Marriage like a train wreck in slow motion before my eyes

[Anonymous]

I can't help you except to say that there are some men who are just not trained to be interested, caring, or inquisitive. My husband is one. I ask about him and then ask him to ask me about how I am and he says, "Conversation is not a ping-pong match." He's very depressed--perhaps your DH is, too.
Look for anything he does that is considerate or kind or attentive and praise him to the skies, even weeks afterwards. My husband eats up the praise when he makes breakfast for us all. You wouldn't believe how many superlatives i can find about buttered toast and homemade (excellent) coffee.
But priority #1 is YOU. The best thing you can do for your children and your marriage is to take care of you. Book group, Zoom SN parents, school and neighborhood issues--you need to find your tribe. Or at least one person who gets you and will listen. In my experience, that person is rarely male. (Excuse my sexism).
Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't help you except to say that there are some men who are just not trained to be interested, caring, or inquisitive. My husband is one. I ask about him and then ask him to ask me about how I am and he says, "Conversation is not a ping-pong match." He's very depressed--perhaps your DH is, too.
Look for anything he does that is considerate or kind or attentive and praise him to the skies, even weeks afterwards. My husband eats up the praise when he makes breakfast for us all. You wouldn't believe how many superlatives i can find about buttered toast and homemade (excellent) coffee.
But priority #1 is YOU. The best thing you can do for your children and your marriage is to take care of you. Book group, Zoom SN parents, school and neighborhood issues--you need to find your tribe. Or at least one person who gets you and will listen. In my experience, that person is rarely male. (Excuse my sexism).
Good luck, OP.

That sounds like autism and he needs socialization or DB or ABA therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like a gray divorce is the best of a bunch of bad choices forward.

That plus hire a ton of household help and therapists, if you have the money and see progress.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Get a job and hire lots of help.