I have realized I cannot be in a relationship with a physically less attractive man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because you dont find other men attractive doesn't mean there partner doesn't

You do realize that others may look at you and question why your bf is with you who they may consider more attractive then you.

anyuddal?

OP here. No, actually I am very attractive myself.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

Yes it would, and it would be fair and right to do so. It's basic biology--There is asymmetric attractiveness between the sexes: most women are attractive to most men, while most men are not attractive to most women.

[Anonymous]

Just because you don't find other men attractive doesn't mean their partner doesn't

You do realize that others may look at you and question why your bf is with you, who they may consider more attractive than you.

anyuddal?

OP here. No, actually I am very attractive myself.

Very attractive yourself, huh? If you were, you would have attracted a very attractive mate. You are much less attractive than you believe you are.

Men might want to have sex with you, but only because they are hard-up enough to try anything. It all has to do with your availability, and nothing to do with how you look.

BTW - what does "anyuddal" mean?

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. No, actually I am very attractive myself.

Very attractive yourself, huh? If you were, you would have attracted a very attractive mate. You are much less attractive than you believe you are.

Men might want to have sex with you, but only because they are hard-up enough to try anything. It all has to do with your availability, and nothing to do with how you look.

OP here. When I was young I had low self-esteem. I was poor, so even though I was attractive, I didn't play it up. I have accepted a man who was crazy about me but not vice-versa.

[Anonymous]

What happens after some disfigurement out of your control?
Do you really want to be -that- person? Inviting-in bad karma due to your unattractive personality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all have our things, OP. For me pudge is not a problem, but hairy is. This is probably why I prefer East Asian men, and married one. He happens to also be very muscular, but it's actually not the turn on people might think, because when I hug him, he's too hard - I want a little softness. Also he's short, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want a crick in my neck when I look at my husband.

I literally wrote my guy a bday card today about how I hope he enjoys himself this decade as much as I will with his salt and pepper hair and graying chest hair 🤤

Different strokes!

[Anonymous]

That’s understandable. Let’s assume that the men that you’re involved with feel the same way. What’s your plan for the future? When aging and either wrinkles or obvious plastic surgery take over? Since very few elderly people are genuinely physically attractive, are you planning to be one of the very few?

[Anonymous]

It’s the same for me! I used to be very accepting in terms of looks, just no extra weight please. Now I am only into really fit men and I think it’s because my libido is lower due to perimenopause. It’s like some older men can only be turned on by better looking/younger women.

[Anonymous]

I have never been able to settle, not just on looks but also chemistry.

That is why I never married (ie, I dated tons of dependable, nice guys …but if I was not passionate about sleeping with them, I could not fathom sharing a bed with them for a lifetime).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

It is assumed that men are like this.

Hence why they leave devoted wives who raised their children, but have the nerve to age in the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s understandable. Let’s assume that the men that you’re involved with feel the same way. What’s your plan for the future? When aging and either wrinkles or obvious plastic surgery take over? Since very few elderly people are genuinely physically attractive, are you planning to be one of the very few?

OP here. Yes, I plan to maintain my looks well into old age. Nowadays totally possible. Jane Fonda looked better at 70 than at 35.

[Anonymous]

That's ok for you OP, the rest of us can trust our own attraction indicator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

Yep. And rightfully so.

No one, of any gender, has to walk through life maximizing their attractiveness for others. We aren't mere objects for strangers or potential dates or even our spouses to gaze upon.