What is this behavior pattern?

[Anonymous]

lying, gaslighting not taking accountability because of pride.

I've DH deny they burnt toast as they were using a knife to shed the black stuff off their toast.

This happens in every aspect of our marriage and I'm done. It's crazy making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse made the blue apron meal kit tonight, cool!

We grab a plate, and it’s totally black and burned bread crumbs on the top. We look at him like what’s up, the 12 yo says it’s burned, we all take a bite and the black bread crumbs topping on the chicken tastes horrible like charcoal. I go grab a plate to scrap the black parts off and do so. I asked how it got burned in the frying pan or oven so don’t do that again.

He says it’s fine. He set a timer and didn’t check. He followed the instructions. And that it’s not burned.

Everyone looks at him likes he’s insane but we don’t want him to temper tantrum so we eat what’s left in bewilderment.

I hate how he roles models this lying and excuses in front of his own kids. I guess I’m sad. For them and me, and their future.

So how’s your marriage otherwise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he gaslights (in the truest sense of the word) and you all walk on eggshells? I feel bad for your kids.

Is this how he gets sex too?

Unattractive and undesirable bully. And you, OP, are training your kids to be doormats. Just awful.

She's actually probably training them to be bullies because they'll see their dad "winning" in these cases.

It’s a f’d up family dynamic for sure.

Accident-prone male, mistakes on the regular, no learning or feedback loop, cannot talk about it, lies and has a temper tantrum. Females are to smile, say nothing, fix the setbacks, praise the inattentive male. Lol.

Pretty much!