Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fear is that he is a hobosexual. He is never going to leave. Partner kicked him out and your place is now his.

+1

[Anonymous]

He’s gonna knock the dust off that p…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No childhood friend would excite me. Not even my first boyfriend who is single now and would make a great friend.
Wait til he shows up, has changed, is nothing like you imagined, and has Ed.

Op has apparently been dreaming about this for a while. She probably bought new lingerie and sheets in the hope of a hook up.

[Anonymous]

Ew, op.

Is your self esteem this low for everything or just with men?

[Anonymous]

Why do women always need to comment on their body? Why is it relevant to the discussion that you are overweight? Fat men don't go around screaming they are fat.

Cut that insecurity please. Walk outside. You will see countless couples where the wife is fat and the husband is fit or vice versa.

Your appearance is in your head. You are drawing conclusions that are not even real.

[Anonymous]

I would never do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fear is that he is a hobosexual. He is never going to leave. Partner kicked him out and your place is now his.

+1

+2. He has a grown kid now, my bet is on wife kicked him out after the kid left the house. He knows OP still has a thing for him and is trying to use that to his advantage. By day three he’ll pull the “you were always the one, my wife never understood me” BS.

[Anonymous]

When a woman wants to sleep with a guy and he is married somehow the good person in her suddenly disappear. It's very strange. She will engage in all kind of mental gymnastics to justify sleeping with him.

I honestly find it fascinating how much emotion drive everything women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

What kind of person are you to even think that it's okay to sleep with a married man? Yes, I realize it's on his watch too but that makes you a damn mistress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

You don’t want to acknowledge that he’s off limits. But you should hear it: he’s married, so you should neither come on to him nor reciprocate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What self respecting late 40 year old sleeps on a couch? Be a grown up and sleep in a hotel with a bed.

All of this.
The answer is no… a married man can’t come crash at my place and
No you two shouldn’t sleep w each. Afterall, he’s married.

[Anonymous]

No he won’t try, and if he does you won’t take him up on it because you have self respect and integrity.

And girl, I bet you’re better looking than you think! Stop telling yourself that being a little overweight is automatically terrible. I am and I can tell you that my dh can’t keep his hands off me.

[Anonymous]

Girl, I’m not really sure what you are looking for.

You are obviously excited at the thought of sleeping with him, but when multiple people pointed out he’s married and this is a bad situation, you say “well it’s normal in my culture to stay with friends!”

Obviously it’s not THAT normal and common to have friends stay over if you’re giddy over hooking up with this guy.

Not sure why you’re so excited about a man who judges women on their beauty and sleeps over at other women’s houses while married. This guy is a loser, whether it’s culture or not. Not worth your time or mental energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he a loser? What 40-year old man asks to crash on his friend's couch? Is his wife ok with this?

See above, it’s a figure of speech. Of course he’ll have a bedroom

No, the idea is any decent adult will get a hotel. Even if he wants some strange, he should invite you to the hotel lobby for drinks and take it from there. Show some class (well as much as a cheater can muster).

[Anonymous]

Ugh, no, OP.

You state it is the cultural norm to stay with friends/family/acquaintances when traveling. He is doing that.

You are gross for thinking it will be anything more than that when he is married, and should have said no to hosting if that was at all on your radar.

But also, you need to work on your body image struggles. The reason he isn’t going to hit on you isn’t because you are overweight. It’s not like if you were thinner he’d be all over you.