I have realized I cannot be in a relationship with a physically less attractive man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. No, actually I am very attractive myself.

Very attractive yourself, huh? If you were, you would have attracted a very attractive mate. You are much less attractive than you believe you are.

Men might want to have sex with you, but only because they are hard-up enough to try anything. It all has to do with your availability, and nothing to do with how you look.

OP here. When I was young I had low self-esteem. I was poor, so even though I was attractive, I didn't play it up. I have accepted a man who was crazy about me but not vice-versa.

Well, that was your problem -- settling. Many people make that mistake, for many different reasons. But it was in fact, your problem. Not a looks problem your former partner had or looks problem any potential partners have. I would bet a pot of money you will make another mistake. And soon. Time will tell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

It is assumed that men are like this.

Hence why they leave devoted wives who raised their children, but have the nerve to age in the process.

Women do this as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

It is assumed that men are like this.

Hence why they leave devoted wives who raised their children, but have the nerve to age in the process.

Women do this as well.

Much less

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

You too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Charlotte York would like a word.

love this! Harry is by far the best guy anyone dated in that show

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dated, got engaged to, and married someone you didn’t find physically attractive, it didn’t work out, and now you have advice?

k

Right?
What’s it like to be the kind of person who contemplates a 20 year marriage, a relationship that they have been in for nearly their entire adult life, and wonder why it ended, and come up with this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dated, got engaged to, and married someone you didn’t find physically attractive, it didn’t work out, and now you have advice?

k

Right?
What’s it like to be the kind of person who contemplates a 20 year marriage, a relationship that they have been in for nearly their entire adult life, and wonder why it ended, and come up with this?

+1

The big insight OP has is "I want hotter guys!!!"?

Lol. Ok.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes the most attractive people are the ugliest inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the most attractive people are the ugliest inside.

Very true.

But here's what gets me every time DCUM goes low-IQ on external appearance: we all have different standards of beauty. What OP finds attractive may not be my idea of an attractive man and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Another thread about unattractive guys, OP?

[Anonymous]

Every time I see a guy with a woman like you, I can’t imagine how they do it. I mean, you are gorgeous and all, but you will open your mouth eventually in front of his friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the most attractive people are the ugliest inside.

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dated, got engaged to, and married someone you didn’t find physically attractive, it didn’t work out, and now you have advice?

k

What is it about women from failed relationships believing they are now gurus on all things dating? It's like getting medical advice from guys who flunked out of med school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the most attractive people are the ugliest inside.

Entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, aholes

Ah well I don’t expect perfection, but I can’t sleep with a guy who has a big belly nor with a guy that is a bad person. That’s generally how it works.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I can imagine it. This thread would light up like a forest fire with most of the women posters going ape$h!t crazy that a man would say something like that about women.

Yep. And rightfully so.

No one, of any gender, has to walk through life maximizing their attractiveness for others. We aren't mere objects for strangers or potential dates or even our spouses to gaze upon.

The hypocrisy of your post is breathtaking. You freely affirm that if the same post were a man bashing women, it is worth responding to, but not if it is the other way around.

Prejudice is prejudiced. You may not understand it, but affirming prejudice toward one group of people only makes you look evil.