claim to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

This is what I see in my BIL and one of my guy friends. BIL in particular. He had a lackluster career for years and then recently quit that job and is sponging off his mom and doesn't appear to even be looking for another job. He thinks women who care about his lack of job are "shallow" but at his age (late 40s) I don't think it's about women just wanting a rich guy. I think women correctly see that he is not capable of taking care of himself, lacks the emotional maturity to deal with a regular job (like the rest of us do! my job isn't amazing but I need money so I suck it up -- this is somehow beyond him), and will be dead weight in any relationship. He did have a girlfriend for a couple years a while back when he was still employed, but he was extremely rigid and uncompromising with her and eventually she broke it off. TBH I was amazed she put up with him as long as she did.

Anyway, he will tell you that he just can't find a woman who meets his standards but the truth is that he is impossible and no one wants to date him, and as he gets older it gets worse. I think for a long time he was looking for a woman to come in and make his life nice for him -- create a nice home for him, cook and clean for him, bring in an income, make him feel good about himself, plan trips and fun activities and maintain his social life, etc. Now he's rounding on 50 and he's still waiting for some woman to come around and do all that. No one in their right mind would sign up for that, I'd rather be alone forever. But he thinks the problem is the quality of his dating pool.

Delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

If you actually look at the type of men young women go for it’s clear they don’t have this sixth sense that everyone on the internet likes to claim to have.

Usually not much of a sixth sense is needed: it’s only $$$$$$$$

[Anonymous]

I wonder why so many engage with obvious trolls. This is a post designed for engagement. The women-hating trolls come out to poke middle aged women (the highest readership here), and then middle aged women keep the conversation going by defending against obvious troll stuff. Why? It just makes this a miserable place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why so many engage with obvious trolls. This is a post designed for engagement. The women-hating trolls come out to poke middle aged women (the highest readership here), and then middle aged women keep the conversation going by defending against obvious troll stuff. Why? It just makes this a miserable place.

First time on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Imagine yourself as a balanced, 35 year old man with a job, apartment, and car.

Option 1: go home to a quiet apartment and be able to pursue hobbies and passion projects freely.

Option 2: spend a ton of money on another person who talks too much, requires expensive upkeep, removes the peace from his environment, takes time away from hobbies.

Yeah ……….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why so many engage with obvious trolls. This is a post designed for engagement. The women-hating trolls come out to poke middle aged women (the highest readership here), and then middle aged women keep the conversation going by defending against obvious troll stuff. Why? It just makes this a miserable place.

First time on DCUM?

No, the opposite, I am a long time user, like I joined when I was pregnant and that kid is in college. I’m constantly surprised that people, including you as your comment suggests, just accept the cesspool as a natural state of things.

[Anonymous]

It’s not just men, women have less interest in dating as well.

Honestly, I think it’s because prior to 10-20 years ago, dating, relationships, and marriage were overly hyped up. Everyone’s number one goal was to get married. Disney movies were about falling in love with “the one”. Most media - movies, music, etc - were about love.

The overall promise society/culture made was that a relationship will heal all your wounds and give you the ultimate sense of happiness.

Which, of course, isn’t true as human beings are, well, human, and most dating/relationships lead to a lot of unhappiness and pain.

So now, people are more focused on cultivating their own happiness and finding fulfillment in other, more rewarding ways. If they happen to meet the right person, great. If not, that’s fine.

Personally, I think it’s a good thing. I wasted my 20s chasing after men and playing the “good girl” because I thought marrying and having children young would bring me happiness. It didn’t, and I would have rather spent those years doing the things I actually wanted to do.

Now in my 40s, a man would have to be exceptional for me to spend my time and energy on him. I do meet exceptional men, and I do date them, but once the demands on my time become disproportionate to what I get from the relationship, it’s time to end things.

[Anonymous]

One of my male colleagues who is probably youngish Gen x has said his long term goal is to wait until social security kicks in and then relocate to a third world country where the American dollar can buy him the company of 24 year old bar girls every night. Our baby boom era boss is probably going to pass Gen X dude over for me, a millennial female. I'd like to say it is because I'm really competent at my work, but I think a big part of it is I don't say cringey things in meetings and I can be trusted not to freak out the backers when we have quasi social events. The Gen x guy has arguably a better resume and seniority, but I'm the one who always goes to client dinners. Always. And social security may not be around when he wants to be one of those guys. Weirdly he doesn't max out the company 401k match, so no one knows what he does with his money. I worry that some day we'll find out he's been storing porn on the company servers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my male colleagues who is probably youngish Gen x has said his long term goal is to wait until social security kicks in and then relocate to a third world country where the American dollar can buy him the company of 24 year old bar girls every night. Our baby boom era boss is probably going to pass Gen X dude over for me, a millennial female. I'd like to say it is because I'm really competent at my work, but I think a big part of it is I don't say cringey things in meetings and I can be trusted not to freak out the backers when we have quasi social events. The Gen x guy has arguably a better resume and seniority, but I'm the one who always goes to client dinners. Always. And social security may not be around when he wants to be one of those guys. Weirdly he doesn't max out the company 401k match, so no one knows what he does with his money. I worry that some day we'll find out he's been storing porn on the company servers.

Good on your co worker. Sounds like he values his peace and has a great plan in place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. [i]I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

The highlighted is the key. Date your age or work with a shrink/sex therapist why you can't get it up with women your own age group. There are plenty of fit women in their late 30s and early 40s in my gym.

Younger women don't want you much older men! They are attracted to the likes/men their age.

Right! When I was 27 I would have found the idea of dating a 40 year old never married man laughable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine yourself as a balanced, 35 year old man with a job, apartment, and car.

Option 1: go home to a quiet apartment and be able to pursue hobbies and passion projects freely.

Option 2: spend a ton of money on another person who talks too much, requires expensive upkeep, removes the peace from his environment, takes time away from hobbies.

Yeah ……….

And demand 6 6 6 because they deserve that …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.