Insensitive Bf

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")

OP It was not in response to anything I said. He referenced someone being my size and then sent me a link to a tweet where someone referred to that person as "short and chubby." When I was like, wtf he proceeded to say "I'm not doing this today, you're picking a fight."

I gained 15 pounds last year due to stress from a job. I now have a less stressful job and have been working with a dietician and I work out 4-5x a week. I am consistently losing, albeit slowly bc I was always super thin and so I'm not used to having to diet. He knows I am insecure about my current weight. Then proceeds to ask why I am so hard on myself. Uh, maybe because of you?

This is rude and thoughtless. If once, could be ignored to give benefit of doubt for misunderstanding but two strikes are a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Break up.

[Anonymous]

Please come back and tell us when you’ve ended it. Staying with him will ruin your life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is not into you. He does not find you attractive. You are a placeholder for that loser. A hole for his pole.

Actually unreal response lol.

Look, I know DCUM looooooves to blame OP but we're now blaming a woman for her bf being a dick?

No, no. We are blaming her for willingly being the dick-holder for his dick, even after knowing he is a dick.

A big dick - but only figuratively.

He is giving a small dick energy - literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please come back and tell us when you’ve ended it. Staying with him will ruin your life.

She is not a mentally healthy chick. She will never end it.

OP, please consider ChatGPT.

[Anonymous]

You need to break up with him and work on your self esteem. If you don’t work on your self esteem you will just attract a similar guy and repeat the same relationship dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")

OP It was not in response to anything I said. He referenced someone being my size and then sent me a link to a tweet where someone referred to that person as "short and chubby." When I was like, wtf he proceeded to say "I'm not doing this today, you're picking a fight."

I gained 15 pounds last year due to stress from a job. I now have a less stressful job and have been working with a dietician and I work out 4-5x a week. I am consistently losing, albeit slowly bc I was always super thin and so I'm not used to having to diet. He knows I am insecure about my current weight. Then proceeds to ask why I am so hard on myself. Uh, maybe because of you?

DUMP HIM. I dated a guy who knew I was insecure over some of my signs of aging. So whenever he saw a woman celebrity my age, he would comment on how horribly she aged. Never said the same about male celebrities.

I dumped him and life is so much better. You are young, you can literally dump him today, hop back on dating apps, and land a better guy by next week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please come back and tell us when you’ve ended it. Staying with him will ruin your life.

She is not a mentally healthy chick. She will never end it.

OP, please consider ChatGPT.

Do some of you post this just to reverse psychology the OP into dumping the guy or are you generally this presumptuous? Low self-esteem is not indicative of mental instability.

Jesus f some of you are insufferable. It's like if the person doesn't dump/divorce the guy after the first three responses saying to do so you're like "She's never gonna do it."

[Anonymous]

^^^Also. People are probably not gonna come back and update you on their personal problems if you are a dick about said personal problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You know how you read posts of married people who are miserable and there are comments like "well you ignored all the red flags" or "you knew what he was like before you married him". That will be you. He's someone who you will end up unhappily married to because you ignored all the issues when you were dating.

Agree one thousand percent. And this is a HUGE red flag.

OP Thanks. I know. I’ll be 33 in June and I’m scared to be single at my age. That’s all it is.

And in 20 years you'll be 53 and miserable with this flake who doesn't have the common courtesy to stick to plans he's made with you. DTMFA.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know it’s easy for us to see that you should just dump him. It’s easy for you to write it off because we are not in the relationship, but most of us have been with partners who are incapable of giving us what we need. Really sit with the question: does this person make me feel loved the way I deserve to feel loved? do you feel safe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")

OP It was not in response to anything I said. He referenced someone being my size and then sent me a link to a tweet where someone referred to that person as "short and chubby." When I was like, wtf he proceeded to say "I'm not doing this today, you're picking a fight."

I gained 15 pounds last year due to stress from a job. I now have a less stressful job and have been working with a dietician and I work out 4-5x a week. I am consistently losing, albeit slowly bc I was always super thin and so I'm not used to having to diet. He knows I am insecure about my current weight. Then proceeds to ask why I am so hard on myself. Uh, maybe because of you?

DUMP HIM. I dated a guy who knew I was insecure over some of my signs of aging. So whenever he saw a woman celebrity my age, he would comment on how horribly she aged. Never said the same about male celebrities.

I dumped him and life is so much better. You are young, you can literally dump him today, hop back on dating apps, and land a better guy by next week.

LOL! it is not that easy to find a better guy next week. haha, how is it working out for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You know how you read posts of married people who are miserable and there are comments like "well you ignored all the red flags" or "you knew what he was like before you married him". That will be you. He's someone who you will end up unhappily married to because you ignored all the issues when you were dating.

Agree one thousand percent. And this is a HUGE red flag.

OP Thanks. I know. I’ll be 33 in June and I’m scared to be single at my age. That’s all it is.

So you’d marry this dude, have kids and then show your kids what it’s like to be miserable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please come back and tell us when you’ve ended it. Staying with him will ruin your life.

She is not a mentally healthy chick. She will never end it.

OP, please consider ChatGPT.

so, what is the problem, just continue to sleep with her.