Insensitive Bf

[Anonymous]

Op, I'm not even going to read your post because the overall advice is the same:

You are entitled to a preference

Act on your preference. Dating is to find your best match. Do your part

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been dating? Do you live together?

OP just shy of two years and no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been dating? Do you live together?

OP just shy of two years and no.

Just break up then. This is easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You know how you read posts of married people who are miserable and there are comments like "well you ignored all the red flags" or "you knew what he was like before you married him". That will be you. He's someone who you will end up unhappily married to because you ignored all the issues when you were dating.

Agree one thousand percent. And this is a HUGE red flag.

OP Thanks. I know. I’ll be 33 in June and I’m scared to be single at my age. That’s all it is.

Ok well then....stay in a miserable relationship? I don't know what advice you're looking for. He's not going to change. This is who he is. Either work on your self to realize you deserve better, or stay with him and stop complaining about it.

No I’m just saying, that’s why I’m still around, I know you’re right and we should probably break up.

You should definitely break up. Everyone I know met their spouse between 30-34. If you were 40 I could see where you’re coming from but come on.

[Anonymous]

Classic textbook case of gaslighting and blame shifting. You deserve someone who takes accountability and cares about how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Classic textbook case of gaslighting and blame shifting. You deserve someone who takes accountability and cares about how you feel.

The “you’re late for everything” bit in response to her being annoyed she already RSVPd clinched this for me. Okay, dude, if she’s late for everything, point it out when she’s late for something. “Beth, you just walked into the restaurant and I’ve been waiting at the dinner table alone for 15 minutes.” It can’t bother you that bad if you let it fester until she’s mad at you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You know how you read posts of married people who are miserable and there are comments like "well you ignored all the red flags" or "you knew what he was like before you married him". That will be you. He's someone who you will end up unhappily married to because you ignored all the issues when you were dating.

Agree one thousand percent. And this is a HUGE red flag.

OP Thanks. I know. I’ll be 33 in June and I’m scared to be single at my age. That’s all it is.

I'm the PP and I would much rather be single than be with a man like that. Life is too short. But also, you are ONLY 32! You're still very young. You can and should find someone who values you and treats you better. Do you want to have children with a man who completely dismisses everything you say?

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Do it for yourself OP. You still have time to find someone who treats you nicely or you can just treat yourself nicely.
I was with someone like this and the breaking point for me was when I was in tears over how completely selfish he was being and I thought- "hoo boy, my brother would not let someone treat me like this. My father would not let someone treat me like this". Hopefully you have high standards like that in your life. If not, think of a character. Would Gomez Addams think this is OK? No he would not.

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Anonymous wrote:You know how you read posts of married people who are miserable and there are comments like "well you ignored all the red flags" or "you knew what he was like before you married him". That will be you. He's someone who you will end up unhappily married to because you ignored all the issues when you were dating.

Agree one thousand percent. And this is a HUGE red flag.

OP Thanks. I know. I’ll be 33 in June and I’m scared to be single at my age. That’s all it is.

I'm the PP and I would much rather be single than be with a man like that. Life is too short. But also, you are ONLY 32! You're still very young. You can and should find someone who values you and treats you better. Do you want to have children with a man who completely dismisses everything you say?

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Do it for yourself OP. You still have time to find someone who treats you nicely or you can just treat yourself nicely.
I was with someone like this and the breaking point for me was when I was in tears over how completely selfish he was being and I thought- "hoo boy, my brother would not let someone treat me like this. My father would not let someone treat me like this". Hopefully you have high standards like that in your life. If not, think of a character. Would Gomez Addams think this is OK? No he would not.

OP The absolutely insane thing is I have an amazing father. Idk why I’ve been tolerating this

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been dating? Do you live together?

OP just shy of two years and no.

Just break up then. This is easy.

+1, you havE nothing to lose but time may feel lost. Now you know how to look for a better partner. I moved in with my husband in the first few months (I kept my condo as a plan B) and we've been together 15 years.

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DTMFA

[Anonymous]

You’ve been tolerating this because of your first reply post- you’re scared of being alone at your age. Actual living life is being scared at times and being scared of growth. Time is still ticking….. something that only becomes fast and more alarming as your get older. Do you want to waste more time?

[Anonymous]

He’s avoidant and you’re tolerating being treated like crap because you’re anxiously attached. Dump him. Go to therapy to learn about yourself. Try again. It’ll be better, I promise. Do you really want to waste any more time with this clown?

[Anonymous]

You've gotten the bottom line: break up ASAP. Fear is holding you back. Just do it. You will find someone more worthy and more compatible with you.