I have realized I cannot be in a relationship with a physically less attractive man

[Anonymous]

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

Ah well I don’t expect perfection, but I can’t sleep with a guy who has a big belly nor with a guy that is a bad person. That’s generally how it works.

You are lucky the men you slept with did not expect perfection either. Or, likely, anything close to it.

[Anonymous]

At least you admit to being a superficial woman. As long as you tell the would be man that there are physical requirements to your presence and he agrees, you are good. Hopefully he includes sex everyday and no more than a 5% deviation in your weight in the prenup in your appearance agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dated, got engaged to, and married someone you didn’t find physically attractive, it didn’t work out, and now you have advice?

k

What is it about women from failed relationships believing they are now gurus on all things dating? It's like getting medical advice from guys who flunked out of med school.

On point ^.

[Anonymous]

Have fun being alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all have our things, OP. For me pudge is not a problem, but hairy is. This is probably why I prefer East Asian men, and married one. He happens to also be very muscular, but it's actually not the turn on people might think, because when I hug him, he's too hard - I want a little softness. Also he's short, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want a crick in my neck when I look at my husband.

What about his d..ck? Did he get surgery to improve it?

[Anonymous]

People find different things attractive. I like my men burly and hairy and I think that’s not a combo most women find hot but it really does it for me (and so I married a man like that.)

But also - if you are married to someone long enough, unless they look like a cave troll, their personality and treatment of you and the way they act in the marriage become a lot more important in terms of attractiveness than any looks. I don’t care how hot a guy is, if all he’s good for is staring at him, and he contributes nothing to the marriage, no thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

STFU.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

Ah well I don’t expect perfection, but I can’t sleep with a guy who has a big belly nor with a guy that is a bad person. That’s generally how it works.

You are lucky the men you slept with did not expect perfection either. Or, likely, anything close to it.

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

[Anonymous]

OP will change her tune as soon as she gets with a guy rockin’ a Red Bull can between his legs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP will change her tune as soon as she gets with a guy rockin’ a Red Bull can between his legs.

Middle school boys invading the boards because DCPS is off today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP will change her tune as soon as she gets with a guy rockin’ a Red Bull can between his legs.

Middle school boys invading the boards because DCPS is off today.

Not in middle school and guessing you don’t know the experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

Ah well I don’t expect perfection, but I can’t sleep with a guy who has a big belly nor with a guy that is a bad person. That’s generally how it works.

You are lucky the men you slept with did not expect perfection either. Or, likely, anything close to it.

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

So…we’re not body positive anymore?

Ohhh, right. GLP-1s. My bad.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP.

Fit people and ones lucky enough to still be objectively attractive 40s and beyond do not need to lower their standards.

Keep up or be replaced with an upgrade more physically attractive.

[Anonymous]

Lol men in here getting salty because they’re getting called out. Please. Women have been taught from birth that looking good matters and as a result put in a ton of time and energy into their hair, skin, wardrobe, etc. We also know if we get fat that men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women. Now that a woman doesn’t want to get with a fat greasy loser, they start crying.

Your view of men is very warped, and you need help with it.

Where on earth do you get that "if we get fat" that "men will hate us even more than their general baseline disdain for women"?

Most of the men on this board are fathers. I am. I have three daughters and a wife I love more than anything. In fact, I love my sisters, love my mother, and deeply care for many other women in my life. There is no "disdain" for women, in general or specifically. And almost all the other men I know feel the same.

If the men you are close to have a "general baseline disdain for women," you should not have them in your life.