I have realized I cannot be in a relationship with a physically less attractive man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People find different things attractive. I like my men burly and hairy and I think that’s not a combo most women find hot but it really does it for me (and so I married a man like that.)

But also - if you are married to someone long enough, unless they look like a cave troll, their personality and treatment of you and the way they act in the marriage become a lot more important in terms of attractiveness than any looks. I don’t care how hot a guy is, if all he’s good for is staring at him, and he contributes nothing to the marriage, no thanks.

Agree with second point. Personality and emotional intelligence, romantic effort matter so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all have our things, OP. For me pudge is not a problem, but hairy is. This is probably why I prefer East Asian men, and married one. He happens to also be very muscular, but it's actually not the turn on people might think, because when I hug him, he's too hard - I want a little softness. Also he's short, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want a crick in my neck when I look at my husband.

NP. Common misconception about Asian men. Not small.

Now the Irish curse on the other hand…

What about his d..ck? Did he get surgery to improve it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

Every trash can has a lid. Just because you don't find someone attractive doesn't mean that someone else feels the same way. I'm sure plenty of men don't find you attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all have our things, OP. For me pudge is not a problem, but hairy is. This is probably why I prefer East Asian men, and married one. He happens to also be very muscular, but it's actually not the turn on people might think, because when I hug him, he's too hard - I want a little softness. Also he's short, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want a crick in my neck when I look at my husband.

NP. Common misconception about Asian men. Not small.

Now the Irish curse on the other hand…

What about his d..ck? Did he get surgery to improve it?

Confucius say “small PP good for back door.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oof this reads to me like you are dating a player and are about to get burned

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oof this reads to me like you are dating a player and are about to get burned

+1

OP is going to learn there is a difference between getting a man to sleep with you (basically free) and getting a man to commit to you (Mission Impossible, if he's desirable). Understand that OP wants more than her looksmatch, but she should consider that those men are hard to keep.

[Anonymous]

I’m the same OP. I’d rather be single. I’m much older (60+) and I don’t lie about my age, but 60 year old men are yuck 90% of the time. I had a relationship a couple years after my divorce that was mostly physical, but didn’t work out for common interests, lifestyle, intellect, etc. Oh, well. Got a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the same for me! I used to be very accepting in terms of looks, just no extra weight please. Now I am only into really fit men and I think it’s because my libido is lower due to perimenopause. It’s like some older men can only be turned on by better looking/younger women.

This is true. My ex was handsome when we married 30 years ago, but looks like doodoo now. And so do all my married friends’ husbands.
Women age better than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

Your view of men is very warped, and you need help with it.

Where on earth do you get that "if we get fat" that "men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women"?

Most of the men on this board are fathers. I am. I have three daughters and a wife I love more than anything. In fact, I love my sisters, love my mother, and deeply care for many other women in my life. There is no "disdain" for women, in general or specifically. And almost all the other men I know feel the same.

If the men you are close to have a "general baseline disdain for women," you should not have them in your life.

My dude, pretending we don’t live in a misogynistic patriarchal society doesn’t help you prove your point. You can’t just say “it doesn’t exist!” When there is evidence absolutely everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP will change her tune as soon as she gets with a guy rockin’ a Red Bull can between his legs.

Middle school boys invading the boards because DCPS is off today.

Not in middle school and guessing you don’t know the experience.

I’m female, so yeah. Only proving my point here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

Your view of men is very warped, and you need help with it.

Where on earth do you get that "if we get fat" that "men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women"?

Most of the men on this board are fathers. I am. I have three daughters and a wife I love more than anything. In fact, I love my sisters, love my mother, and deeply care for many other women in my life. There is no "disdain" for women, in general or specifically. And almost all the other men I know feel the same.

If the men you are close to have a "general baseline disdain for women," you should not have them in your life.

NP. From literally every corned of my lived experience on this planet. Are you a bot or something?

[Anonymous]

Your view of men is very warped, and you need help with it.

Where on earth do you get that "if we get fat" that "men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women"?

Most of the men on this board are fathers. I am. I have three daughters and a wife I love more than anything. In fact, I love my sisters, love my mother, and deeply care for many other women in my life. There is no "disdain" for women, in general or specifically. And almost all the other men I know feel the same.

If the men you are close to have a "general baseline disdain for women," you should not have them in your life.

My dude, pretending we don’t live in a misogynistic patriarchal society doesn’t help you prove your point. You can’t just say “it doesn’t exist!” When there is evidence absolutely everywhere.

Your issue is not living in a "misogynistic patriarchal society". It is that you are unpleasant and awful to be around. Specifically, you do not like yourself and spread that anger wherever you go. The fact that you do not accept that men can love their daughters, wives, sisters, friends, etc., tells us all we need to know about you.

PS - Write like a middle-aged woman. When you try to be funny and hip (e.g., My dude), you come off as super cringy.

[Anonymous]

Your view of men is very warped, and you need help with it.

Where on earth do you get that "if we get fat" that "men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women"?

Most of the men on this board are fathers. I am. I have three daughters and a wife I love more than anything. In fact, I love my sisters, love my mother, and deeply care for many other women in my life. There is no "disdain" for women, in general or specifically. And almost all the other men I know feel the same.

If the men you are close to have a "general baseline disdain for women," you should not have them in your life.

NP. From literally every corned of my lived experience on this planet. Are you a bot or something?

First, you are sock puppetting. Your writing style is distinctive (e.g., every corned (sic) of my lived (sic) experience) so it is clear who is posting. Next, did your father or brothers hate you when you gained weight? If so, I can see why you are the way you are.

[Anonymous]

This is true. My ex was handsome when we married 30 years ago, but looks like doodoo now. And so do all my married friends’ husbands.
Women age better than men.

So your ex was handsome while he was with you, but since you split, he looks like "doodoo"? Sure, honey.

Is he dating? Yes. Do other (prettier) women find him attractive? Yes, again.

Wait, someone is calling your table. "Bitterness, party of one."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

Ah well I don’t expect perfection, but I can’t sleep with a guy who has a big belly nor with a guy that is a bad person. That’s generally how it works.

You are lucky the men you slept with did not expect perfection either. Or, likely, anything close to it.

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

If you think men hate women, I know exactly what kind of men you're choosing to chase.

You're doing the meme about most men being invisible to you.