Do you know anybody in your life that is bisexual?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least half the professional women I know I my circle are. This is a Northern Virginia set of professional feminine women from ages 35 to 50. Some are married and many are not. They do not outwardly advertise it. Many of these women are 8s, and 9s

At least! The married female bi bars be hopping in NoVA.

There’s such a thing as a married female bi bar in NoVA? Please share details. Asking for a friend.

Patsy’s, ENTYCE, Circa at the Botox

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all that being married to a passive temper tantruming ManChild, ramps up their T playing both roles in the household so they turn bi and find a cool woman.

HAHA
oh man thats a good one!

some were bi before the marriage to the man child -PS I can tell you that the bi str8 passing females I know married the biggest passive manchildren out there---i think its not by accident.

[Anonymous]

I have a few female friends who are. One is recently married to a man, one is long-time married to a man, a couple are single. A friend is currently dating a bi man.

[Anonymous]

I’m so confused by this question. The bi people I know are, like me, in monogamous relationships. I’m sure we all find people people that aren’t are spouse attractive but we don’t cheat on our spouses because we value our marriages. Why would this be more challenging for bi people?

[Anonymous]

Soooooo many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all that being married to a passive temper tantruming ManChild, ramps up their T playing both roles in the household so they turn bi and find a cool woman.

HAHA
oh man thats a good one!

some were bi before the marriage to the man child -PS I can tell you that the bi str8 passing females I know married the biggest passive manchildren out there---i think its not by accident.

The needy codependent dude looks for Type A’s. Masks long enough to get married then hit the wall when kids show up, revert back to their toddler days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. They're all married, mostly to opposite sex partners. I don't know what's tricky about it.

Yep, same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. They're all married, mostly to opposite sex partners. I don't know what's tricky about it.

Yep, same.

My friend who dated both men and women straight up told me that in her conservative community it was just easier to be married to a man. It's just a shame her husband was a giant jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused by this question. The bi people I know are, like me, in monogamous relationships. I’m sure we all find people people that aren’t are spouse attractive but we don’t cheat on our spouses because we value our marriages. Why would this be more challenging for bi people?

I don't think it necessarily makes it more challenging if you want to be faithful, but at some level same sex relationships are so different that marriage to the opposite sex in effect cuts off an inherent part of yourself. I am bi because of being sexually attracted to both sexes and have acted on it in the past. If something happened to my marriage, pretty certain I would come back to the previous state of affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a few female friends who are. One is recently married to a man, one is long-time married to a man, a couple are single. A friend is currently dating a bi man.

No such thing as a bi man.

[Anonymous]

I'm bi but I've been married to a man for 27 years, I'm very happy and I have no desire to relive my bi years. When I was actively bi I really enjoyed my experience with both women and men but I knew I needed to chose to live the life I wanted. I made the right choice for me. Since I met my husband I haven't met a woman who has led me to question my decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm bi but I've been married to a man for 27 years, I'm very happy and I have no desire to relive my bi years. When I was actively bi I really enjoyed my experience with both women and men but I knew I needed to chose to live the life I wanted. I made the right choice for me. Since I met my husband I haven't met a woman who has led me to question my decision.

Suurrreeee!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm bi but I've been married to a man for 27 years, I'm very happy and I have no desire to relive my bi years. When I was actively bi I really enjoyed my experience with both women and men but I knew I needed to chose to live the life I wanted. I made the right choice for me. Since I met my husband I haven't met a woman who has led me to question my decision.

Chances are you were bi curious but not seriously bi-sexual especially if this was in college. I had a couple of friends in college like this and they are very heterosexual.....at least I think!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tbh this is not important to me. If you are in a hetero marriage and you say you are bi, I'm like "okay." It would be like someone telling me they married a tall thin person but are also attracted to short heavier people. Ok, good for you, but I don't care? That's your private business. Why are you making a thing about it?

I had a colleague who used to lecture me about "bi visibility" and truly I don't get it. Why does it have to be visible? If you wind up in a same sex relationship I think it's important that's accepted and no one is discriminated against, so that's different. But if you are cis and in a hetero marriage, why is it important that the rest of us "see" that you are bi? It just feels like attention seeking behavior to me at that point, like you need people to understand you're not just some boring straight person. But, friend, I hate to break this to you --you are still just some boring straight person. The fact that you *would* date someone of the same sex is meaningless.

You get that there's a massive selection bias factor here, right? I'm a bi woman married to a man. I don't tell people at elementary school pickup or at work that hey, I like the ladies too, because I'm married and there is no reason this would come up.

The people you don't know about...you just don't know about. So they're not part of your mental model.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tbh this is not important to me. If you are in a hetero marriage and you say you are bi, I'm like "okay." It would be like someone telling me they married a tall thin person but are also attracted to short heavier people. Ok, good for you, but I don't care? That's your private business. Why are you making a thing about it?

I had a colleague who used to lecture me about "bi visibility" and truly I don't get it. Why does it have to be visible? If you wind up in a same sex relationship I think it's important that's accepted and no one is discriminated against, so that's different. But if you are cis and in a hetero marriage, why is it important that the rest of us "see" that you are bi? It just feels like attention seeking behavior to me at that point, like you need people to understand you're not just some boring straight person. But, friend, I hate to break this to you --you are still just some boring straight person. The fact that you *would* date someone of the same sex is meaningless.

All of this.