Does it bother you to see families super underdressed at church?
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Anonymous
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And mommy the adulterer is wearing stiletto stripper pumps.
The boys are dressed nicely though. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
Because Black church norms are different- historically and even now. There are also differences among denominations which is why I asked for clarification. |
Anonymous
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Two things can be true at once:
An dressy outfit can help someone look more put-together and respectful. A casual outfit can help someone feel more comfortable and authentic. Luckily, there's probably a church that meets your vision of what a congregation should look like, if that's your priority. |
Anonymous
| If you won’t put a bit of effort into your appearance for God, it speaks volumes. |
Anonymous
Yep. Western civ was nice while it lasted. Now everyone looks like sh!t. Not just church: air travel, public transit, buying groceries. |
Anonymous
Yeah, the general sentiment seems to be that it’s OK for black churches to uphold high standards for attire for Sunday services but when presumably white ladies like OP (is she?) do it, then they are judgmental Karen’s. |
Anonymous
I think the meanest people on this forum, who are also the most prolific commenters, are just miserable and lonely non-Christian trolls. There's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying sharing a space when everyone is well groomed and dressed nicely. Every place of worship used to be that way every weekend. |
Anonymous
You atheist and bigoted trolls can't help but expose yourself. Our Catholic church is full, literally standing room only at peak times. |
Anonymous
| It's not really my place to have an opinion on this. It's not my house. |
Anonymous
If it doesn't bother God, it shouldn't bother anyone else. Your sense of dressing and your spirituality have nothing to do with each other. Most parents are overwhelmed with life, if they show up to your church, mosque or temple, make them feel at home. |
Anonymous
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I agree.
It also bothers me that we have stopped distinguishing between school clothes and play clothes. |
Anonymous
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Like a PP, I remember my little sister getting into epic fights with my parents over church dresses and it just doesn’t seem worth it.
We are a newer church going family (I returned to the church after many years) and decided that I want my kids to have fond memories of getting ready - going to - and leaving church, in addition to enjoying the Mass when there. So, we ask them to dress themselves and as long as they aren’t in a costume or PJs, let it ride. We try and dress up for holidays because it is fun and more festive than normal. My DH is often the nicest dressed on random Sundays - he grew up in a “dress up” family and I keep telling him to just wear jeans and a sweater like everyone else but he can’t do it, even though he is way more comfortable in his casual clothes. He still talks about the time he FINALLY wore something more casual and I forgot to tell him it was confirmation weekend and the archbishop would be there… needless to say everyone else dressed up for that one lol. |
Anonymous
I was going to write that clothing is the least of western civ's problems right now ... but actually, this idea that other people are scenery in your life, such that you get annoyed when the scenery is not pleasing to you, is pretty central to what's wrong. |
Anonymous
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Focus on what's in someone's heart, not what's on their bodies. Being kind should have more value than being well dressed.
If you only see their exterior, go to Opera, why bother with a place where people are trying to follow Jesus? |