MIL obsessed with our kids size

[Anonymous]

I am a petite woman. 5’1”. 100 pounds. DH is large. Athletic, brawny build. 6’5” and over 250. His mom is average size and his dad and brother are also huge men.

We have two kids. DD is almost 3 and looks just like DH. Same exact face and build. She’s wearing 5/6T and looks about 4-5 years old. She’s not thin at a fine weight according to her pediatrician. Very active, good diet.

DS is one and is tiny. 6-9 month closing. Just super petite. He looks a lot like me.

He does have some eating issues but nothing too extreme.

This bothers my MIL to know end. She doesn’t understand genetics is gamble and seems like it’s my personal wrongdoing that we have a petite son and above average daughter.

“Boys are suppose to be the big ones.”

She will not shut up about it. She seems so disappointed my daughter is big but specifically that my son is “puny”.

I cat take it anymore.

[Anonymous]

Use your words. Ask her to refrain from making comments like that and shut down those conversations.

[Anonymous]

MIL sounds like a creep. Protect your children and keep your distance.

[Anonymous]

I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use your words. Ask her to refrain from making comments like that and shut down those conversations.

“Use your words” is so rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use your words. Ask her to refrain from making comments like that and shut down those conversations.

“Use your words” is so rude

Speak up. Say something. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

[Anonymous]

My adult son is 5'5" and very thin. It is what it is, OP. Your husband needs to tell his mother to shut up, and you have to make sure that the pediatrician is fine with your children's growth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

There’s nothing to examine. Small boys and big girls have it harder than than the other way around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a petite woman. 5’1”. 100 pounds. DH is large. Athletic, brawny build. 6’5” and over 250. His mom is average size and his dad and brother are also huge men.

We have two kids. DD is almost 3 and looks just like DH. Same exact face and build. She’s wearing 5/6T and looks about 4-5 years old. She’s not thin at a fine weight according to her pediatrician. Very active, good diet.

DS is one and is tiny. 6-9 month closing. Just super petite. He looks a lot like me.

He does have some eating issues but nothing too extreme.

This bothers my MIL to know end. She doesn’t understand genetics is gamble and seems like it’s my personal wrongdoing that we have a petite son and above average daughter.

“Boys are suppose to be the big ones.”

She will not shut up about it. She seems so disappointed my daughter is big but specifically that my son is “puny”.

I cat take it anymore.

Ask her to work her magic and make them switch

[Anonymous]

Presumably she comes from a larger family and wanted her grandkids to look like her family. It’s not logical but is human nature and understandable.

Also she is probably (rightly) concerned that life can be harder for small males. Again it’s human nature to want your biological descendants to have every advantage in life.

[Anonymous]

Your son is 1. Just because he’s small doesn’t mean he won’t go through puberty and be average male height. I would have a serious confrontation with my MIL NOW and tell her so can never saw anything re either kids’ size in front of you or them.

I would be firm on this.

[Anonymous]

How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

[Anonymous]

Tell your MIL you're a pathetic troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

There’s nothing to examine. Small boys and big girls have it harder than than the other way around

Because of people like you.