FA - real life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Why? You would have gotten FA.

We applied and did not get any. And no tuition remission.

Then clearly your HHI or assets are quite high.

[Anonymous]

This is a clear example of waste in FA funding.

[Anonymous]

As someone whose parents scrimped and saved to send me to private school, it's not worth it OP. And it can give your kids a case of affluenza plus make them feel excluded at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone whose parents scrimped and saved to send me to private school, it's not worth it OP. And it can give your kids a case of affluenza plus make them feel excluded at the same time.

Not OP but thank you for this perspective! I’m so torn, because I’m very concerned about how screens in public schools will impact the kids in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Are you receiving any other forms of financial assistance / charity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As someone whose parents scrimped and saved to send me to private school, it's not worth it OP. And it can give your kids a case of affluenza plus make them feel excluded at the same time.

Not OP but thank you for this perspective! I’m so torn, because I’m very concerned about how screens in public schools will impact the kids in the long run.

Privates use just as many screens. If you are worried, homeschool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Why? You would have gotten FA.

Our school gives a big tuition remission to teachers

Except that only works with high earning spouses as many make $60-90K a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think 300k with middle class and up parents is one thing, but a dual income 300k HHI family who climbed their way up from the working class is just in a different boat, too. I’d be mad at the people getting an inheritance later, not mad at the family who has to financially support their parents in old age or who themselves attended shitty public schools and made every sacrifice to land a job making 150k.

You are not middle class at $300K.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As someone whose parents scrimped and saved to send me to private school, it's not worth it OP. And it can give your kids a case of affluenza plus make them feel excluded at the same time.

Not OP but thank you for this perspective! I’m so torn, because I’m very concerned about how screens in public schools will impact the kids in the long run.

Privates use just as many screens. If you are worried, homeschool.

Some do not. Waldorf, for example.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

If you have that kind of wealth to fully save for college and retirement you should not get aid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think 300k with middle class and up parents is one thing, but a dual income 300k HHI family who climbed their way up from the working class is just in a different boat, too. I’d be mad at the people getting an inheritance later, not mad at the family who has to financially support their parents in old age or who themselves attended shitty public schools and made every sacrifice to land a job making 150k.

You are not middle class at $300K.

It’s 85th percentile in DC proper. Likely lower when considering the suburbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think 300k with middle class and up parents is one thing, but a dual income 300k HHI family who climbed their way up from the working class is just in a different boat, too. I’d be mad at the people getting an inheritance later, not mad at the family who has to financially support their parents in old age or who themselves attended shitty public schools and made every sacrifice to land a job making 150k.

You are not middle class at $300K.

It’s 85th percentile in DC proper. Likely lower when considering the suburbs.

I posted the original comment. I meant a 300k HHI family where the parents’ parents come from working class backgrounds are a different type of family than one where kid’s grandparents are doctors and investment bankers, etc. Feel free to disagree and none of this is reflected in financial aid forms but I think these are different types of people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

If you have that kind of wealth to fully save for college and retirement you should not get aid.

+1 OP should really be ashamed. What a disgrace.

[Anonymous]

Why should you be able to put money into a college fund and take a vacation every year when full pay families making slightly more than you do can’t even afford a cheap summer vacation and don’t have a college fund?

People are annoyed because you come off as so entitled. You have your hand out but somehow don’t think you are getting any charity.

Why should other families fund your decision to have three children? If you had one child you could be full pay.