Does it bother you to see families super underdressed at church?

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were little I dressed them up for church. When they started dressing themselves they rebelled. I decided it wasn't a battle worth having. I dress nicely, my husband dresses nicely. My teens actually do dress with care- just not in the clothes that I would necessarily consider 'church attire.' If you have an issue with how my family is dressed at church, please bring it up with me directly, not on DCUM. The only 'ask' i have is that you have this discussion with me in front of one of the pastors at church- they need to know how you feel.

WHY do the pastors need to know how OP feels? Because you want to out OP??

The pastors are just glad that anyone's showing up at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I just feel sorry for them.

That’s so sweet of you. Why?

Because they don’t know any better, and everyone is judging them. They kids don’t know why everyone is staring at them.

People don’t stare or judge at my church. Is being so judgmental standard at your church? I feel sorry for you because you are so far from G*d.

DOn't feel sorry for OP. I feel sorry for you, because you're criticizing OP needlessly. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that you're one of the slobs they're talking about

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Anonymous wrote:I know I sound both old and old fashioned but I love seeing clean cut families put effort into their appearance. Boys in chinos and a tucked in shirt, dad in a blazer or suit (or at least a collared shirt under a nice sweater), mom and gals in dresses. Everyone's hair styled nicely. It displays such an appreciation and respect for the church and the service. We'll probably never return to that but semi-casual is still nice to see. However, the hooded sweatshirts, baggy fleece pants... untucked shirts... kids wearing t-shirts under a jacket... sporty sneakers... I hate it. Often parents are dressed nice but the kids look like they just rolled out of bed. It's not a wealth thing, it's a caring thing.

I don't care how they show up. As long as they are there!!!

Right -- most people don't go to church at all these days.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never understood dressing up for any religious house of worship.

Why would any God even care? Cleanliness, I understand. But specific or dressy clothes? That's for humans, not any God..

I felt the same way about mosques, growing up Muslim - why do women need to cover their hair when praying or going to a mosque? Why on earth would God care at all?

It's all performative. I know that all religion is basically performative, but it's wild to me how people care about these things.

I think it goes hand and hand. You're setting the tone that this is something to take seriously and worthy of respect. It's once a week for an hour or two. Why is it so hard for people to demonstrate some level CARE?

Disagree. Cleanliness has a "purification" element that I get with regards to religion. Clothes are just exterior. A facade. Only people care about facades.

In my experience, not just in attending church, but also as a retired public school administrator, cleanliness and hygiene are correlated to tidy clothing. They go hand in hand. It doesn't cost any extra HHI for you and your kids to comb their hair, for your husband to wake up 10 minutes earlier to have a clean shave, for the boys to wear a collared shirt and tuck it in, for the girls to wear a dress and brush their hair. Why would kids take church and religion seriously if their parents clearly don't?

YOU connect taking church and religion seriously with getting dressed up. Most people don't.

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Jesus dressed like a middle eastern man in long robe.

So, if you don't dress like that, then you are insulting Jesus?

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Anonymous wrote:My personal line in the sand is sports jerseys. Come on. It takes no additional effort to put on a decent sweater instead.

The dads who let their kids dress like slobs at church probably put 10x the effort into what they wear to some Washington Redskins football game.

You are really not one to be judging any other human being. I wonder if the fancy churchgoers understand why this is the case?

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Anonymous wrote:My personal line in the sand is sports jerseys. Come on. It takes no additional effort to put on a decent sweater instead.

The dads who let their kids dress like slobs at church probably put 10x the effort into what they wear to some Washington Redskins football game.

You are really not one to be judging any other human being. I wonder if the fancy churchgoers understand why this is the case?

WOW -- so many of you are really coming down hard on OP. Very judgmental of you to be judging OP so hard. I bet OP is old enough to remember when people dressed up for just about everything.

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Anonymous wrote:My personal line in the sand is sports jerseys. Come on. It takes no additional effort to put on a decent sweater instead.

The dads who let their kids dress like slobs at church probably put 10x the effort into what they wear to some Washington Redskins football game.

You are really not one to be judging any other human being. I wonder if the fancy churchgoers understand why this is the case?

WOW -- so many of you are really coming down hard on OP. Very judgmental of you to be judging OP so hard. I bet OP is old enough to remember when people dressed up for just about everything.

That’s nice. Clothing used to be a lot more expensive, so if you were going to invest in clothes, it was usually going to be nicer clothes that could be worn in multiple contexts.

Read up on the history of the clothing industry.

A shift occurred around the late 60s/70s, when the clothing industry was able to charge much less. But it took some time for that to really take hold across the country.

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African Americans always dress nicely for church.

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Anonymous wrote:My personal line in the sand is sports jerseys. Come on. It takes no additional effort to put on a decent sweater instead.

The dads who let their kids dress like slobs at church probably put 10x the effort into what they wear to some Washington Redskins football game.

You are really not one to be judging any other human being. I wonder if the fancy churchgoers understand why this is the case?

WOW -- so many of you are really coming down hard on OP. Very judgmental of you to be judging OP so hard. I bet OP is old enough to remember when people dressed up for just about everything.

So people are being too judgmental by calling OP too judgemental?

It's a judgemental mobius strip.

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Is this what OP means?

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So you are there for social reasons in part, and others aren't.

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As long as people aren't barefoot in swimwear, I don't care.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this what OP means?

No. Miniskirts and open toe shoes is way too lewd for church. This is a classless family photo tbh

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I just feel sorry for them.

That’s so sweet of you. Why?

Because they don’t know any better, and everyone is judging them. They kids don’t know why everyone is staring at them.

People don’t stare or judge at my church. Is being so judgmental standard at your church? I feel sorry for you because you are so far from G*d.

DOn't feel sorry for OP. I feel sorry for you, because you're criticizing OP needlessly. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that you're one of the slobs they're talking about

Is the feel sorry for them PP the same as OP?