Pregnant mom of four, not liking my husband

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together for 15 years and have four kids (11, 9, 7, and 3) and I’m currently pregnant with a surprise fifth. I still work full time and life is busy and exhausting.

Over the years he’s become really hard to be around — almost like another child. I manage his life on top of everything else, and it’s wearing me down. Deep down I still believe he’s my soulmate, which makes the disconnect confusing and painful.

My kids give me a distraction and keep me going. I’ve talk my mom, she’s the only person I have, but I don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone else, and I don’t really have friends, so I just needed somewhere anonymous to vent.

[Anonymous]

What’s your question OP? What kind of comments are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

Talk to your husband about him doing more, especially since you will be having another baby. He needs to step up and you need to preserve your sanity.

[Anonymous]

Hang in there, it’s rough

[Anonymous]

How was it a surprise?

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy is rough and feelings are amplified. This is a phase and will pass! I’d kindly encourage you to reconnect with friends - I suspect some frustration is from expecting your husband to fill some emotional needs that are really best met by girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pregnancy is rough and feelings are amplified. This is a phase and will pass! I’d kindly encourage you to reconnect with friends - I suspect some frustration is from expecting your husband to fill some emotional needs that are really best met by girlfriends.

+1

[Anonymous]

Ok...I mean unless he's uber wealthy you don't have much of a choice. With 5 kids there is no way you can make that work as a single Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your question OP? What kind of comments are you looking for?

Just looking for reassurance. I would never leave him, don’t think I could be alone.

[Anonymous]

You are in a tough position. I have 3 kids with someone I love. Having 5 kids is a terrible idea, in any situation. You and your DH have messed up in this department.

If you had 1 or 2 kids, to the extent you have real marital problems, I'd say divorce. But 5? You're screwed whatever you do.


Do not have a 6th.

[Anonymous]

It’s the price for having so many kids. Hang in there. Once they grow up it will be just one grumpy old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pregnancy is rough and feelings are amplified. This is a phase and will pass! I’d kindly encourage you to reconnect with friends - I suspect some frustration is from expecting your husband to fill some emotional needs that are really best met by girlfriends.

You also need to have married friends in particular so you can see that everyone's husbands are mostly mediocre and unpleasant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How was it a surprise?

Maybe she thought contempt was a form of birth control. Like her body would shut that whole thing down, or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are in a tough position. I have 3 kids with someone I love. Having 5 kids is a terrible idea, in any situation. You and your DH have messed up in this department.

If you had 1 or 2 kids, to the extent you have real marital problems, I'd say divorce. But 5? You're screwed whatever you do.


Do not have a 6th.

All of this.

[Anonymous]

Would your husband be willing to go w/you to a marriage counselor OP?

You sound like perfect candidates for therapy.