Pregnant mom of four, not liking my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

DP

We don't do family planning on DCUM. We have children first, then we hope that the father is suitable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

That’s great you have help. I have none and I feel like this time of driving, laundry, appointments, cleaning never mind raising kids is giving me the experience / empathy to be a helper to moms when I’m older. I’ll just show up , do laundry, mop the floors and leave.

[Anonymous]

Just assume it's pregnancy hormones. If you're even a real person. How does a mom of four accidentally have a fifth??? Do you still not know how this works?

[Anonymous]

Drop the rope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drop the rope

As if she's rescuing him. He's already dropped the rope and learned not be codependent.

He doesn't like you either, bottom line. Be more likeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

All of his responsibilities. His appointments, work, family, friends, his meal planning and making meals x3 a day just for him, his clothing, his self care, everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

[Anonymous]

Stop managing his life. Let him fail. Are you planning to coddle your kids forever too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

All of his responsibilities. His appointments, work, family, friends, his meal planning and making meals x3 a day just for him, his clothing, his self care, everything.

Is this serious? Is this the OP?

Stop doing these things. This is insane. If you have so much money, hire him a personal assistant who can take care of ordering him a meal service.

How on earth do people get themselves in these situations. I don't get it. PLEASE do not demonstrate for your children this is how married couples function.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

All of his responsibilities. His appointments, work, family, friends, his meal planning and making meals x3 a day just for him, his clothing, his self care, everything.

Wait. You make your husband meals 3x a day that are separate from what the rest of the family is eating?

WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

[Anonymous]

You’re not his mother. Stop doing all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you were indeed done after FOUR kids why wouldn’t you get a tubal or a vasectomy?

We are our 30s, still young and healthy, did not feel the need to have medical procedures that drastic to prevent kids. With the fifth, it was just an impulsive decision, didn’t think, and it happened.

Then quit whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. thanks a lot for the kind words, encouragement.

We were done and four kids was our goal, but we did slip up. We have all the household help, money, or whatever else, so that isn’t the issue, I’m just annoying by him and his lack of ability to help himself, or I don’t know maybe it is pregnancy hormones.

If you have all this help what exactly is it that he's supposed to be doing but isn't?

All of his responsibilities. His appointments, work, family, friends, his meal planning and making meals x3 a day just for him, his clothing, his self care, everything.

Is this serious? Is this the OP?

Stop doing these things. This is insane. If you have so much money, hire him a personal assistant who can take care of ordering him a meal service.

How on earth do people get themselves in these situations. I don't get it. PLEASE do not demonstrate for your children this is how married couples function.

He doesn’t want meal service.
I starting doing all this because I loved and cared about him, but it’s gotten too much as he decides to hold less and less responsibility, I guess I should just deal with it and do this for him, because we have people who cook/clean for the family.