MIL obsessed with our kids size

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

This. Would OP have married her husband if he was 5’5? Be real.

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’2”. I gave birth to several sons 6’1” and up, one daughter 5’11”, and one son still growing projected to be 5’8”. Genetics are wild. They are all gorgeous and anyone who criticizes their appearance can kick rocks.

[Anonymous]

If she is saying it in front of them, you need to stop that right away. Tell her if she wants to continue to see the kids, she will stop talking about how they look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

Are you inferring that OP is different race than the DH? Sounds like there’s more to the MIL’s comments.

[Anonymous]

My ex and his mom made light of my having larger breasts than her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

This is actually an insane thing to admit even in an anonymous forum. THAT is your biggest fear? My biggest fear is that my children will have cancer, or some other deadly disease; or otherwise not make it to a happy, fulfilled adulthood. You people need to really think about your priorities in life and your values.

Why the fake outrage? The only reason 5' women marry these tall guys is to improve THEIR own genetic stock because being tall is desirable! Otherwise the OP could have married a 5'5" guy and could have avoided all such MIL comments about kids' height, as everybody would be "petite".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How big are your male relatives, OP? The only thing you can say to MIL is that your son looks like your side of the family. MIL is not "obsessed", obviously a petite female and a large male have it easier. That's how you and your DH got together. Imagine a 5'1" male and a 6'5" female? Your MIL understands genetics. One of the biggest fears as a mom for me is if my tall sons (just like your DH) end up with 5' women.

Are you inferring that OP is different race than the DH? Sounds like there’s more to the MIL’s comments.

Could be? An 5'1" adult woman weighing only 100 lbs is certainly more common in Asia. 100 lbs for this height is bordering on underweight in the US.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

There’s nothing to examine. Small boys and big girls have it harder than than the other way around

Unfortunately, this belief is routine on dcurbanmoms. All the angst ridden posts from parents trying to predict how tall their boy will end up being.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

There’s nothing to examine. Small boys and big girls have it harder than than the other way around

Unfortunately, this belief is routine on dcurbanmoms. All the angst ridden posts from parents trying to predict how tall their boy will end up being.

It's not about a "belief". Tall people are more successful, have easier life, and there are plenty of studies about it!

[Anonymous]

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20150928-tall-vs-small-which-is-it-better-to-be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex and his mom made light of my having larger breasts than her.

Talking about his mother’s breasts? No wonder he’s an ex.

[Anonymous]

“Sharon, it’s 2026, we aren’t saying sexist things like that anymore”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a petite woman. 5’1”. 100 pounds. DH is large. Athletic, brawny build. 6’5” and over 250. His mom is average size and his dad and brother are also huge men.

We have two kids. DD is almost 3 and looks just like DH. Same exact face and build. She’s wearing 5/6T and looks about 4-5 years old. She’s not thin at a fine weight according to her pediatrician. Very active, good diet.

DS is one and is tiny. 6-9 month closing. Just super petite. He looks a lot like me.

He does have some eating issues but nothing too extreme.

This bothers my MIL to know end. She doesn’t understand genetics is gamble and seems like it’s my personal wrongdoing that we have a petite son and above average daughter.

“Boys are suppose to be the big ones.”

She will not shut up about it. She seems so disappointed my daughter is big but specifically that my son is “puny”.

I cat take it anymore.

Ignore it or just politely communicate your feelings to her. If you don't want to then ask your husband to take care of it. This isn't something to lose your sleep over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

Please. Obviously people come in all shapes and sizes and you love the kid you have.

But anyone who says they’re hoping for their daughter to be 6’5” and for their son to be 5’5” is a liar. Get real.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be disappointed too but who says anything like that?!

NP- you should examine why you would be disappointed. People come in all shapes and sizes.

There’s nothing to examine. Small boys and big girls have it harder than than the other way around

Because of people like you.

I’ve actually dated small men so no.

Well, the OP only has to look in the mirror to understand why this is harder. She’s the petite woman who is attracted to a big man.