MIL obsessed with our kids size

[Anonymous]

Lol well your husband shouldn't have married a midget

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a petite woman. 5’1”. 100 pounds. DH is large. Athletic, brawny build. 6’5” and over 250. His mom is average size and his dad and brother are also huge men.

We have two kids. DD is almost 3 and looks just like DH. Same exact face and build. She’s wearing 5/6T and looks about 4-5 years old. She’s not thin at a fine weight according to her pediatrician. Very active, good diet.

DS is one and is tiny. 6-9 month closing. Just super petite. He looks a lot like me.

He does have some eating issues but nothing too extreme.

This bothers my MIL to know end. She doesn’t understand genetics is gamble and seems like it’s my personal wrongdoing that we have a petite son and above average daughter.

“Boys are suppose to be the big ones.”

She will not shut up about it. She seems so disappointed my daughter is big but specifically that my son is “puny”.

I cat take it anymore.

I have the same issue

[Anonymous]

Just have your husband talk to her. “Now that the kids are getting old enough to understand, please don’t comment on their bodies/size. You are going to give them a complex and hurt their self esteem” (or however he wants to phrase)

Getting into some type of discussion about values or sexism is likely to just create drama, and people like this won’t truly even understand what you mean (or are upset about) anyway. No point. Will just make more work for you somehow, in the end.

Just be matter of fact & focus on the boundary you need to set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a petite woman. 5’1”. 100 pounds. DH is large. Athletic, brawny build. 6’5” and over 250. His mom is average size and his dad and brother are also huge men.

We have two kids. DD is almost 3 and looks just like DH. Same exact face and build. She’s wearing 5/6T and looks about 4-5 years old. She’s not thin at a fine weight according to her pediatrician. Very active, good diet.

DS is one and is tiny. 6-9 month closing. Just super petite. He looks a lot like me.

He does have some eating issues but nothing too extreme.

This bothers my MIL to know end. She doesn’t understand genetics is gamble and seems like it’s my personal wrongdoing that we have a petite son and above average daughter.

“Boys are suppose to be the big ones.”

She will not shut up about it. She seems so disappointed my daughter is big but specifically that my son is “puny”.

I cat take it anymore.

With your husband being that big the chances you have a small child are unlikely. Every couple I know in this situation have tall kids. Tall tends to be stronger genes. My son was a small baby, toddler and preschooler. About 5 percentile for height and 20 for weight. 20 percent or so at 5 and now at 8 he’s about 80 percentile. He’s too little to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

If this is your "biggest fear" life is pretty simple for you. Plus you're an idiot.