Is silence the answer here? What would you say?

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Anonymous wrote:Been there. Do NOT respond. This person is manipulative and has no respect for you. S/he will likely demonize you if you answer with anything except "Sure, I'm done being stupid! Let's be besties!" Don't engage. Don't respond. Keep your eyes forward.

+1

It’s called hoovering

Hoovering if OP agrees to "forget about it" and pretend everything is fine. If OP says "no, I'm hurt and you aren't respecting my feelings" then it's DARVO all the way.

Good lord... NO, it's not either of those things. Lose the therapyspeak and learn how to have a simple conflict with a so-called friend without elevating it to abuse and the corresponding language.

Some of you need drama to function and it's gross.

You don't actually need therapy speak to think it's bad to refuse to make amends to a friend who is hurt by something you did, and then reaches out later and is like "are you over this yet? I miss you." I might describe it as weird and entitled. The fact that someone else uses a therapy term doesn't suddenly make that good behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d respond “let what go”

If they cant explain what “it” is then I’d say I can’t until you can understand “it”.

I love this!

+1. I was in this situation once and was instructed to "get over it" and I have long wished I had simply asked "Get over what, specifically?" Because if there is something to get over, why isn't there something to apologize for?

I love this last statement - I'm always doubting what I feel - this is so helpful.

You and me both. This thread is pretty validating.

Sorry, but I disagree. Just because someone isn’t over something does not mean there is something to apologize for. I think it’s rude to tell someone else “get over it” but I also know many people who hold onto grudges over small things or even no things. Or things they haven’t explained. Or misunderstandings.

This. Apologizing for what you did is one thing, but apologizing for someone's feelings is nonsense.

This really does depend on the "offense". If you didn't like what someone wore to a party, nobody owes you an apology. If you didn't like that they slept with "your" man at the party, they very much do.

Expecting an apology just because you're offended is immature. You get to feel how you feel, and your feelings are your responsibility. Nobody owes you an apology for how you feel, only for what they did/failed to do that led to those feelings, if applicable.

OP is trolling, hard, as one-sided posts like this are always designed to elicit support for the OP. Absent the actual facts, it's impossible to determine if OP is worth supporting. OP may be overreacting, or petty, or perfectly justified. The open nature of this post doesn't ask for actual feedback, just side-taking and bait.

OP literally asked a specific question though, about whether to respond or continue distancing/ignoring. And most people have been able to answer without taking some "bait"? It seems straightforward.

I think it's odd to assume OP is trying to manipulate you here.