Pregnant mom of four, not liking my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

Congrats. Honestly If you’re young and rich, why not have babies.

Are you having a boy or girl, or not sure yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

Congrats. Honestly If you’re young and rich, why not have babies.

Are you having a boy or girl, or not sure yet?

Thank you. We’re having a girl 🩷

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

Op, you aren't "done" until one of you goes through menopause, gets a sterilizing procedure, or is immaculate in using birth control.

You have a DH you apparently now don't like with whom you are having 5 kids. He will probably keep on knocking you up to keep you around and waiting on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

Congrats. Honestly If you’re young and rich, why not have babies.

Maybe don't have babies if you partner doesn't want to be a parent?

This may explain why so many posts here are complaining about deadbeat parents who don't want to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

Congrats. Honestly If you’re young and rich, why not have babies.

Maybe don't have babies if you partner doesn't want to be a parent?

This may explain why so many posts here are complaining about deadbeat parents who don't want to parent.

+1
Young Rich and checked out & uninterested.
He’s hiding behind all this kids

[Anonymous]

I know you said you have help, but do you spend time away from the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

Op, you aren't "done" until one of you goes through menopause, gets a sterilizing procedure, or is immaculate in using birth control.

You have a DH you apparently now don't like with whom you are having 5 kids. He will probably keep on knocking you up to keep you around and waiting on him.

I’d think Id like him more if he handled more of his things himself, but how do I get him to do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you said you have help, but do you spend time away from the kids?

Yes, but it’s rare. I did celebrate my moms 55th birthday overseas just a couple months ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

DP

We don't do family planning on DCUM. We have children first, then we hope that the father is suitable.

Lol that is so true.

[Anonymous]

This has got to be a troll. No one is this dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be a troll. No one is this dumb.

Agreed. Four kids and they haven't figured out birth control???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been together for 15 years and have four kids (11, 9, 7, and 3) and I’m currently pregnant with a surprise fifth. I still work full time and life is busy and exhausting.

Over the years he’s become really hard to be around — almost like another child. I manage his life on top of everything else, and it’s wearing me down. Deep down I still believe he’s my soulmate, which makes the disconnect confusing and painful.

My kids give me a distraction and keep me going. I’ve talk my mom, she’s the only person I have, but I don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone else, and I don’t really have friends, so I just needed somewhere anonymous to vent.

OMG shut up.

You had 4 kids with a POS and now you couldn't use BC properly so you are bringing another kid into the world right now when it is literally a horrible place for children.

Screw you selfish POS.

[Anonymous]

Guys this is obviously a troll

[Anonymous]

Wow, you started having kids that young and money isn’t an issue? It sounds like at the very least he’s a high earner.

Look, communication is key. You haven’t really mentioned if you’ve even tried to talk with him about how you are feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

All of his responsibilities. His appointments, work, family, friends, his meal planning and making meals x3 a day just for him, his clothing, his self care, everything.

Yeah I read the above and decided you’re either a troll or a complete doormat. No way this is true. You work full time with all these kids and also mother your husband? Good grief, what do you mean you manage his self care? I thought you said you have no friends but you manage his? Even kids need to start doing things for themselves much less a manchild. Are you some sort of mail order bride slave? No, you’re a troll.