Childhood friend will stay with me for a week. What do you think will happen?

[Anonymous]

So thrilled I married an awkward engineer. No former flings. 🤮 (Yea, I’m sure. DH took over a month to warm up to that first kiss.)

OP, you haven’t confirmed that you’ll say no. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

The only thing that matters- He is married!

Do not have sex with him or any physical contact

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

This sounds like a troll reciting a romance novel set up.

[Anonymous]

He’s married. Either tell him to stay home with his partner or you are a pig.

[Anonymous]

No childhood friend would excite me. Not even my first boyfriend who is single now and would make a great friend.
Wait til he shows up, has changed, is nothing like you imagined, and has Ed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay so my question wasn’t whether to say yes or no.
My question is - will he make the move?
Honestly I don’t think so but I am curious
-OP

Do you WANT him to make love to you in your apartment?

[Anonymous]

Why are you hoping to get lucky with a married man? Are you that desperate?

[Anonymous]

Look is very important in your culture. You are overweight and not good looking. There is no way he will try to sleep with you.

[Anonymous]

My fear is that he is a hobosexual. He is never going to leave. Partner kicked him out and your place is now his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

You sound like you want to be his sloppy seconds.

Sloppy seconds to a guy who won't pay for a hotel in his late 40s.

Ew, op, have some self respect.

They both sound like losers. There is a reason OP is hoping to sleep with a married man. She has no other options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

What do you think and what do you want? Is this a desire for you? What is in your best interest? How might it impact your friendship if this happens?

You are more important than what strangers on here think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real question you haven’t answered is - if he does hit on you, will you hook up with him? What would you do?

She answered that at 00:25

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No childhood friend would excite me. Not even my first boyfriend who is single now and would make a great friend.
Wait til he shows up, has changed, is nothing like you imagined, and has Ed.

Same. All my exes are blocked except the one who has herpes. I’ll never hook up with him but he was a great dude and still a great friend.

[Anonymous]

Wtf is wrong with you??
You want to sleep with a married women’s husband due to insecurity and low self esteem and believe that’s an accomplishment?
Have some self respect please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Won’t his work pay for or give him the ability to afford a hotel?

Does he have kids?

Did you go to the wedding?

No I didn't go to the wedding and we aren’t that close at all. He has an adult child.
I don’t know his financial situation and I don’t really care, but staying with a friend is normal for us.

Is sounding immature and annoying normal for all of you too?